so my friends dared me to join an online dating site- so I did.

Firstly, it's really quite overwhelming. I did allow them to choose some people for me to talk with and I kept a few conversations going for awhile.

I know that dating sites are generally not too great of an idea, haha but after awhile it really got to be a bit much. It sounds odd but talking with these people (even online) made me really uncomfortable. For starters, i didn't feel real. Not even over text, it all…

So I have been thinking about how to live with MDD, instead of trying to get rid of it.  This has really eased up a lot of the stress I have over this particular part of my life.  So, here is what I have come up with so far.  1. My relationship with God comes first.  I don't want my daydreaming to run my life instead of God.  2. Real people come before imaginary people.  I don't want to lose my grip on the relationships I have in real life.  3. Make sure my responsibilities are taken care…

Here's the story of David, one of my daydream characters.  He was Becca's first boyfriend.  

http://www.scribd.com/doc/74946774/David

Have you ever felt you were born in the wrong time? Seem to relate more to movies or stories from a certain time period. Or is it just feeling you don't quite fit, regardless of why. I have always felt that way. Like you are playing a part while you wait to go back to real life but you are stuck in the play.

My goal in dealing with daydreaming has always been eradication.  Quite frankly, though, nothing has worked.  Anything I have done to try and stop this has failed miserably.  The brief periods where I have put the daydreaming off, did not make it go away.  In fact, that usually makes it come back even stronger and makes me hypersensitive to my main triggers and other things that aren't normally triggers, set it off.  So, after doing some reading about this whole situation, I have been…

I've spent a lot of time in my life around people were kind of...emotionally volatile and very dramatic. One of these people, a former roommate of mine, was extremely insecure and very socially awkward. He was moody, kind of catty, and he got rejected by people so often, he started to reject people before they even had a chance to reject him. He was often very suicidal.

(But I wouldn't be surprised if he also had a very rich fantasy life.)

But, through living with him, I also…

So I joined this site about a year ago when I first came across the idea of Maladaptive Daydreaming and got the feeling that that was what was going on with me. I promptly forgot about it as life got busy again, but over the course of this year it’s become more and more clear to me that, while I don't know if I have MD or not, my daydreaming habits aren't like other people's and are one of the major factors in the (particularly) academic stresses I've been having recently.

I'm guess…

First of all, I have been hearing about other peoples' triggers and been thinking about mine.  I know T.V. and movies are big ones.  Words are a big one too.  I love words, the way they look and the way they feel in my mouth when I say them.  It is like rollling some delicious morsel around on my tongue.  In junior high, I started a very elaborate daydream based on the words, "cool, smooth doorknob."  It persists to this day and grows and changes.  I am an older woman and did not grow up…

Hi, I am new here,  Forgive me if this sounds disjointed, because even though I have been daydreaming for over thirty years, I have only been talking about it as an issue for a few years.  I was so happy to find this website.  Several years ago, I realized the biggest challenge I had every day was daydreaming.  I tried to find information, but couldn't.  Every now and again I would check and finally came across this website. 

I have been daydreaming since I was twelve years old.  I…

I've seen interesting reactions to the self-diagnosis of Maladaptive Daydreaming.

Not that you need to be a doctor to  figure it out, more or less our lives are usually not THAT crappy

and we turn to an inner world because it's at the very least, slightly better. Why wouldn't it be? 

"Imagination rules the world." 

Mr. Lyda mentioned it being like a constantly widening river of information, but the river is completely imaginary. Real to us, because it's part of…

Things are getting stressful at work, so I've been indulging in various ongoing fantasies lately, which isn't really helping me get things at work done any faster. 

And of course, some of them have revolved around him, too. (Though not exclusively)

Though my brain my must have taken a strange left turn somewhere, because he's suddenly figuring quite prominently in my regular, nighttime dreams. Up until recently, I had maybe...three dreams about him, total, over a three…

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i feel like i mention this in all of my blog posts, but when i first started daydreaming, i had a different "daydream story" that i do now. it had different characters, a different plot... you know. but then, i grew out of that and stopped daydreaming for a few months. then, it started all over again with new characters and  a new plot, and this time, it came with pacing. but that's not the point of this blog post.

i've had my current characters since i was 12. now i'm 14, which means…

So I was just wondering what everyone's profession is here. For the most part it seems that many of us shy away from social situations, yet an unfortunate number of jobs require human-human interaction. So have you found a job that allows for solitude, or managed to push through the anxiety while in the workplace?

For me I currently work in a coffeeshop. Considering that even answering a question in the classroom makes me shake worse than an earthquake, I'm not really sure…

Hey Wild Minds,

I want to tell you that,

My Daydreams are destroying every area of my life. Slowly, but it's happening.

Trying to refrain from daydreaming completely, as I have been trying religiously to do for the past 4 days, is like trying to win a boxing match with a chloroform soaked rag tied around your face. Constantly struggling to rub your eyes…

Hey gang,

Sorry for the randomness of this post. So as we know, many disorders can overlap. Someone mentioned on here (i don't remember whom) that they were disagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. It peeked my interest and I started looking it up. I know that self-diagnosis is never a good idea, but many of the things described really hit eerily home for me, and I've noticed a lot of the negative type symptoms have been progressively getting worse. So, I'm…

I was with my therapist today. I tell her about something that happened to me on Monday. The situation could have become dangerous and I was not afraid, not even concerned. I just thought if was funny until I saw her reaction. Then I keep thinking about it. Not what happened on Monday but the fact I have no feeling for what happen in the real word.  It is almost like if somebody tells me “you have cancer you are going to dye” or “you just win one million” I could just answer “ho, it sounds…

I heard a dicussion on the radio about how memory is subjective and not set in stone. Memories can change over time. I was wondering if those of us with MD could possibliy repeat the same DD enough that our minds may see it as a memory some where in the future. I know I feel I "remember" my characters from some where but am sure they are just completely made up in my head. Maybe it also ties in with deja vu.

I have to write a short, one=page essay on obsessions. 

I have one idea, but am having trouble fleshing it out. I am obsessed with being indefinable in my image, as in, I alter my style and appearance drastically every other day.  

I'm not sure why. I like to have many different images, and it makes me angry when people try to define me directly, even with unavoidable things.

What are your obsessions, day dreamers? Except daydreaming of course, I didn't think I could fit…

I stopped my medication for a while because it makes me drousy and I needed to be alert at work, boss in from out of state. But the DDs came back so strong I couldn't stop long enought to fall alseep. So back on the med, only woke up 3 times last night but so sleepy this morning. So I take a Xanax to calm the restlessness/anxiety side effect of the Abilify then take a caffine pill to be able to function enough to get to work. God I just want to feel normal again!