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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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I Overdid This

Started by Silver Swan. Last reply by Silver Swan on Saturday. 4 Replies

As a grown adult at 33, I fully understand the truth of my life, compared to my teens. In my youth, I was immature and didn't get out. I was no social butterfly and struggled to maintain a circle of friends. I felt as though I was missing traits,…Continue

About Erataia's Post

Started by Eren Kas. Last reply by Dnivog97 Nov 14. 10 Replies

I have read all of the posts of Erataia. I e-mailed her, messaged her, she tried to help me but I think she kinda bored  of me. She is'nt reponding me now. So I wanted to ask you people. It's been 1 years since I found her post. I readed so many…Continue

Looking through eyes of another

Started by Silver Swan Nov 3. 0 Replies

Doing MDD for years, I didn't quite understand as to why people overreacted on me so strongly, as if I committed a crime. I guess not everyone has the patience to learn and understand how MDD'ers face their life walking in a fantasy realm a few…Continue

Please DON'T do MDD

Started by Jessica Ballantyne Oct 30. 0 Replies

I spent my life facing problems with social interaction. I've always wanted to get close to somebody and have a meaningful relationship with them, but that never happened. I've always repelled people away with my inability to express myself verbally…Continue

I did it i am cured nd u can too!!!

Started by mira. Last reply by Silver Swan Oct 26. 5 Replies

Once u stop ,i never go back.After week without MD,i know ,i don't need time to prove anything,how does it feel? I feel alive,in the moment ,my body is not that perfect,neither my life but i decided to accept them the way they r ,be strong friends…Continue

Sad That It's Not Real

Started by Aj. Last reply by Jessica Ballantyne Oct 16. 2 Replies

Most people say the biggest negative of MD is that it prevents you from living in reality and going after real goals. While I've definitely experienced that to a degree, I think the worst part of MD for me is feeling intense, gut-wrenching despair…Continue

I feel like I am losing my kid to Maladaptive Daydreaming-Need guidance

Started by Martha Bozic. Last reply by Marcy Oct 7. 13 Replies

I have a 12-year-old who is extremely bright and creative, but I am feeling helpless and like I am losing him to the realms of maladaptive daydreaming. He seems to engage in this activity now more than ever and it takes up hours of his day.  He has…Continue

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Uni student who desperately needs help

Started by Andrew Sharp. Last reply by Silver Swan Sep 29. 6 Replies

So bit of backstory. Year 7 I join my secondary school and make a good group of friends who I would hang out with all the time, did drama GCSE and loved doing school productions and was an all round social guy, albight a bit quiet in groups.…Continue

Officially consider myself cured

Started by Ivy White. Last reply by Silver Swan Sep 22. 2 Replies

I used to be very active on this forum a couple of years ago, around 2015-2016 mostly. Back then I really struggled with maladaptive daydreaming, and I recognized so much of myself in this forum. I haven't visited in years, I just received a…Continue

Yes, you can cure Maladaptive Daydreaming

Started by Eretaia. Last reply by mira Sep 21. 171 Replies

Two years ago when I joined this community, I think I was more dead than alive. I've been waging quite a brutal war with maladaptive dreaming and the array of issues that underlie it ever since then and I'm on my way out of this prison. I wanted to…Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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