Wild Minds Network

Where wild minds come to rest

A network of individuals seeking to advance the psychological community through our own personal journeys.

Blog Posts

FIRST POST!! :)

Posted by Ella on November 7, 2017 at 10:43am 5 Comments

Crushes

Posted by Jessica Ballantyne on October 30, 2017 at 8:49am 1 Comment

Inpractical

Posted by Jessica Ballantyne on October 25, 2017 at 2:00pm 0 Comments

A Poem for my Daydream

Posted by Pam on October 20, 2017 at 8:30am 2 Comments

Happ-less Halloween

Posted by Jessica Ballantyne on October 17, 2017 at 10:11am 1 Comment

Feeling so alone

Posted by SamJ on October 16, 2017 at 4:21am 2 Comments

Straight On Question

Posted by Jessica Ballantyne on October 13, 2017 at 7:16am 2 Comments

Has it happened? This went too far?

Posted by Mikachica on October 11, 2017 at 2:30pm 1 Comment

Disney can be deceiving

Posted by Jessica Ballantyne on October 10, 2017 at 7:55pm 0 Comments

Communication and Idealisms

Posted by Jessica Ballantyne on October 2, 2017 at 7:33pm 2 Comments

Members

Latest Activity

MARISHA SINGH liked MARISHA SINGH's profile
1 hour ago
A updated their profile
14 hours ago
Filly replied to Vesta Harford's discussion Constant Mental Noise
"Being aware of the chatter is step one which you are Meditation where you can still your mind even briefly can help You can listen to the chatter but not be a part of it kind of like an observer or third party I’m not a day dreamer but have a…"
yesterday
Filly liked docho's blog post ''knowing the condition makes a difference''
yesterday
Fawn updated their profile
yesterday
Vesta Harford posted a discussion

Constant Mental Noise

Does anyone else have a constant stream of thoughts and daydreams run through their minds from the moment they wake up? I do and it is a curse ruining the quality of my life. I hate it and wish that it would stop. I constantly feel 'empty.' I wish that my mind was calm and free of background noise. If anyone has tips to stop the constant thoughts and daydreams, sharing your tips would be very much appreciated. See More
Friday
Jessica Ballantyne replied to Vesta Harford's discussion Maladaptive Daydreaming = Naivety
"I am in the same situation as you. My family thinks I'm too stupid to understand world politics and the "Real World" itself. I am so very shocked at "Everything" I did not see before. In my youth, I thought I was an unloved…"
Friday
Eli Somer replied to Eli Somer's discussion Ask me Anything about MD
"Sure. It is so much more fun to immerse yourself in uninteresting fantasy than be bored."
Wednesday
Eli Somer replied to Eli Somer's discussion Ask me Anything about MD
"Hi, immersive daydreaming is pathological only if it creates distress and/or impairs functioning in some way (e.g., time needed for other obligations is spent in fantasy). Many MDers told me that they do not want to give this enjoyable ability up.…"
Wednesday
Me Me replied to Eli Somer's discussion Ask me Anything about MD
"Hello, Personally I agree with you. I believe MD is part of who I am and i wouldn't know how I would live without it. It is basically "my friend" when I feel sad or happy. I'm always excited about daydreaming, but it does take…"
Wednesday
Bronwyn replied to Eli Somer's discussion Ask me Anything about MD
"Hello, I don't feel that my daydreaming impairs my ability to go throughout my day. I do consider the amount of time I daydream to be excessive, and the dreams feel so powerful, that I pace and speak out loud. I found ways to manage my…"
Tuesday
Mikachica liked docho's blog post ''knowing the condition makes a difference''
Tuesday
SamJ replied to David Burkett's discussion Character and Body Movement
"Docho I completely agree. The amount of time I've put into building my daydreams. If I had put that energy into my real life I would have achieved more. It's scary looking back at time wasted."
Tuesday
docho posted a blog post

''knowing the condition makes a difference''

i'm a recent member , i have this condition as long as i could remember...unlike some of you who wants to keep Md for life ,i want to completely get rid of it .It stole what could have been the productive years of my life. Although I'm super thankful i discovered when i did about the conditions, I tend to think avoiding Md and its triggers is a working progress and it will take a lot more than reading an article or blogging about it to reverse its effects on our actual world. I ''self…See More
Tuesday
docho replied to David Burkett's discussion Character and Body Movement
" mine too ,the basic elements of my Md characters remain the same but details change  and evolve from time to time. Usually what attracts me in present time, i will include in my CHARACTERS ...i always try to make my Md up -to -date . So…"
Tuesday
Alex replied to David Burkett's discussion Character and Body Movement
"She currently goes by Effie, short for Nephele. This is her third "incarnation" so to speak, same character canonically I've had since age 10 but I get bored with certain details like name, nationality, age, etc. Facial…"
Monday
 

Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

Forum

Constant Mental Noise

Started by Vesta Harford. Last reply by Filly yesterday. 1 Reply

Does anyone else have a constant stream of thoughts and daydreams run through their minds from the moment they wake up? I do and it is a curse ruining the quality of my life. I hate it and wish that it would stop. I constantly feel 'empty.' I wish…Continue

Maladaptive Daydreaming = Naivety

Started by Vesta Harford. Last reply by Jessica Ballantyne on Friday. 5 Replies

Does anyone else feel like they are more naive as a result of maladaptive daydreaming? Instead of living new experiences and gaining new knowledge, you just waste time by daydreaming your life away. Your brain is filled with stupid daydreams of…Continue

Ask me Anything about MD

Started by Eli Somer. Last reply by Eli Somer on Wednesday. 12 Replies

Hi all,I am doing an "ask me anything" on Reddit right now. The discussion will be up until Wednesday oct 4th. So if there's anything you want to ask me about Maladaptive Daydreaming head over.Eli Somer …Continue

Tags: eli somer, Q&A

Character and Body Movement

Started by David Burkett. Last reply by SamJ on Tuesday. 14 Replies

Who is your main character and what is your most common body movement? Mine is MAKAVELI and I pace.

Relationships with Others

Started by Jessica Ballantyne Nov 12. 0 Replies

I realize my whole past flopped and I never understood how people honestly felt, I mean, having to sit near me. I didn't see their true colorful feelings and biased thoughts about me coursing inside of them. I just didn't escape me as to why…Continue

Believed I was invinsible, but really, I can be a better person

Started by Jessica Ballantyne Nov 11. 0 Replies

Being both autistic and doing immoderate day dreaming has put me into tyrannical and embarrassing situations in life. It was very easy for a person to discover my inappropriate behavior in the public eye. To be honest, my head still blazes as it…Continue

Does anyone know?

Started by A. Last reply by Ella Nov 7. 552 Replies

Do your friends or family know about your daydreaming? What are their feelings/reactions to it? This is the only place where I can talk about my daydreaming. I've never told anyone and I'd be mortified if my family found out.Continue

Relationships and MD how do you cope?

Started by SamJ. Last reply by BlackUnicorn Nov 7. 3 Replies

Hi I've been single for about 5 years I've dated on and off in that time but nothing serious. I found at the beginning of relationships that I stopped daydreaming. I had a distraction and the nervousness of wanting to impress this new person took…Continue

Need help

Started by Ruchi. Last reply by Filly Nov 6. 5 Replies

Hello guys, i m a daydreamer I want to get out of this stuff, I have been suffering from this since 2012, is there someone help me please to get rid of this stuff, I m quite emotionally weak this time, no one is there with me right now whom with i…Continue

I was so Quiet

Started by Jessica Ballantyne Nov 4. 0 Replies

I haven't been such a talkative person in many years. Between ages 12-30 I constantly weaved day dreams. Many of my day dreams convinced me that I'd fulfill my life goals. For example, I've always wanted to date a guy, perhaps even get a boyfriend,…Continue

Chat

Active Conversations

Disconnected

    Disconnected

    You are disconnected from chat. Connect to join the chat.

    Suspended From Chat

    Sign up to chat on Wild Minds Network.

    Sign Up

    Photos

    • Add Photos
    • View All

    Events

    Rules:

    Rules:

    1) Please be kind and respectful.

    2) Please try to keep the content positive.  Posting of negative content may result in it being removed and/or, in severe cases, your membership being in question.  If I feel any content is questionable, I reserve the right to remove it.  Please also refrain from talking about sex.  This is not a porn site.  Please keep all content appropriate for people of all ages.  

    Ex: Posting your art work is good and encouraged.  Posting pics of mass murderers is unacceptable.  I have removed such content and suspended members in the past for this.

    3) Please read old discussions and add to them before creating a new one.  A good rule of thumb for discussions vs blog posts is that if you're just sharing about yourself, that should go in a blog post.  If you want to start a conversation, that should go into a discussion.  Similarly, introductions should go in blog posts or be added onto previous discussions.  Please avoid posting the same thing in a blog post and a discussion.  

    4) Please allow me to do my job.  If I feel you have posted something in the wrong place, I will be respectful enough to tell you.  I feel it is the right thing to do.  I promise to try and be nice about it, but please don't take it the wrong way and lash out at me.  

     5) Please refrain from using profanity on here.  I will compromise and allow profanity if you star out most of the word in question.  

    6) If you notice a spammer or someone who has broken one of the rules, please message me, telling me who did it and what they said.  You can remain anonymous.  

    7)  While we welcome people from around the world on here, please speak in English, so I can monitor what you say to be sure you're following the rules and so that others don't feel excluded.  

    Breaking the rules may result in a warning given, or if the infraction is serious enough or you've already been warned, you may be suspended.  

    Notes

    Out Of My Mind (article I wrote on MD)

    This is an article I wrote for my writing class about MD.  

    Out of My Mind…

    Continue

    Created by Cordellia Amethyste Rose Nov 22, 2010 at 7:36pm. Last updated by Cordellia Amethyste Rose Nov 22, 2010.

    Notes Home

    Welcome! To view all notes, click here. Continue

    Created by Cordellia Amethyste Rose Feb 20, 2010 at 11:14am. Last updated by Cordellia Amethyste Rose Feb 20, 2010.

     
     
     

    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

    Badge

    Loading…

    © 2017   Created by Cordellia Amethyste Rose.   Powered by

    Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service

    Real Time Web Analytics

    Clicky