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All but Bliss

Posted by Jessica Ballantyne on September 21, 2017 at 7:00am 0 Comments

I am better

Posted by greyartist on September 20, 2017 at 11:54am 1 Comment

Idealism , a factor in daydreaming

Posted by Ano Nito on September 19, 2017 at 6:37pm 0 Comments

To do or not to do?

Posted by Siôn on September 18, 2017 at 4:23pm 2 Comments

A catchy quote

Posted by Jessica Ballantyne on September 18, 2017 at 1:43pm 0 Comments

A little introduction

Posted by Lou on September 17, 2017 at 11:12am 1 Comment

Waiting for a better life

Posted by Jessica Ballantyne on September 16, 2017 at 7:50am 0 Comments

Which is worse with MD?

Posted by David Burkett on September 12, 2017 at 8:54pm 1 Comment

Pacing

Posted by David Burkett on September 11, 2017 at 6:28am 6 Comments

Question

Posted by David Burkett on September 10, 2017 at 4:59pm 0 Comments

Dropping my AP class

Posted by Kaitlyn Quach on September 10, 2017 at 3:30pm 2 Comments

Discovering MD and my Struggles

Posted by Hannah on September 9, 2017 at 10:30pm 3 Comments

I'm back for a little while

Posted by Neva Darbe on September 9, 2017 at 5:01pm 0 Comments

Daydreaming to avoid unbearable reality

Posted by Ano Nito on September 9, 2017 at 12:40pm 1 Comment

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Ele replied to Ele's discussion Love life
"Thank you for your replies :) I think you are right, it must be because I start to create a different version of that person in my mind and as soon as I notice something that I don't like I take a step back. But now that I know the truth about…"
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Eren Kas replied to Eren Kas's discussion About Erataia's Post
"Thanks for all replies. I am in school now. School makes me bad. I feel myself in a void in class. I can't even speak, I am in a gray zone. So, as I understand, there are two steps of cure. First, getting rid of addiction, means staying in gray…"
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meghan commented on Siôn's blog post To do or not to do?
"just keep on answering yes, i know he's a nice guy it's none of his business what you do. how did he see you daydreaming in the first place?"
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Source replied to Ele's discussion Love life
"By what you wrote, I'm assuming you've never been in love in real life. As a result, everything you think you know about love is just speculation, inevitably biased by what you would like it to be. What's more, your only references…"
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Emily replied to Ele's discussion Love life
"So relatable. I prefer to make up all kinds of stories in my head than confront real life, When I meet a guy I start daydreameing about him. Sometimes, I even fall in love with him (I think so), What i recently discovered is that I actually fall in…"
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Jessica Ballantyne posted a blog post

All but Bliss

I used to love to maladaptive daydream between ages 12 to 29. It always made me feel happy or exhilarated. To be frank, I still day dream a little bit today. Now that I am in my 30's, this is starting to give me a fright, for a few reasons. Day dreaming excessively has robbed me of my life. It deceived my mind to believe in 'nonsense' that are against real facts. Since I was a teenager, I actually expected to see wonderful things in my adulthood, like dating, traveling, being successful in a…See More
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Ele posted a discussion

Love life

Hi,I'm new here nice to meet you all.I recently discovered about maladaptive daydreaming and everything finally made sense.One thing I wanted to ask, have anyone of you experienced problems with love and relationships?I'll explain better, I always wanted to fell in love and have a boyfriend, so much that I created various characters in my head to daydream about, but every time something real might happen, even if at the beginning I kinda felt something, I start to feel disgusted by the other…See More
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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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Love life

Started by Ele. Last reply by Ele 3 hours ago. 3 Replies

Hi,I'm new here nice to meet you all.I recently discovered about maladaptive daydreaming and everything finally made sense.One thing I wanted to ask, have anyone of you experienced problems with love and relationships?I'll explain better, I always…Continue

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About Erataia's Post

Started by Eren Kas. Last reply by Eren Kas 7 hours ago. 10 Replies

I have read all of the posts of Erataia. I e-mailed her, messaged her, she tried to help me but I think she kinda bored  of me. She is'nt reponding me now. So I wanted to ask you people. It's been 1 years since I found her post. I readed so many…Continue

How many fiction writers have MD?

Started by caro. Last reply by caro on Wednesday. 5 Replies

Makes you wonder, doesn't it? Continue

MDD effects my social situations

Started by Jessica Ballantyne on Tuesday. 0 Replies

MDD seems to put an effect on my life and how I appear to people. My mind will be so preoccupied that my eyes will glance all over the room, even straight at people. I once accidentally stared at my sister a few times for nothing and she always…Continue

Yes, you can cure Maladaptive Daydreaming

Started by Eretaia. Last reply by Sabrina on Tuesday. 168 Replies

Two years ago when I joined this community, I think I was more dead than alive. I've been waging quite a brutal war with maladaptive dreaming and the array of issues that underlie it ever since then and I'm on my way out of this prison. I wanted to…Continue

Tags: overcoming, maladaptive, daydreaming

I'm new to this, feedback appreciated.

Started by Jessica. Last reply by SamJ on Monday. 3 Replies

I hope I am in the right place. I am in my later twenties and after almost 15 years I need answers. I have done a lot of research to get here, and have read some of your thoughts and struggles, but I wanted to explain my story a little more.…Continue

Avoidance - Yes or No

Started by Sarcorum. Last reply by Bronwyn on Sunday. 5 Replies

I have a question that's been bothering me for a long time. I don't know if i should stop daydreaming altogether or if I should just cut down on it. At one point I completely stopped and it was the worst thing I experienced. I understand this sounds…Continue

Tags: help, medical, disorder, maladaptive, daydream

Inspiring Scenery

Started by Jessica Ballantyne Sep 15. 0 Replies

Well typically, my parents take me to their cottage in a northern rocky bay, a part of the notorious Canadian shield landscape. The scenery is so beautiful as it is composed of islands made from igneous rock as a result of its volcanic history,…Continue

Which one

Started by David Burkett. Last reply by David Burkett Sep 15. 3 Replies

If you guys had to pick one would you say that MD caused more problems in your life expressing yourself and interacting socially or is it more along the lines of paying attention and staying focused?

Daydreaming during dreaming in night

Started by Anonymus55. Last reply by Laura Sep 15. 1 Reply

Daydreaming happens when we are awake. Everybody knows that.But nowadays my MD got promoted on a higher level: now I not only daydream while being awake,but also when I'm dreaming during sleep. I'm not lucid dreamer,so my brain as the brains of most…Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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