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Do I have MDD??

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How it started

I think that my MDD originated...well, to escape a life that was emotional hard to live through. I mean,growing up in the world, I had too much trouble protecting myself from getting bullied and tormented for being "socially awkward." Many people were very mean to me for the exact same reasons. I was extremely quiet and really scared of them. I had asperger syndrome, which is probably why I never spoke too much and had trouble making eye contact. I spent years and years in a periphery doing my…See More
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Jessica Ballantyne replied to Alice Liddle's discussion As a mother, im trying my best to hide it.
"My MDD is less severe. In fact its gradually going away. I see life in a totally new and different way that makes me say, Wha! I do want to focus on real things, such as family and career and getting back into society. It is all a matter of time…"
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Jessica Ballantyne replied to Alice Liddle's discussion As a mother, im trying my best to hide it.
"Yea, err...I get the feeling. I am sorry to hear your husband limits himself from emotionally reading and connecting to your on a deeper level. Everybody in my life is basically like this towards me. Many have been highly biased to what my mind is…"
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Alice Liddle replied to Alice Liddle's discussion As a mother, im trying my best to hide it.
"You seem content. I know a few people with aspergers syndrom and it is very hard for them to have any sort of relationships with anyone. Its ok to be alone. Not everyone us ment to be married or have children and thats totally ok. I would wait…"
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Alice Liddle replied to Alice Liddle's discussion As a mother, im trying my best to hide it.
"Sometimes i feel that way. Yes. Like my husband cant connect with me on a deeper level so i fantazise and go somewhere else mentally for a while. I often talk out loud in my car because of this. I live out my day dreams about meaninful interesting…"
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Jessica Ballantyne replied to Alice Liddle's discussion As a mother, im trying my best to hide it.
"Day dreaming has really impacted my every day life. I lost track of interests and hobbies I used to dive into. These days, I simply read or write online, but other times, I will just sit on a sofa or bench let my mind wonder for a very long time,…"
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Annie replied to Alice Liddle's discussion As a mother, im trying my best to hide it.
"First, sorry if I do mistake, english is not my first language. I read your message and it is like it was me who wrote it. I am a mother too of two boys (4 and 8 year-olds). I have a husband and he do not know that I day dreaming about TV…"
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Jessica Ballantyne replied to Alice Liddle's discussion As a mother, im trying my best to hide it.
"I can't count how many times someone caught me day dreaming. It was often mortifying. I guess, because I let it be shown in full bloom. My MDD was strong, so I did a lot of laughing, talking, gyrating and bodily gestures. My eyes usually…"
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Sam T P posted a blog post

Comfort zones of Mind

Day dreaming is a method mind used to run away from all fears and problems. I think it's the strongest addiction which spoils a man's most precious time. But this energy produced from mind can convert into productive purposes. For ex. innovative ideas and  spectacular designs made by  the mankind are the outcome of some crazy minds. In my personal experience I can say it may disrupt the friendly relation to the people around us. That we need to have a control over this flying kite.See More
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Alice Liddle replied to Alice Liddle's discussion As a mother, im trying my best to hide it.
"No actully no one has ever caught me except for a cousin of mine who was passing by my bed room and my door was open...i was jumping around and he said "hey do that again! Who were u talking too?" And i immediately got shy and said i…"
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Jessica Ballantyne replied to Alice Liddle's discussion As a mother, im trying my best to hide it.
"I began to day dream too much since age 12 myself. I started with low self-esteem and dissatisfaction with my real life situations. I suffered with Asperger Syndrome and it made it extremely hard for me to connect and blend in with other boys and…"
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Moving onward in the future

I saw a tea leaf readers on Sunday at a studio in the country side. She looked at my leaves and saw a new movement or action coming soon, as early as this fall, things pick up in September. She explained to me a positive pyramid, which means a 3 person event. She noticed in the leaves a form of a person. This person represents a significant partnership, perhaps business, maybe even romance. She saw a few scrolls involving books, writing, education, career and so forth. She did see an archway of…See More
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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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How it started

Started by Jessica Ballantyne 25 minutes ago. 0 Replies

I think that my MDD originated...well, to escape a life that was emotional hard to live through. I mean,growing up in the world, I had too much trouble protecting myself from getting bullied and tormented for being "socially awkward." Many people…Continue

As a mother, im trying my best to hide it.

Started by Alice Liddle. Last reply by Jessica Ballantyne 5 hours ago. 14 Replies

Like many of you for years ive had these extremely detailed and deep fantasys when day dreaming for sometimes the entire day. Theyve looked much movies and animations. Mine started off when i was about 6. They were all evolved from this one cartoon…Continue

Moving onward in the future

Started by Jessica Ballantyne yesterday. 0 Replies

I saw a tea leaf readers on Sunday at a studio in the country side. She looked at my leaves and saw a new movement or action coming soon, as early as this fall, things pick up in September. She explained to me a positive pyramid, which means a 3…Continue

Irritation/Restlessness/Withdrawal symptoms

Started by Harshit. Last reply by Katie yesterday. 5 Replies

Keeping your motivation up for trying to stop daydreaming, I find myself in a constant struggle with myself. While I am sure that is something that might be common for a lot of people here, there's one particular concern on which I would like to…Continue

Journey to a Life Free of Maladaptive Daydreaming

Started by Ulaan Gom. Last reply by Ulaan Gom yesterday. 73 Replies

Day 1 - I've been Maladaptive Daydreaming for over four years now, and I know that it's time to stop. I've recently been able to improve my life, but am facing some obstacles right now and want to clear my mind and focus on improvement. Today I…Continue

feeling beside myself

Started by Jessica Ballantyne on Monday. 0 Replies

There are days where I strongly feel lost and beside my self. Like nobody knows, cares or sees what I go through on an every day basis. Even if I describe it...I don't know, they won't take it seriously or just put it that "I should shape up" or…Continue

Yes, you can cure Maladaptive Daydreaming

Started by Eretaia. Last reply by Alice Liddle on Sunday. 165 Replies

Two years ago when I joined this community, I think I was more dead than alive. I've been waging quite a brutal war with maladaptive dreaming and the array of issues that underlie it ever since then and I'm on my way out of this prison. I wanted to…Continue

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Life after MDD

Started by Lisa Sulivan. Last reply by Source on Sunday. 1 Reply

Hey guys,I was researching a lot about MDD recently, I had been struggling with it for many years. I managed to stopped it and I have been living MDD free for half a year.My problem is that I had to stop all daydreaming in order to do not relapse…Continue

I don't know whats happening to me...

Started by Fallen Messenger. Last reply by Fallen Messenger Jul 18. 5 Replies

So this started 4 weeks ago from when I'm writing this... I've noticed that my overwhelming desire to be like my 4 alter egos has manifested almost like voices in my head. Not like schizophrenic because they are my thoughts, but portrayed as my…Continue

I don't feel so alone anymore

Started by SamJ. Last reply by Nikki K Jul 14. 14 Replies

Hi I just wanted to say how fantastic it is to find this site. I have never spoken to anyone about my MD before I wasn't aware until recently that it even had a name I thought for a long time I was losing my mind or was immature for daydreaming into…Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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