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Turning MD into ART

We're all creative but wasteful with our creativity.  Why not turn our daydreams into novels and other creative endeavors?Join in!  We can all encourage each other!  We can turn our daydreaming into something "adaptive" for a change.See More
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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.



Started by sagar kankam. Last reply by Meckalah Carlisle yesterday. 3 Replies

The trick is to find something you really like very much. Which engages your mind to that thing automatically. You can not think anything else except that thing. The thing which "EXCITES" you very much. Your favourite hobby or anything you wanna…Continue

Does anyone know?

Started by A. Last reply by Meckalah Carlisle yesterday. 568 Replies

Do your friends or family know about your daydreaming? What are their feelings/reactions to it? This is the only place where I can talk about my daydreaming. I've never told anyone and I'd be mortified if my family found out.Continue

Do your romantic relationships in you daydreams affect your relationships in real life

Started by Shae. Last reply by northern gal on Friday. 9 Replies

My therapist has to constantly remind me that my romantic relationships in my daydreams are not real and that I cant compare the relationship I have with my real partner to the ones I have in my daydreams. Does anyone else compare those…Continue

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Daydreams and personalities

Started by Sidefire. Last reply by James Bond Mar 13. 17 Replies

I have a strong feeling that personality types are connected to one's likelihood of developing MD, so I wanted to ask all of you to share your personality types! (I'm talking about the MBTI)For those who don't know, there's a psychological study…Continue

can DD about intimate very often make us sex addicts?

Started by sagar kankam. Last reply by Camoran Mar 10. 3 Replies

I was day dreaming about intimate relationships. would that EVENTUALLY make me sex addict.Continue

Maladaptive Daydreaming disorder comes from Satan

Started by Esther Theuma. Last reply by Camoran Mar 10. 8 Replies

I'm a Christian and have been secretly daydreaming this way for twenty two years. I'm currently publishing a book on mental health regarding Maladaptive daydreaming, schizophrenia and psychosis. It's called The traps that Satan Lays (coming out…Continue

Appreciating my inner child's need to daydream

Started by Byler. Last reply by Byler Mar 6. 2 Replies

I’m in a support group, ASCA (Adult Survivors of Child Abuse) and I am working on a step (think AA) and it’s “I will sense my inner child whose efforts to survive now can be appreciated.” This is a tough one. I’ve been able to sense my inner child…Continue

What genre does your daydreaming world typically reside in? Mine is the last thing others would expect.

Started by Sidefire. Last reply by Laura Feb 27. 12 Replies

I've noticed that many people have different types of worlds they go into. Many of them are fantasy-based, but there are also action-adventure, mystery, drama, and love-driven ones I'm sure. So I'm typically a shy, polite girl. I'm scared of…Continue

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Do you think MD has made you dull?

Started by SamJ. Last reply by kaira deo Feb 26. 7 Replies

I was thinking about this today as I consider what to write on a dating profile as I take the plunge back into the dating game. Do you think MD has made you some what dull? I have no hobbies I read sometimes  and watch movies but most times I…Continue

What age did you start?

Started by Suki97. Last reply by Old Cloth Cat Feb 26. 12 Replies

Hi I was just wondering at what age people started maladaptive daydreaming? I was always a dreamy kid but I think I got considerably worse by about thirteen when things got difficult at school. However I think my MD probably started when I was…Continue


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    Out Of My Mind (article I wrote on MD)

    This is an article I wrote for my writing class about MD.  

    Out of My Mind…


    Created by Cordellia Amethyste Rose Nov 22, 2010 at 7:36pm. Last updated by Cordellia Amethyste Rose Nov 22, 2010.

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    Created by Cordellia Amethyste Rose Feb 20, 2010 at 11:14am. Last updated by Cordellia Amethyste Rose Feb 20, 2010.


    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.


    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.



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