Don't ask me why...

[BilboBaggins]

so my friends dared me to join an online dating site- so I did.

Firstly, it's really quite overwhelming. I did allow them to choose some people for me to talk with and I kept a few conversations going for awhile.

I know that dating sites are generally not too great of an idea, haha but after awhile it really got to be a bit much. It sounds odd but talking with these people (even online) made me really uncomfortable. For starters, i didn't feel real. Not even over text, it all seemed like a bit of a facade and it got me to secondguessing myself (personality wise) a lot . Plus it kind of hit home how unreal my expectations of people may be.. it seemed very foreign for me to even imagine (and i have a good imagination ;) ) me actually being able to interact these people personally-it was kind of jarring i guess.

 

sorry just a little ramble.

merry christmas soon all.

[Elizabeth]

I think if you put yourself out there, which is hard, it will come. Don't give up!! I have had MD my whole life and while it has hindered me in some relationships and caused me to miss several things, I am in a great relationship and have been for over 5 years. We are engaged and will be getting married next October. I recently told him about my MD and he accepts it, though I don't think he quite understands it completely or realizes the impact it has on me, he's been very supportive. He told me this once "Everyone has their quirks and everyone is weird. We all have things we have to work through and you just have to find someone who matches your particular weirdness and learn to accept theirs as well." I'm still nervous as to when we are finally married and living together constantly how I will deal with my MD, but I'm just gonna take it a day at a time.

@TJ does your culture practice arranged marriages or something like that? I don't think I could do the internet thing unless you make a really great connection and it continues after you meet face to face. I knew my fiance about two years in high school and we were friends but dated other people. Then we started dating right before I graduated (he's a year younger) and I didn't think he'd be the one, but here we are! :)

[BilboBaggins]

haha YES Ihaveitall,such a good point!

And thanks for the insight, guys :)

[Ihaveitall]

Isn't it funny that we are all so good at creating fantasy worlds but we can't play the "fake" game of online relationships. Its so true but does anyone else think its ironic?

[Laila]

I know what you mean. I haven't been to any dating sites, but people have taken an "interest" in me online. I exchanged phone numbers with a couple people, but I just ended up avoiding them. One of them flat out confessed he loved me and wanted to meet for real. Talk about awkward! I only let myself get reeled in by one guy whom I highly respected for his moral values and political ideals. Every weekend, we'd go on "dates" by voice chatting while watching movies. We also played video games that had wifi (Brawl, Mario Kart Wii). We had very personal conversations. Needless to say, I had a huge crush on him, but that died out eventually. The killer was his religion, cuz he was trying to force it on me. That was a very rare experience I doubt I'll have again. I always felt like dating online was fake/weird, and I'm surprised I even tried. xD