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Parasocial relationship can be fine and can make you feel less alone, but when we daydream about them we end up feeling even more alone in the end"
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Untangling My Worth from Someone Else’s Story
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Recently I've been vigorously researching and analyzing somebody else's successful life for weeks and weeks. This person is a hardworking go-getter, aggressively enterprising, lovely, social,…Continue
Wish that I didn't daydream
Started Feb 10 0 Replies 0 Likes
Let's be blunt. I spent years just "living in my head" since I was a young teen. I was over preoccupied with my thoughts, overthinking, replaying past moments, worrying about the future, and getting…Continue
Fantasizing about people I've never met
Started this discussion. Last reply by Jessica Ballantyne Feb 6. 2 Replies 2 Likes
I will learn about a person online, it could be a public figure, even a civilian, but I never meet them and know who they are. I suddenly find that I create fantasies of seeing them in person, and we…Continue
What Happens When Daydreams Become a Detour
Started this discussion. Last reply by Sergio Silveira Feb 1. 1 Reply 1 Like
When I was 18, I had this giddy optimism, youthful exuberance, had starry-eyed idealism towards my future, but I went too far with my MD on it. For instance, when I was working my way through…Continue
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Parasocial Relationships
I tend to admire public figures and their families online, but feel that I have parasocial relationships with them. They have no idea that I think about them everybody and always reviewing their instagram platforms, videos, articles, and websites. I then start to fantasize that I am their friend and we know each other, whereas in real life, who knows how they'd react if we've ever actually met. Well I'd been a fan of this singer and learned all about their wife & daughter, brothers, father,…See More
Untangling My Worth from Someone Else’s Story
Recently I've been vigorously researching and analyzing somebody else's successful life for weeks and weeks. This person is a hardworking go-getter, aggressively enterprising, lovely, social, beautiful, accomplished, and has everything I ever wanted in my early adulthood. She even followed her dreams towards an independent lifestyle. Regards, I don't think she was ever an excessive daydreamer the way I was. She's strong and confident, and grounded. Doesn't take anything for granted. I realize I…See More
Wish that I didn't daydream
Let's be blunt. I spent years just "living in my head" since I was a young teen. I was over preoccupied with my thoughts, overthinking, replaying past moments, worrying about the future, and getting lost in internal fictional story narratives. I was really a million miles away, when I should've been grounded and down to earth, taking everything in strides and living in the moment. My mental health was unhealthy, and I wasn't paying attention to anything going on in my life. People always…See More
"I wanted to look a certain way by my age, and be more appreciated and seen by others. I think my problem is that I didn't speak up and tell people how I felt, and what this meant. I just kept to myself and daydreamed around all the time.…"
"Please check out my book on my own personal experience with Maladaptive Daydreaming, which afflicted my life for many years and the central thing that impelled me to continually go back to it. I describe in it the method of construction and the…"
"I go through similar situations…
I’ve fallen in love with girls and they existed in my fantasies, but in real life there was no intimacy at all.
I’ve been trying to reduce my triggers (not listening to music, not daydreaming), and…"
Imagined Companions in a Quiet Life
I will learn about a person online, it could be a public figure, even a civilian, but I never meet them and know who they are. I suddenly find that I create fantasies of seeing them in person, and we become good friends. I start having conversations with them about my own life, but in real life we are perfect strangers. I think its crazy to make up tales about a person I've just never met in the flesh. How do I know if they will like me, and not think I'm a dolt or creep? Crinkle their face and…See More
"I would like people to know about my book on my own personal experience with Maladaptive Daydreaming, which afflicted my life for many years and the central thing that impelled me to continually go back to it. I describe in it the method of…"
"I would like people to know about my book on my own personal experience with Maladaptive Daydreaming, which afflicted my life for many years and the central thing that impelled me to continually go back to it. I describe in it the method of…"
Present in Body, Elsewhere in Thought
I see that not everybody has my brain...and they're not me...but, I feel like whenever I'm around people, I got so embarrassed or burned. It does depend on the social group, but I happen to be around people who don't know what to make of me, and can't put a finger on what I'm doing in my head...to block out the their words. I'll be blunt. I've had a lot of people respond to me in a way, they think I'm suddenly off in another universe or they're figure I'm suddenly someplace else, because my…See More
What Happens When Daydreams Become a Detour
When I was 18, I had this giddy optimism, youthful exuberance, had starry-eyed idealism towards my future, but I went too far with my MD on it. For instance, when I was working my way through college, I was daydreaming big about what I self-assuredly will be seeing up the way—or so I thought. But I noticed people around me made comments about how distant and gone I looked, also how extremely quiet and socially awkward I was. I had goals and aspirations on what I wanted to do in my 20's and…See More
"I'm living a very discouraging and unlucky time in my life. I'm actually starting over, and looking for jobs relentlessly, while I look at college programs. At 39 I've never been in a relationship, nor married, always single and…"
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Parasocial Relationships
Posted on February 16, 2026 at 10:01am 1 Comment 0 Likes
I tend to admire public figures and their families online, but feel that I have parasocial relationships with them. They have no idea that I think about them everybody and always reviewing their instagram platforms, videos, articles, and websites. I then start to fantasize that I am their friend and we know each other, whereas in real life, who knows how they'd react if we've ever actually met. Well I'd been a fan of this singer and learned all about their wife & daughter,…
ContinuePresent in Body, Elsewhere in Thought
Posted on January 27, 2026 at 9:02am 1 Comment 1 Like
I see that not everybody has my brain...and they're not me...but, I feel like whenever I'm around people, I got so embarrassed or burned. It does depend on the social group, but I happen to be around people who don't know what to make of me, and can't put a finger on what I'm doing in my head...to block out the their words.
I'll be blunt. I've had a lot of people respond to me in a way, they think I'm suddenly off in another universe or they're figure I'm suddenly someplace…
25 Years in a Daydream: The Cost of Silence
Posted on November 5, 2025 at 1:19pm 1 Comment 0 Likes
This may sound obvious to many daydreamers. I started MD when I was 12, and wish that I talked with my parents about my daydreaming disorder immediately when it started to make me laugh for nothing around everyone. It would've saved me the next 25 years of turmoil. Saying this, I daydreamed thickly through my teens, 20's and maybe regularly in my 30's.
My grades were bare passes and I made lousy decisions towards my future, which I eventually regretted.
In the…
If only I did it better
Posted on May 24, 2024 at 9:46am 2 Comments 4 Likes
Parents have been telling their kids over the years that daydreaming doesn't get you ahead in the world. My parents never knew that I was a daydreamer, at least my mom didn't, and I was a very quiet kid. I was always thinking and trailing off now and then. Rather than staying in the present moment with others. I didn't tell them what's been going on in that head of mine.
Whatsoever, when I was 12, my dreams began to get very thick and overpowering. It made me feel wonderful…
Comment Wall (3 comments)
- At 11:40pm on March 21, 2021,
Deep blue said…
Hey do you mind if I ask what kinda job do you do Rn? I'm still a student and I've always wondered what people like us, who have MD, do when they grow up.
- At 12:55pm on February 22, 2021,
Varya said…
- Hi. You can write to me as well, just in case. You seem like a nice and interesting person. varvaraamarantha@gmail.com
- At 5:22pm on February 15, 2021,
- hi, if you want to talk, this is my email, i can hear you, talk to a person who goes through the same situation helps. raulvasconcelosb@gmail.com
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