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The truth is...

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For a Broken Hearted One

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My MDD

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A newbie intro...

Posted by Patrick on May 19, 2013 at 10:46am 1 Comment

My dark secret

Posted by Ashley on May 18, 2013 at 2:38pm 3 Comments

Serious Positives and Negatives

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Meet Eric

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It's never going to get better.

Posted by Grace on May 14, 2013 at 3:59am 4 Comments

Characters in your daydreams

Posted by Ella on May 12, 2013 at 2:58pm 10 Comments

MY DEEP ROOTS

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kind gesture

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Looking at pictures while daydreaming

I was wondering, how many of you look at pictures while daydreaming? I read some discussions just now and people said that they cover up pictures while daydreaming because they feel like someone is watching them. Well for me it's the opposite, I look at pictures of the people in my daydreams (obviously you can only do this if your characters are real people, which most of mine are, but I suppose you could look at pictures of other things if they are not real people). So does anyone else do…See More
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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers. Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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Responding to the TV.

Started by M Hunter. Last reply by Jeremy Er 2 hours ago. 1 Reply

So I know a lot of people pace or jump about when daydreaming and many people talk out loud to their characters but how many people do this?I've only started noticing this in the last few months and I'm not that bothered by it, in fact I find it…Continue

Lets create a story!

Started by Jeremy Er. Last reply by Jeremy Er 3 hours ago. 10 Replies

The rules are simple, Ill start with a sentence and everyone adds on to the story. It can a phrase, a narration - Basically ANYTHING that you can imagine! However, try to keep things short and sweet. :DHere goes! Todd was feeling rather odd this…Continue

Anyone here experience mania with MDD?

Started by DebMmm. Last reply by CreativeWriter 12 hours ago. 6 Replies

First let me say how glad I am to have found this site! It's wonderful knowing I'm not the only one!Most of the time, I'm grounded in reality (meditation practice REALLY HELPS), but I have manic episodes and they always occur in tandem with…Continue

Tags: abuse, trauma, sexual, mania, disorder

I'm new here

Started by Adam carter. Last reply by Adam carter 18 hours ago. 4 Replies

Hi, I'm Adam and just joined this siteI always thought I was really weird as a child as all I would do was run around the living room while daydreaming about anything usually about me performing some great deed and recieving great recongition, I…Continue

Are you a stage four Maladaptive Daydreamer?

Started by Rashomon Effect. Last reply by Diane Patten 22 hours ago. 9 Replies

Stage four cancer is almost always fatal.Stage four addicts and alcoholics have shortened their lives and done irreversible brain damage. Even after they stop the drugs or booze, they have a diminished capacity for cognitive thought and rational…Continue

Does anyone know?

Started by Adriene. Last reply by Adam carter yesterday. 326 Replies

Do your friends or family know about your daydreaming? What are their feelings/reactions to it? This is the only place where I can talk about my daydreaming. I've never told anyone and I'd be mortified if my family found out.Continue

I talk out loud when I daydream (and I don't realize I'm doing it. . .)

Started by Christina Ann. Last reply by Adam carter yesterday. 11 Replies

Hey guys!I'm so glad to have found this community. I hadn't heard about MD until recently when I looked up how to stop talking aloud when daydreaming. I've been a daydreamer since as long as I could remember and things like swinging, music, rocking,…Continue

Curtains closed when maladaptive daydreaming?

Started by Adam carter. Last reply by Adam carter yesterday. 2 Replies

I notice that when I mdd by choice I always draw the curtains and shut the door etc so no one can see me. Do others do this?Also, now this is a weird thing but i always turn all photos down when beginning to pace and mdd I think this is because when…Continue

Does anyone get angry when their fantasies are interrupted?

Started by Ashley. Last reply by CreativeWriter yesterday. 9 Replies

I've noticed that I get very annoyed when I'm in the midst of a DD and someone needs something from me. I'm curious if that's common? I'm also curious in hearing how you adapt to this. Continue

staycation: do YOU spend your summers and holidays at home?

Started by Jaimee Cole. Last reply by Wish Upon A Wish on Wednesday. 9 Replies

I have been spending summers and holiday here at home with my family - who are almost not present - since my grandfather died 2 years ago. So are you also alone during this times?

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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