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Look at the Bright Side

This is for the daydreamers that don't look at their disorder as a curse but yet as a gift; a gift given to a select few that allows them to live not one, but many lives.See More
13 minutes ago
The1andonlyAbber replied to ashlee's discussion what do you think of this?
"That's exactly what I was thinking, too, when I first found out about MD. My daydreams brought so much joy into my life. How could they possibly be bad? But then I tried to stop daydreaming, and realized I couldn't..."
19 minutes ago
Rose replied to Corinne West's discussion Do you want to defeat this?
"I like it when it's just in the background and it's something to do when I feel like it. I don't like it when I have a massive 'need' to do it and it doesn't go away, and I don't like it when I'm in the…"
4 hours ago
Rose replied to Melinda's discussion Real or fake
"Mine are made up, except for when they discuss political or historical figures. All the celebs in my world are politicians. Also, if someone upsets me in real life, I create an over the top version of them for my characters to talk about. I only do…"
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Rose replied to MGinny's discussion What is your point of view when you daydream?
"I see through my character's eyes, but sometimes I'll change to his friends perspectives (one friend is basically a cool version of the real life me), his family's, or from a sort of a God perspective."
4 hours ago
MGinny replied to MGinny's discussion MD and Dissociative disorders?
"That makes sense because daydreaming is dissociation, right? and there is a compulsion/addiction to do it... maybe MD is not a dissociative disorder but there's  a dissociative component in it... I've found this: "In mild cases,…"
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Katherine Milano replied to MGinny's discussion What is your point of view when you daydream?
"I see through the eyes of the characters but I will sometimes jump around as to which character's eyes I am seeing through. Every once in a while I will see a scene from the outside, but usually I am in the mind of the character."
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23 hours ago
Asaeva replied to MGinny's discussion What is your point of view when you daydream?
"Interesting question! I had never thought about it. It depends on what I'm doing in my story. So, I do both. "
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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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what do you think of this?

Started by ashlee. Last reply by The1andonlyAbber 19 minutes ago. 4 Replies

i was on tumblr and i saw this post that said: "maladaptive day dreaming my ass.....Some people need to stop claiming to have this disease. Just because you can vividly imagine your characters talking to you, imagine their whole life, imagine…Continue

Do you want to defeat this?

Started by Corinne West. Last reply by Rose 4 hours ago. 61 Replies

Do you? If you could wake up tomorrow with this gone would you want to?In all honesty, I don't want to live without it. I don't think life would be worth living without it.I'll give up everything else, my social isolation, eating disorder a thousand…Continue

Real or fake

Started by Melinda. Last reply by Rose 4 hours ago. 19 Replies

Are your imaginary people real people in the world or characters you made up?Are your characters famous people?  You create your world to be their special someone? Continue

What is your point of view when you daydream?

Started by MGinny. Last reply by Rose 4 hours ago. 24 Replies

When you daydream, how do you see? Like in a movie, watching everything from a distance, or through your character/your eyes just like in real life?I see everything like a movie, even if I daydream about myself, I see myself..Continue

MD and Dissociative disorders?

Started by MGinny. Last reply by MGinny 15 hours ago. 6 Replies

I was wondering if MD could be a form of a dissociative disorder. My curiosity was triggered when I read this:"Dissociative symptoms range from common lapses in attention, becoming distracted by something else, and daydreaming, to pathological…Continue

My first post

Started by Evangeline. Last reply by Asaeva 23 hours ago. 3 Replies

I found this site when I was on yahoo answers.I was on yahoo looking desperately for a cure because I thought something was horribly wrong with me. I knew it wasn't normal for me (a 16 year old girl) to sit on my laptop and all of sudden get up…Continue

random thoughts, phrases?

Started by Sotiria ddd. Last reply by Ethan Levy on Monday. 9 Replies

sometime random phrases just pop in my head. I also notice it's when I'm super stressed out. Like I was taking an exam and the phrase it happened came to me and I'm like huh? Or sometimes it's even more random like I'll be walking down the street…Continue

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Hi - this is my introduction :)

Started by Jenny. Last reply by The1andonlyAbber on Monday. 1 Reply

Hi, I stumbled across this website after I saw a Tumblr post about Maladaptive Daydreaming - feeling astounded and curious that the "thing" that I do has a name and, more importantly, other people seem to do too, I googled the name and found myself…Continue

Compulsive Action

Started by dream_away. Last reply by Professional Daydreamer on Monday. 12 Replies

From what I've read, I know that performing a compulsive action is common during daydreams. Some include pacing, tapping, or rocking back and forth. For whatever reason, mine is jumping. I'm 14, and live with my 5 other family members, and they…Continue

Is anyone here into MBTI?

Started by Kayla Corcoran. Last reply by Emma Indigo on Sunday. 7 Replies

The MBTI was created by daughter Isabel Myers, and mother Katherine Briggs. The idea of Myers Brigs is everyone in the world fits into 16 personality types. Your personality is made up of 4 preferences. It is also made up of strengths and…Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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