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Cycle of Interest?

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Daydreaming and OC's

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How to overcome MD?

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Treatment week 5, in which I fail

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Treatment week 4

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Pascal C commented on Pascal C's blog post Cycle of Interest?
"Do you all think it would be related to the difficulties of staying focused on tasks because we daydream and that our daydreams left us outsized ambitions?"
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Ivy White commented on Pascal C's blog post Cycle of Interest?
"I struggle a lot with procrastination and perfectionism. I generally stop an interest when I am starting to get good at it because I expect myself to keep practicing or to get better at it and the moment pressure comes into the equation it stops…"
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Pascal C commented on Pascal C's blog post Cycle of Interest?
"That is pretty interesting I thought I was alone doing that! Ivy > Why do you lose interest when you start to be good at something? Is it because you feel like you've learned everything or because the next step involves learning a lot more…"
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Aaffy replied to roxy123's discussion Trying to stop Maladaptive daydreaming.
"Hi roxy, first of all tell me about your goal,i mean what is your goal and what is your point of view toward the life. then ill help you,because i wanna know what exactly you want from your life? if these MDD thing related to your past i mean any…"
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Aaffy liked roxy123's discussion Trying to stop Maladaptive daydreaming.
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Aaffy replied to roxy123's discussion Trying to stop Maladaptive daydreaming.
"Hi Ivy well seriously i like your work on MDD especially your weekly treatment, i always read your post about your fight or struggle for MDD. i had also adapt your treatment style with some changes. well i put some psychological effects too like…"
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Aaffy commented on Pascal C's blog post Cycle of Interest?
"well one thing is clear for us we are not stable,MDD decrease are ability of focus onto one thing. and i know the condition but i forget the term,well these thing happen with me. i switch from one hobby to another hobby, i started to daydream about…"
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Ivy White commented on Pascal C's blog post Cycle of Interest?
"I recognize the pattern but not the frequency. I tend to do that with hobbies but as I've got less time I find that the period of interest stretches out. What for me always kills interest is when I start to be good at something or pêople…"
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Richard Quest commented on Pascal C's blog post Cycle of Interest?
"I kind of do the same thing. My MD is based around a story, so every few weeks I move around the timeline of my story to improve it until I get bored."
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Just Me commented on Amber's blog post Daydreaming and OC's
"I have created few OC's and sometimes I feel like them, when I daydream. I never cosplayed them or draw them, but I did write about them in fanfics. "
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Cycle of Interest?

Hi there MDDers! I'm currently working on a short presentation about MDD and I've came to the point where I have to describe what are the usual interests of MDDers? if there are any. What are your interests and hobbies? I've notices with myself that I have some sort of cycle of Interest. For a couple of week I will focus on a certain interest (we'll call it I1), then I will gradually get bored of I1, I will have a period of a couple neutral days, then I will start growing interest for I2 for a…See More
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Ivy White commented on Amber's blog post Daydreaming and OC's
"I have OC's and non-OC that I have identified with and "made mine". I also feel as them when I daydream.  I have cosplayed some of my non-OC characters though. I think it's fantastic to make my exterior match theirs."
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Richard Quest commented on Richard Quest's blog post A closer look: the city of Asteriskia
"Thanks! I spend a lot of time on it xD"
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Jennifer replied to roxy123's discussion Maladaptive daydreams specifically about one person (a real person) Does anyone else do this?
"I have always had problems with obsessive crushes ever since I was a little kid: real people, celebrities, and even fictional characters. I'm the only person I know in real life that will actually get crushes on book and anime characters.…"
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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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Trying to stop Maladaptive daydreaming.

Started by roxy123. Last reply by Aaffy 6 hours ago. 4 Replies

Recently i have decided that it's got to the point, after realizing what it is i do and how much control it has over me, that i want to stop.I have been trying extremely hard to, but now that i'm trying i can't tell if i'm either doing it more often…Continue

Maladaptive daydreams specifically about one person (a real person) Does anyone else do this?

Started by roxy123. Last reply by Jennifer yesterday. 6 Replies

Maladaptive daydreaming has been an issue of mine for a while. I can't specifically remember when i started pretty much acting out the daydreams/ speaking aloud with facial expressions and pacing, but i have daydreamed huge amounts from a very young…Continue

Tags: crush, maladaptivedaydreaming, pacing, intense, oneperson

My battle with maladaptive daydreaming

Started by Just Me. Last reply by Jennifer yesterday. 9 Replies

I am not sure how to start this. If anyone reads it, i'd be glad if you leave a piece of advice (if you know because it's getting out of hand lately).I actually always lived more in my lala land than in real world. I just never thought it was…Continue

Tags: personal

Addicted To Fantasyland!

Started by Jennifer. Last reply by Jennifer yesterday. 4 Replies

Hi, I'm new here. I'm 48 years old, and I have always struggled with obsessive daydreaming since I was in elementary school and I made up stories about me and Batman. I didn't realize that my problem had an official name until I Googled it and found…Continue

Daydreamers and children?

Started by Ivy White on Monday. 0 Replies

Do some of you have children? Or regularly take care of them? How do you manage? They always tell me that children require your attention 24/7, so I was wondering.Continue

Daydreaming causes sleepiness and reduced mental capacity?

Started by Feng. Last reply by nic on Sunday. 21 Replies

Does anyone here feel that they're not as smart as they used to be? I used to be able to add, subtract, multiply and divide small numbers in my head quite easily. These days I will struggle to do that. I also seem to be quite forgetful these days…Continue

Daydreams and Superstitions?

Started by Gin. Last reply by The1andonlyAbber on Sunday. 1 Reply

Sometimes when there's a situation that I would really like to happen in real life I think "If you daydream about this, It WON'T happen!" like a kind of superstition. I probably end up daydreaming about it anyway, because it just keeps poping out in…Continue

Does anyone know?

Started by Adriene. Last reply by Just Me on Saturday. 474 Replies

Do your friends or family know about your daydreaming? What are their feelings/reactions to it? This is the only place where I can talk about my daydreaming. I've never told anyone and I'd be mortified if my family found out.Continue

I feel completely disconnected from the world

Started by Chelsea. Last reply by Jennifer on Friday. 4 Replies

I have always felt like I don't belong in this world. The only time I feel like I belong is in my daydreams. I have AVPD and really bad anxiety. I have absolutely no friends and I feel like I have no connection to the outside world, I even work from…Continue

Hypnosis

Started by Alvi. Last reply by Ivy White Mar 26. 8 Replies

Hello I'm new to the forum so sorry if I am posting in the wrong place.I have always daydreamed since early childhood but for the last 8 years it had become a huge problem and taken control of my life. I'm nearly 30 and feel like my entire adult…Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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