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Aware or not?

Posted by 4everlost23 on September 30, 2014 at 4:14pm 2 Comments

help me name a dd character!

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Jailed in my own mind

Posted by Aquarius on September 22, 2014 at 4:45am 2 Comments

So Deep into Obsession?

Posted by I. Hanna on September 20, 2014 at 8:53pm 6 Comments

Epiphany-esque-ish

Posted by Gwenevere on September 16, 2014 at 6:36pm 0 Comments

Do any of you enjoy having MDD?

Posted by FunAtmosphere on September 15, 2014 at 10:52pm 6 Comments

The last year

Posted by Alexsis Hart on September 14, 2014 at 7:34pm 0 Comments

Creative con, books, and Grimm blog #4

Posted by Amber on September 14, 2014 at 4:42pm 0 Comments

Causes and Cure

Posted by Wendy Rose on September 14, 2014 at 2:17pm 4 Comments

Lost & Found

Posted by Wendy Rose on September 14, 2014 at 1:28pm 1 Comment

Introversion, Insomnia and MD

Posted by Wish Upon A Wish on September 14, 2014 at 2:02am 0 Comments

This is just...

Posted by Anette Lesley on September 9, 2014 at 11:09am 2 Comments

Plays, Week entry, and cool things. blog #3

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5 hours ago
Cordellia Amethyste Rose replied to Kay M's discussion Do you write stuff down?
"Wow, that's amazing.  I'm 34 and have building the same fantasy world since I was 9.  There have been so many changes and story lines since then that I can hardly keep it straight, let alone figure out how to write it down.…"
5 hours ago
Amanda Lewone commented on 4everlost23's blog post Aware or not?
"Interesting. I am always aware, but I do realise that time passes a lot faster when I am in dd world than when I am actively participating in my real life. "
10 hours ago
Kay M posted a discussion

Do you write stuff down?

Is your daydream all kept in your head, or do you write or draw stuff too? I have a whole folder of it on my computer-I keep a diary in my character's point of view, I have a spreadsheet of all of the main information on each character in her huge family, a family tree, cartoon pictures (from those create your own stick figure family websites) representing all of the family members and their kids, as well as the main character's friends and regular characters in her life, like the people she…See More
15 hours ago
Kay M replied to Daydream Believer's discussion Confessions from a Daydream Believer
"I did the same thing years ago, with just one daydream character. I was a teenager, and I posted on a forum as one of my characters."
15 hours ago
Gwenevere replied to Cordellia Amethyste Rose's discussion Fantasy and physical health?
"When I'm sick, I tend to become more obsessive-compulsive, so then I end up watching a lot of TV and movies to distract myself from the OC stuff.  I come up with stories about people who also aren't well either, so it makes sense that…"
16 hours ago
Gwenevere replied to Lynn K's discussion Sleep & MD
"I pretend to be a character who's really ill or really depressed who just wants to melt into the pillows.  When you pretend to be someone who can barely lift a hand, it's not too hard to fall asleep, so long as you don't get too…"
16 hours ago
Tinkerbell replied to Lynn K's discussion Sleep & MD
"I take St Johns Wort as a sleeping aid so that my mind will quieter enough to let me sleep."
17 hours ago
Tinkerbell replied to MGinny's discussion MD and Dissociative disorders?
"Perhaps. I dont know. I can only speak for myself . I don't have a dissociative disorder neither do I have OCD. I am an ex- horder, shy, socially awkward but that's it. As far as I know."
17 hours ago
Tinkerbell replied to Naomi Rouge's discussion please sign this, it is a petition to legally recognize MDD as a real disorder, it only needs SIX more signatures!!
"Thanks for posting this. I signed."
17 hours ago
Tinkerbell replied to AmyN's discussion Sharing my story for the first time
"Thank you for sharing your story with us. For me my Maladaptive daydreaming started when I was about 3/4 after being sexually abused by my mother's boyfriend. My mother decided that the best thing to do was to cover it up and preend it never…"
17 hours ago
Tinkerbell replied to cltreader's discussion Is there a time of day when your MDD is worse?
"When it's bedtime. I have really bad insomnia so my mind likes to wonder when it has nothing to do. So bedtime just before sleep, or early ours of the morning when I am trying to get back to sleep but can't."
18 hours ago
Tinkerbell replied to LostSoul99's discussion Social Anxiety
"I don't particularly like crowds or large groups of people. If I am getting public transport I try to find an area with the least amount of people as possible to sit in. It used to be really bad because I would get panic attacks whenever I had…"
18 hours ago
Tinkerbell replied to Elisabeth's discussion Two personalities?
"I couldn't have put it better myself :-). I feel exactly the same way. The sad thing is, when I do try to bring traits from my confident character from my dream into real life. People are taken aback and they are like ," You've…"
18 hours ago
Tinkerbell replied to sarah elizabeth clark's discussion dose anyone else experience this
"Yes I do this exact same thing sometimes if I don't have a main character in my daydreams."
18 hours ago
Tinkerbell commented on 4everlost23's blog post Aware or not?
"Are you really stressed? I find that my MD changes depending on how stressed I am."
19 hours ago
 

Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

Forum

Do you write stuff down?

Started by Kay M. Last reply by Cordellia Amethyste Rose 5 hours ago. 1 Reply

Is your daydream all kept in your head, or do you write or draw stuff too? I have a whole folder of it on my computer-I keep a diary in my character's point of view, I have a spreadsheet of all of the main information on each character in her huge…Continue

Confessions from a Daydream Believer

Started by Daydream Believer. Last reply by Kay M 15 hours ago. 1 Reply

I have a confession. I have on-line profiles for the characters of my daydreams. I'm down to two dd characters that have on-line presences, plus the idealized version of myself that I represent on line. Anyway, I've had a total of 13 dd characters…Continue

Fantasy and physical health?

Started by Cordellia Amethyste Rose. Last reply by Gwenevere 16 hours ago. 8 Replies

As I posted in my blog, I've been dealing with some health issues for a while, which is why I've been so absent.  I'm on the mend, though.  You'd think that with all the laying around and recuperating I've been doing, I'd be fantasizing a lot, but I…Continue

Tags: well, being, health, daydream, world

Sleep & MD

Started by Lynn K. Last reply by Gwenevere 16 hours ago. 8 Replies

I've found that I have trouble falling asleep because of MD.I have to either be very tired, or force myself to stop (which takes a lot of willpower for me) in order to fall asleep, and I often find myself daydreaming again without consciously…Continue

Tags: Sleep, MD

MD and Dissociative disorders?

Started by MGinny. Last reply by Tinkerbell 17 hours ago. 7 Replies

I was wondering if MD could be a form of a dissociative disorder. My curiosity was triggered when I read this:"Dissociative symptoms range from common lapses in attention, becoming distracted by something else, and daydreaming, to pathological…Continue

Sharing my story for the first time

Started by AmyN. Last reply by Tinkerbell 17 hours ago. 1 Reply

I am very happy to have found this group. I am 32 and I have always known I was a bit "different," even as a very young child. It wasn't until I recently googled "excessive daydreaming" that I found I am far from being "one of a kind" in my habits.…Continue

Is there a time of day when your MDD is worse?

Started by cltreader. Last reply by Tinkerbell 18 hours ago. 9 Replies

OK, so it's getting a little late here as I am typing this.  Too late to get out and go anywhere to get a change of scenery.  I am stuck in a daydream that is really starting to take over all of my waking hours. It's getting to be a problem. I am…Continue

Social Anxiety

Started by LostSoul99. Last reply by Tinkerbell 18 hours ago. 5 Replies

How bad is your social anxiety? Do you get depressed during social settings but when you're back in your room, you are fine? Why do  you think you get this way.The reasons why I am asking these questions is not only to relate to all of you but also…Continue

Two personalities?

Started by Elisabeth. Last reply by Tinkerbell 18 hours ago. 5 Replies

           Has anyone felt as though they have a personality that they act out in real life but that their true personality is the one they act out in their daydreams?  I have thought this for a long time.  It first occurred to me in 5th grade that…Continue

Tags: loneliness, with, coping, personality

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    Out Of My Mind (article I wrote on MD)

    This is an article I wrote for my writing class about MD.  

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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