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Obsessions Hurt

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Reality being anoying again.

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Spilling of the beans

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who is unfortunate?

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Character Withdrawal?

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Victim of Love

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Humility.

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Overthinking again...helpful tips?

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Aware or not?

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help me name a dd character!

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Jailed in my own mind

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So Deep into Obsession?

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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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The root cause of Maladaptive dayreaming?

Started by Elisha. Last reply by Roel Van Rossen on Monday. 17 Replies

Ok, I have theory, I am interested to know peoples thoughts...So, I personally have found that it is a  emotional distancing technique. I think the brain uses it as a way to deal with painful emotions. I believe It is caused because people who…Continue

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I dont daydream as myself

Started by sarah elizabeth clark. Last reply by Roel Van Rossen on Monday. 2 Replies

Does anyone else role play as their characters instead of being themselves in their daydreams? I do.Continue

How many of you are/were an outcast?

Started by NovBaby. Last reply by Auryn on Sunday. 25 Replies

I'm just curious if there is a connection. When I was in school I got teased a lot and didn't have many friends.  I'd spend a great deal of time in my room watching movies, listening to music and being in my own little world.  Til this day I'm still…Continue

Compulsive Action

Started by dream_away. Last reply by dream_away Oct 17. 23 Replies

From what I've read, I know that performing a compulsive action is common during daydreams. Some include pacing, tapping, or rocking back and forth. For whatever reason, mine is jumping. I'm 14, and live with my 5 other family members, and they…Continue

Does anyone know?

Started by Adriene. Last reply by Machelle Irby Oct 16. 449 Replies

Do your friends or family know about your daydreaming? What are their feelings/reactions to it? This is the only place where I can talk about my daydreaming. I've never told anyone and I'd be mortified if my family found out.Continue

Chicken Or Egg?

Started by Daydream Believer. Last reply by MatthewR Oct 15. 5 Replies

If you feel like your stuck in life are you stuck because you daydream? Or do you daydream because you feel stuck in life?

How much control do you have over your storyline?

Started by Kay M. Last reply by The1andonlyAbber Oct 15. 3 Replies

Do you plan out and decide everything your daydream characters do, is if influenced by real life, or do the characters sometimes demand that things happen. Some of my stuff I plan, especially about the background characters-she has a very large…Continue

MY MD HAS MORE OR LESS VANISHED AND I FEEL WEIRD

Started by Bee Anchor. Last reply by Tinkerbell Oct 12. 10 Replies

A few weeks ago my MD mysteriously vanished - I don't even crave it. I don't even recognize that I need to do it and life is peaceful and kind of boring. I clean my house more often and I am on time for appointments; I study without effort or…Continue

Changes In Maladaptive Daydreaming + Concerns Over It developing Into Something Else

Started by Tinkerbell. Last reply by Tinkerbell Oct 12. 11 Replies

Has anyone experienced changes in their Maladaptive daydreaming, like the actions they do?In an attempt  to control my Maladaptive daydreaming, I began being very strict with myself.  meaning that -I banned myself from pacing when day dreaming-I…Continue

MDD-ing from Movies?

Started by Amber. Last reply by Tinkerbell Oct 10. 15 Replies

For about awhile my MDD was just about random things/plot that didnt make since.Now after I watch a show/movie I MDD about that show/movie for a couple of months. (I.E Doctor who, Sherlock, Supernatural, Being Human.)Anyone else do this?Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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