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Indirect Awearness

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Family and MDD - ZO

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Something I found on the internet

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The 3 Kinds of Daydreamers

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Been long time!

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Hello! I'm Xander.

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My Symptoms

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"i find i can't really connect with this, considering almost all my daydreams are dark and have some form of pain in them. all my characters ever go through is hard times. "
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Source commented on OhMyMagenta's blog post I wonder
"I think Matthew hit the nail on the head with that last line. After all perception is everything when it comes to how we experience anything at all. While I don't think that we actually lower our real-life standards, there's the matter of…"
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"I like what you wrote, especially at the end, that we don't have to let our self-hatred drive us. When i daydream, i'm really just distracting myself from all the ugly feelings i have. I used to play computer games compulsively, until i…"
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"Oh, this is slightly off topic, but I wanted to comment on what Source said. "There's no such thing as 'out of your league' unless you deliberately allow it to exist." I admit i have had daydreams where i did imagine someone…"
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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.


Daydreaming about the same Imaginary Boyfriend for 14 years

Started by Julie. Last reply by Source on Thursday. 20 Replies

It started when I was twelve. I used to day dream during classes (especially Chemistry), long car rides, and, of course, before bed.After 14 years, he's still there, same face, just minor personality changes.Whenever I'm in a new relationship, he…Continue

My MD Story

Started by Lloyd Plueschow Apr 20. 0 Replies

My MD situation started very young and is usually negative and rarely positive. It usually involves negative antagonists that make my life miserable and challenging. Even the positive MDs start great and then someone comes in to mess it up. Often…Continue

For Those Age 30 and Over...

Started by candee. Last reply by Jennifer Apr 20. 27 Replies

I've been lurking here for a while but I've finally worked up the courage to post.I'm nearly 50 years old and I've been a MD'er from a very, very young age (my guess is it started around 4-5 years old - from what I can remember). I have never been…Continue

Does anyone play The Sims and make their characters and live their lives through the game?

Started by Leanne. Last reply by Betsy Warren Apr 17. 4 Replies

I find the game was mega useful when thinking up my characters appearance and personalities. So whenever I did go back to my daydreams I could just imangine my sims faces.It's also a good way to live my fantasies in my mind without having to…Continue

To all those reluctant to quit: Letting go of MD and what it is (not)

Started by Eretaia. Last reply by Rose Apr 16. 14 Replies

Dedicated to all those of you scared of losing MD.--- If someone were to give you a pill that would cure MD, would you take it?Would you end this?You could call this a typical dilemma that eventually slaps every addict in the face and keeps them in…Continue


Started by riavjvrj. Last reply by Rose Apr 16. 5 Replies

so my brother is older than me, old enough to drive, so my parents are planning to get him a car. One day they were talking about driving in the other room and I just happened to say something about how I would probably be terrible at driving…Continue

Naming Characters

Started by Meghan Sheath. Last reply by Rose Apr 16. 11 Replies

Hey!I am just wondering if someone else does this. I make an awesome character backstory, personality, plot. But I have a problem when making my characters : the names. When I was younger the characters didn't need names. Every time someone said…Continue

Character ages and real ages

Started by Rose. Last reply by Rose Apr 16. 5 Replies

Hi everyone. I think this was covered once before but I can't seem to find the original post. Something that bothers me and is always lurking in the back of my mind is my character's ages vs their real ages.My conundrum is: when the 'me' character…Continue

Addiction, cravings and MD: what they mean and where they come from

Started by Eretaia. Last reply by Paulina Nowak Apr 12. 7 Replies

I throw the term addiction a lot when talking about MD but I figured it might need some explaining because addiction, although it seems like a totally incoherent behavior or just a messed up brain chemistry, is one very logical mechanism. ---Put…Continue

Event spirals

Started by Source. Last reply by Source Apr 12. 9 Replies

Events in the last few months and most notably the last couple of weeks have had me thinking about the possibility of there being "stages" to a maladaptive daydreamer's condition over time, different for everyone down to the details but apparently…Continue


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    Out Of My Mind (article I wrote on MD)

    This is an article I wrote for my writing class about MD.  

    Out of My Mind…


    Created by Cordellia Amethyste Rose Nov 22, 2010 at 7:36pm. Last updated by Cordellia Amethyste Rose Nov 22, 2010.

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    Created by Cordellia Amethyste Rose Feb 20, 2010 at 11:14am. Last updated by Cordellia Amethyste Rose Feb 20, 2010.


    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.


    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.



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