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Fergus McRobson replied to Cole's discussion Has Mdd helped or hurt you more?
"I some way yes. I do have trouble relating to people. Mainly because they are not as true as my imaginary friends. My imaginary friend stick by me through thick and thin no matter how mush life sucks. And yes I have felt like life has not lead up to…"
7 hours ago
Fergus McRobson replied to Silver Swan's discussion Conversations in my MDD
"No that is an interesting point"
8 hours ago
Fergus McRobson replied to Fergus McRobson's discussion “Mal”adaptiive day dreaming?
"At one piont I was concerned about myself. Then I found this and it is good to talk to others who do the same. It almost makes me feel normal. Just kidding.  As a point Of inter3xt, do have control over it. "
8 hours ago
Fergus McRobson replied to Fergus McRobson's discussion “Mal”adaptiive day dreaming?
"I agree with both of you remarks. "
8 hours ago
Silver Swan replied to Finrod Felagund's discussion Does anyone else use MDD to fulfill a need you are desiring?
"We can make the most of reality if we can."
14 hours ago
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Stasia OBrien replied to Finrod Felagund's discussion Does anyone else use MDD to fulfill a need you are desiring?
"I think this is the exactly why we MDD. Because we have a need that cannot be filled in reality. "
17 hours ago
Stasia OBrien replied to Cole's discussion Has Mdd helped or hurt you more?
"Ah, I got you!  Thanks for clarifying! Yeah, it actually helps me be a good actress believe it or not. And b/c it is my passion, when I am acting or producing or filmmaking, I am not MDD'ing. I have even used some of my MDDs for…"
19 hours ago
Silver Swan replied to Cole's discussion Has Mdd helped or hurt you more?
"I guess, I should say "can't," not couldn't...yet again, maybe that's narrow thinking. For example, I was a backdrop tree/frame in a high school play 'Robin Hood' and you really had to listen up for rehearsal…"
20 hours ago
Stasia OBrien replied to Fergus McRobson's discussion “Mal”adaptiive day dreaming?
"It can be harmful if too much is spent daydreaming and it is keeping you from other things such as work, school, etc.  Many people feel that they lose a lot of time each day daydreaming which adds up to years. For me, I was living more inside…"
22 hours ago
Stasia OBrien replied to Cole's discussion Has Mdd helped or hurt you more?
"I know but you said "couldn't be somewhere else""
22 hours ago
OhMyMagenta replied to Cole's discussion Has Mdd helped or hurt you more?
"Hmm tricky question! My daydreaming began in early childhood as a means to cope with an unpleasant home environment, alcoholic/neglectful parent, & feeling unsafe in my daily life. That time spent daydreaming provided a brief reprieve into a…"
yesterday
Silver Swan replied to Cole's discussion Has Mdd helped or hurt you more?
"I mean as a career. Like in movies."
yesterday
Briona replied to Cole's discussion Has Mdd helped or hurt you more?
"Paying attention to life, and all of the demands can feel overwhelming to people like us, it can even feel  scary. I'm really struggling with this right now, and it sucks, but I'll take being present for my life over DDing it away…"
yesterday
Stasia OBrien replied to Silver Swan's discussion Conversations in my MDD
"Yeah, I do emote sometimes when at work, in my car, in public, at rehearsal....lol. I'm usually good at catching myself but for some reason, I can't not emote even though its in my head. It's weird. "
yesterday
Stasia OBrien replied to Cole's discussion Has Mdd helped or hurt you more?
"I always believed you couldn't be somewhere else to be an actress, I guess it all depends. What do you mean?"
yesterday
 

Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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Has Mdd helped or hurt you more?

Started by Cole. Last reply by Fergus McRobson 7 hours ago. 31 Replies

When I was younger, daydreaming gave me an escape from an inescapable situation. But it also stunted the future in a lot of ways. Most importantly, it took away drive. As Thomas Edison once said "Show me a thoroughly satisfied man — and I will show…Continue

Conversations in my MDD

Started by Silver Swan. Last reply by Fergus McRobson 8 hours ago. 8 Replies

Whenever things get tense, and I want to talk to somebody about it, my conversation is always shared with an imaginary person. I can tell, because if it were with a real person, they wouldn't share that kind of  empathy. They'd look at me, go "Oh…Continue

“Mal”adaptiive day dreaming?

Started by Fergus McRobson. Last reply by Fergus McRobson 8 hours ago. 6 Replies

they discribe this as “mal adaptive day dreaming” but the prefix “mal” comes from latin word malace (sorry for my poor knowledge of latin) but it mean to harm or something bad. To use the example of the word “mal practice” is used to descibe a rouge…Continue

Does anyone else use MDD to fulfill a need you are desiring?

Started by Finrod Felagund. Last reply by Silver Swan 14 hours ago. 8 Replies

What I have noticed about myself is that my daydreams will try to comfort or supplant the need I’m desiring in my life at that moment. Right now I’m going through another rough spot in my marriage. So my need now is to feel loved and feel some…Continue

MD film - participant search

Started by Laura Emmett on Tuesday. 0 Replies

Hi everyone,I'm someone who has suffered from MD in the past and have a vested interest in spreading awareness on the condition. The medical profession has continuously over-looked how seriousness this disorder can be keep confusing the condition…Continue

Tags: #film, #Maladaptivedaydreaming

When Daydreaming about Crushes

Started by Silver Swan on Monday. 0 Replies

Whenever I daydream about a crush, I feel so enamored that my eyes close shut at inappropriate moments and my head tilts back, looking as if I'm lolling asleep or just "gone." When I'm working all by myself in a room, there's no hard in it. Other…Continue

Journey to a Life Free of Maladaptive Daydreaming

Started by Ulaan Gom. Last reply by Silver Swan on Sunday. 84 Replies

Day 1 - I've been Maladaptive Daydreaming for over four years now, and I know that it's time to stop. I've recently been able to improve my life, but am facing some obstacles right now and want to clear my mind and focus on improvement. Today I…Continue

Is daydreaming and fantasizing the same exact thing

Started by David Burkett Oct 12. 0 Replies

Is daydreaming and fantasizing the same exact thing? I feel like the work fantasize is a better word for this disorder

MDD can make me laugh

Started by Silver Swan Oct 12. 0 Replies

Whenever I suddenly think of something funny, I can't help but start laughing. Only thing is, I almost forget where I really am. So, I suddenly hear my relative ask, "What's so funny, Jess?" or "What's up with that giggling?" If it's non-family,…Continue

Does anyone know?

Started by A. Last reply by Sofia Oct 10. 595 Replies

Do your friends or family know about your daydreaming? What are their feelings/reactions to it? This is the only place where I can talk about my daydreaming. I've never told anyone and I'd be mortified if my family found out.Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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