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& It's time, time, time

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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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Slipping back...

Started by Martin . Last reply by Martin on Monday. 2 Replies

Hi, it's my first time posting here, and I have had MDD since I was a child I believe. I had no clue what my daydreams really were, and I daydreamed a lot, and had a big imagination and what not. But once I got older the daydreams never really…Continue

7 years...

Started by Moymoy. Last reply by Moymoy on Sunday. 4 Replies

Hi! I'm 21 yrs old and i think i started daydreaming when i was 15. I was so shy back then that I cant even initiate a conversation with anyone so I just listened to music and imagined myself being with friends. I didn't know about it then but now.…Continue

Conflicted about MDD

Started by againstri. Last reply by BlackUnicorn on Saturday. 4 Replies

Does anyone else feel conflicted? As in most times DD is under control, relaxing, and OK and other times it sends you into a horrible horrible depression?I can't tell if I just slip into super lows and blame the daydreaming or if the daydreaming…Continue

My brain does not shut off

Started by Molly Allen. Last reply by dark thoughts on Saturday. 7 Replies

Hello all, this is my first time posting, so please bear with me.  I have been experiencing issues with MD since I can remember (i am now almost 21 years old) and some of my earliest memories are of very vivid, involved and immersive daydreams that…Continue

Memory

Started by Mubashra. Last reply by Liliana Stewart on Friday. 2 Replies

So we all know how easy it is to implant a false memory, right? I mean, for starters, memories are never entirely reliable and become even less so as time passes. But a memory specifically regarding a traumatic incident is very easily changed; a…Continue

Lucid Dreams

Started by Ellen. Last reply by MatthewR Dec 1. 2 Replies

At first, I want to say (write:)) hello, that's my first time when I write here (and probably last, cause I'm too lazy lol) although I've made this account long ago. And my English... Yeah, and mistakes... I'm not sorry (or I just wanna think that…Continue

Introduction AKA Hello world! Nice to meet ya!

Started by Spotted Shadow. Last reply by BlackUnicorn Nov 28. 1 Reply

***That moment when you sign up on this site years ago and haven't actually said a thing until now.ugh I had one job how hard is it to talk to people mother of--Hello! My fake internet name's Spotted Shadow! Feel free to call me... anything(?) you…Continue

Do you have a type?

Started by OhMyMagenta. Last reply by Lezah Walker Nov 21. 10 Replies

So I was thinking about the characters in my daydreams & what roles they fill. In every DD scenario, no matter how different the realm, I always have a set of roles present that characters play. A strong Alpha male who is very protective of me,…Continue

Maladaptive daydreaming (MD): Call for participation in a study

Started by bluemeasure. Last reply by Church Nov 21. 2 Replies

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0pYHfLvGYIo&t=3sI don't believe he posted a link to the questionnaire or anything. If you are interested, send him an email or message via his…Continue

I stopped daydreaming

Started by Liz. Last reply by Zack Nov 21. 9 Replies

Hi everyone! There seem to be quite a few people looking for ways to stop MDDing, so I figured I would share my story :)I started daydreaming when I was around 11, mainly as a coping method to deal with ugly life events. In middle school, I would…Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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