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pacing is ruining my house pt 2

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Maladaptive Daydreamers Worldwide

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How I Ended Up Here - NE

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Ok ok, I give up.

Posted by Valkyrie on July 19, 2016 at 6:20pm 4 Comments

Meditation and MDD!

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Real Time

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Another Me

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increase in daydreaming

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Stasia OBrien replied to Sage's discussion Running and Skipping in the dark
"Sage - just my therapist and only recently b/c at first, I was ashamed and embarrassed and then I didn't want to give it up. But it is affecting my real life too much now so its way past time.  Not that I think I will have to give it up…"
1 hour ago
Kali_74 replied to Sage's discussion Running and Skipping in the dark
"No, you are not schizophrenic, none of us are since we realize our DDs aren´t real. My mother was schizophrenic and she couldn´t differentiate the reality from her delusions and hallucinations. You´re not alone, I thought I was…"
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Kali_74 replied to Sage's discussion Running and Skipping in the dark
"When nobody sees me I walk in circles or dance alone to the music while I daydream. I have problems hiding my facial expressions, too. Once, my mother-in-law caught me talking alone, of course I wasn´t talking alone, I was talking with my…"
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Kali_74 liked Sage's discussion Running and Skipping in the dark
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Aj replied to Stasia OBrien's discussion Anxiety
"I totally relate to this; I get extremely anxious and depressed whenever the real world "conflicts" with my MDD. Sometimes it even leads to suicidal ideation, which obviously sucks. I take Klonopin sometimes and that helps a little bit.…"
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Valkyrie replied to Kia Hood's discussion Jokes in the group Happiness :D
"Ha ha nice. :)"
4 hours ago
Sage replied to Sage's discussion Running and Skipping in the dark
"Stasia I honestly thought I was the only person in the world who did this until I came upon this page back in 2012. Does anyone know ( family or friends) know about your MDD?"
17 hours ago
Stasia OBrien replied to Adriene's discussion Does anyone know?
"Nope. No one except this community and my therapist - who I only told recently."
Stasia OBrien replied to Sage's discussion Running and Skipping in the dark
"I actually - for years - use to rock back and forth to music in the dark when I MDD'd.  I haven't done it in years but it used to be daily."
Stasia OBrien replied to Ulaan Gom's discussion Overcoming Maladaptive Daydreaming
"Actually, I have read that our MDD isn't about WHAT we are daydreaming about...its about US. So, its US that we don't like and are trying to avoid.  We want to be someone else b/c we don't like who we are. It makes perfect sense…"
Kate replied to Kate's discussion How much daydreaming should I stop?
"Hi Valkyrie, Thank you! That means a lot. I've managed to make it to 30 days without doing what I consider a full blown music session but I'm starting to MDD without music - I did it once in my bedroom and  this evening I've…"
Kali_74 commented on LostInEyes's blog post Medication
"I took paroxetine in the past due to a major depression I had but also made me daydream less and stay focused in studying."
Ulaan Gom replied to Ulaan Gom's discussion Overcoming Maladaptive Daydreaming
"Maybe there's an underlying discontent in our lives. I've experienced the same thing where I've daydreamed so long for something but then when I get it in real life, I discover that it's not at all what I had wanted. I really…"
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Kali_74 replied to Cann C's discussion For Those Age 30 and Over...
"Hi, Cann, I´m glad to read your post and I fee so identified with you and  your experience. I´ll answer your questions: 1) How old are you now? I´m 42 years old. 2) When did you start? I started at 5 o 6 years old. 3) Did you…"

Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.


Running and Skipping in the dark

Started by Sage. Last reply by Stasia OBrien 1 hour ago. 18 Replies

Hi everyone. I've been lurking for a while and managed to summon the courage to ask questions. I've had MD since I was 4. I'm 41 now. At first it was pacing. Then as my life got more traumatic ( alcoholic verbally abusive father...teased and bullied…Continue


Started by Stasia OBrien. Last reply by Aj 2 hours ago. 7 Replies

Hey all,So, My MDD involves male celebs  - part of my MDD is making my self a character in the celebs' tv show/film, and the other part is being me, the actress, and having a relationship with them.When the reality that they have started dating…Continue

Does anyone know?

Started by Adriene. Last reply by Stasia OBrien yesterday. 517 Replies

Do your friends or family know about your daydreaming? What are their feelings/reactions to it? This is the only place where I can talk about my daydreaming. I've never told anyone and I'd be mortified if my family found out.Continue

Overcoming Maladaptive Daydreaming

Started by Ulaan Gom. Last reply by Stasia OBrien yesterday. 24 Replies

Hi everyone!I'm writing here today because Maladaptive Daydreaming has been a major problem in my life: it has caused my motivation levels to drop, my priorities to get skewed, and my neglect for the things that really matter in my life to worsen.…Continue

How much daydreaming should I stop?

Started by Kate. Last reply by Kate yesterday. 2 Replies

Hello,So okay, first a little background.  I have been maladaptive daydreaming since I can remember. The most destructive side of my habit was the amount of time I would spend - when I was young whole weekends -  listening to music and running about…Continue

Tags: music, writing, quitting, daydreaming

For Those Age 30 and Over...

Started by Cann C. Last reply by Kali_74 on Saturday. 11 Replies

I've been lurking here for a while but I've finally worked up the courage to post.I'm nearly 50 years old and I've been a MD'er from a very, very young age (my guess is it started around 4-5 years old - from what I can remember). I have never been…Continue

MD Community Survey Available

Started by Wrena. Last reply by Odilia on Friday. 5 Replies

I thought I would share this here if anyone is struggling with the issue of feeling alone. Maladaptive Daydreaming Community SurveyMaladaptive daydreaming is often a private and…Continue

Tags: daydreams, fantasy, support, excessive, disorder

What about famous people - singers, actors.. ?

Started by Asta. Last reply by Leigh-anne on Friday. 13 Replies

Hey everyone,I was wondering do you daydream about famous actors, singers and other artist?I really think my weak spot is male singers. If the singer is beautiful, has an amazing voice, I am helpless and start to daydream, create romantic stories…Continue

Anyone use it to their advantage when studying?

Started by Josh. Last reply by Vendela Collins on Thursday. 7 Replies

I'm new here and was wondering:Anyone ever use day dreaming to their advantage when studying for exams? I recently graduated university and am now in a professional designation, and I've found with both if I can study for about 45 mins and day dream…Continue

God's punishment? (Help!)

Started by Aquamarine. ♡❄. Last reply by Valkyrie Jul 16. 18 Replies

Hey... me venting again (which, is usually what I'm known for anyway). This is like... the bottom I never wanted to reach, I feel like I'm truly faced with two paths and I have to decide NOW which to pick.I would be deeply grateful if you read my…Continue


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    Out Of My Mind (article I wrote on MD)

    This is an article I wrote for my writing class about MD.  

    Out of My Mind…


    Created by Cordellia Amethyste Rose Nov 22, 2010 at 7:36pm. Last updated by Cordellia Amethyste Rose Nov 22, 2010.

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    Created by Cordellia Amethyste Rose Feb 20, 2010 at 11:14am. Last updated by Cordellia Amethyste Rose Feb 20, 2010.


    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.


    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.



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