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Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.
For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.
This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.
I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.
This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.
One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.
This probably will be written unorganized and with tons of grammar errors but if I put off writing this it will never get done. I'm more than likely going to be less descriptive than I could be for the sake of getting the point across without being…Continue
So I read some of the posts before making an account but I didn't see any that described my problem exactlyIn my daydreams, sure, everyone likes me or whatever, I'm an ideal person, so it's maladaptive in a wayExcept, in them, my life isn't perfect-…Continue
Hey!I am just wondering if someone else does this. I make an awesome character backstory, personality, plot. But I have a problem when making my characters : the names. When I was younger the characters didn't need names. Every time someone said…Continue
Hi, first - I am very greatful to have found this page and to be able to share your stories. I myself faced reality last year - in my therapy (psychodynamic) - when realising how I step aside from reality at times, into bubbles of a more pleasant…Continue
Do your friends or family know about your daydreaming? What are their feelings/reactions to it? This is the only place where I can talk about my daydreaming. I've never told anyone and I'd be mortified if my family found out.Continue
So I've always suffered from very negative daydreams where I'm usually abused, raped, mistreated, etc. I do not know why they are so negative and I hate it but cannot seem to change it. While my highschool ex was not a good match for me and tried to…Continue
The forums (and chat) have slowed down. If you are checking into the forums and read this please respond with a quick "Hi, I'm still around!".As long as you are here take the time to reply to some other thread as well. It is easy enough. I'm sure…Continue
Hello! I'm a psychology student at the final year of my studies. I hope to find out how Mindfulness-based app may help maladaptive daydreamers who use social media excessively to reduce their time spent on SM and MD and improve their self-esteem.…Continue
I have always felt I have wasted years of myLife skipping around in my room daydreaming of being a better version of myself. I've always been so ashamed of it. I'm actually shocked there are people out there doing the exact same thing.How do you…Continue
Hi everyone. I think this was covered once before but I can't seem to find the original post. Something that bothers me and is always lurking in the back of my mind is my character's ages vs their real ages.My conundrum is: when the 'me' character…Continue
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This is an article I wrote for my writing class about MD.
Out of My Mind…Continue