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mdd is a blessing,,,,,,,,,but

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Need MD Sobriety Friend

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I can’t daydream anymore

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I'd rather take a plane to Scotland

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Daydreaming actors? Good or bad?

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the unknown person

Posted by greyartist on July 21, 2015 at 11:34am 1 Comment

"Obsessive Fans"

Posted by Andie S. on July 18, 2015 at 8:30am 4 Comments

Back for the 4th time

Posted by zeina on July 13, 2015 at 5:23pm 1 Comment

How do I find help?

Posted by JD on July 10, 2015 at 10:32pm 3 Comments

Taking pills

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Reza commented on Simran's blog post I'M STUPID, DUMB. I JUST TRY TO BE OVERSMART SO I GET ATTENTION
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I'M STUPID, DUMB. I JUST TRY TO BE OVERSMART SO I GET ATTENTION

I'm really dumb and stupid. Im so clumsy. And as I daydream, I try to be an extrovert and centre of attention in reality but unfortunately end up appearing even more dumb. Ive been called so by my teachers in primary school and by others who are not even superior to me like my teachers are. Since ive grown now, nobody tells this to me in my face. But im sure thats what they'll be thinking.......she's so stupid. The unfortunate part is.......im soon going to complete my mbbs in a year. So im…See More
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Shadow Cat Sam replied to Dizzy R's discussion MD and (a)sexuality?
"I'v been experiencing waking dream states all the way back to itty-bitty hood. Some have a life of their own and some I control and or script. I'v had all kinds of immersive daydreams form an early age, including sexual. Pretty much…"
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Shadow Cat Sam replied to Mubashra's discussion Uniting the Two Worlds- Bad Idea?
"I keep them entirely separate in that I don't tell real life people about my day dreams. And my daydreams are pretty much all original content and separate worlds.  And even as a child I never experienced the first stage you speak of. "
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Eretaia replied to Eretaia's discussion Yes, you can cure Maladaptive Daydreaming
"Hey, Sophie.  Don't think like this, it can become incredibly toxic. You can feel the love and acceptance in your daydreams, right? If you can feel it there, then you have the potential to feel it here in reality too. The potential is…"
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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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"Social bravery"

Started by Swords Dance. Last reply by Shadow Cat Sam yesterday. 9 Replies

Earlier today at the gym, I saw a girl that I used to go to high school with. We didn't know each other, only by mutual friends to an extent. She was squatting, and in between sets she would bend over and rest, so her butt was out. Being a guy, I…Continue

MDD Inherited

Started by Florence. Last reply by Shadow Cat Sam yesterday. 2 Replies

Hi everybody, I'm new at the forum, just got accepted.I recently discovered that i have MDD. I have done it all my life since I can recall, but never questioned myself about it.I knew it was weird because I never let anyone now, usually i pace…Continue

ADHD

Started by Lexi. Last reply by Shadow Cat Sam yesterday. 13 Replies

just a question. I have ADHD, i was diagnosed 3 weeks ago, and it totally explains my "maladaptive daydreaming". Maybe for all of you daydreamers, there might be a chemical imbalance in your brain causing this. because this is not at all normal.…Continue

MD and (a)sexuality?

Started by Dizzy R. Last reply by Shadow Cat Sam on Wednesday. 20 Replies

PREAMBLE: If you are asexual, I would love to hear your thoughts below. If you have a normal sex life and don't think your sexuality and MD have anything to do with each other, that would be reassuring to some extent. If you currently don't know or…Continue

Tags: causes, comorbidity, sexuality, asexuality

Uniting the Two Worlds- Bad Idea?

Started by Mubashra. Last reply by Shadow Cat Sam on Tuesday. 4 Replies

I have come to categorise MD in it's various stages. The first stage, where you make up short, random daydreams, picturing yourself in different situations, which is actually so common it might not even be categorised as MD. But as it progresses,…Continue

Yes, you can cure Maladaptive Daydreaming

Started by Eretaia. Last reply by Eretaia on Tuesday. 67 Replies

Two years ago when I joined this community, I think I was more dead than alive. I've been waging quite a brutal war with maladaptive dreaming and the array of issues that underlie it ever since then and I'm on my way out of this prison. I wanted to…Continue

Tags: daydreaming, maladaptive, cure

I've figured it out

Started by Caitlin. Last reply by mirrorgirl on Monday. 9 Replies

Hey everyone, I think I know how I can stop daydreaming now. I daydream because I am incredibly lonely and long for romantic intimacy. Last night I was thinking about it and it actually hurt thinking about how lonely I was and how much I want for…Continue

My daydream characters have such messed up lives!

Started by Kay M. Last reply by Kay M on Monday. 25 Replies

Anyone else have a totally normal life with not much in the way of bad things happening to them, but have characters who have been through the most unbelievably awful things that can happen to a person?Except for my alter ego, who has the same…Continue

I Miss My Fantasy World...

Started by Audrey. Last reply by Sophie on Monday. 3 Replies

I have overcome the majority of my MDD and for the most part it has been a godsend because I've been able to get my life back together. I just wish that when I was as stressed out as I currently am I could take a break and enter that realm. But…Continue

Why do I "want" to share things I like?

Started by Givera Givera on Sunday. 0 Replies

I am trying to get rid of my MD by trying to keep records of all kinds of triggers and reasons behind it and then trying to understand and stop them for example strong emotions and boredom always throw me into DDs and I don't realize it until like…Continue

Tags: frustration, likes, interests, triggers

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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