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Aj replied to David Burkett's discussion Another name for this disorder
"Absolutely, the word “daydream” just sounds so innocent and makes it seem like a choice. Another name I’ve heard for it is compulsive fantasizing, which I like a bit better."
4 hours ago
David Burkett liked David Burkett's discussion Another name for this disorder
7 hours ago
Silver Swan posted a discussion

Recovering from MD is difficult

My head is starting to clear up and I am making more sense out of my former fantasies. However, I am waking up to this isolating, uneventful and friendless life. I almost never travel anywhere. Although, I do look at social meetups and events in my area, I really suck at committing to them. I'm afraid new people will not find me 'OK' or really weird, or not even like me. I have a very silent personality. I have a degree in computer graphics, but most times I usually worked at home, doing a…See More
14 hours ago
David Burkett posted a discussion

Another name for this disorder

Do you guys ever feel like you wish this disorder had another name for it? I feel like it throws people off because when they think of daydreaming they think of just being an airhead or somebody who shouldn't be driving a car or operating a forklift. It's more about clinging on to fantasies and obsessions for our emotional needs of self expression.
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Karlisie posted a discussion

What do you think ?

Hi everyone,So I want to share my story to see if anyone can relate. I've been daydreaming for as far as I can remember. At first it was a way to escape from an hard life and then it just started to be normal, a part of me. Everytime something's wrong or I'm sad I daydream and I realise I do it all the time now. My trigger is music but I can also do it while walking in a forest... For example I cannot be in a car without music and so I daydream. I red some of the posts and some people were…See More
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Silver Swan replied to Hope's discussion How I've Decreased/Stopped My MD
"This is very inspiring. I am 32 years old, have been doing MD since I was 12. Since I discovered Wild Minds, my MD has too decreased 50%-70%. I suffered from autism, rarely made any friends, and always found reality so bland and dreary. I spent so…"
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Hope posted a discussion

How I've Decreased/Stopped My MD

So this a really, really long post I know.PLEASE, please don't be harsh in the comments - this is all highly personal and really difficult for me to disclose. I FULLY understand this is ONLY my own experience. I am not trying to preach, or play amateur psychiatrist, or say this will work for anyone. I know everyone is different and has different reasons for their MD and I greatly respect that. I am NOT cured of MD and I am not claiming this is the answer to anything - it's simply what has…See More
yesterday
Hope replied to Julia's discussion Has anyone "gotten out" of MD? The transition isn't easy
"I can absolutely relate to everything you have said. I have recently been able to decrease my MD by about 50-70% per day (depending on the kind of day I'm having). The transition to "reality" is difficult! I also create a type of…"
yesterday
Rose commented on Silver Swan's blog post Being Different and Day dreaming
"Aw I’m sorry to hear.. I was diagnosed with a touch of autism and  I tend to not know what to do around people and sometimes act weird, but I think you can form a relationship with someone eventually. People pick on others because they…"
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Rose posted a discussion

My daydreaming

Hi, I’ve been daydreaming since I was very little. When I daydream I run back and forth in the house and I know it is not normal. It is just what I do when I daydream and I always have since I could walk. I’m 15 currently and my mom only knows that I run back and forth. She refers to it as my “running” and we don’t tell anyone. I don’t do it in front of anyone accept few family members. I never told anyone what the “running” really is about. It is about daydreaming. I daydream about all kinds…See More
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Silver Swan replied to Silver Swan's discussion Had to stop MD
"If it wasn't for the internet...and social media...and this website, I would have kept on going. I now wonder what possessed me to even get started in the first place. Maybe, I got too lonely and just wanted a company of friends. I probably…"
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Silver Swan posted a discussion

Had to stop MD

I used to do maladaptive day dreaming, but I think it's done some things to my head. My concentration and awareness to the world isn't the same. I'm not attuned to things and I get so clumsy. My head is tired rather often, I get concerning aches and sprains everywhere. So I quit the compulsive day dreaming. If I still did this, my eyes shut and my head spaces out or fogs. This really freaks people out! It even gets worse as I get older. I'm only 32 years old.See More
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Paul Rapp posted a discussion

Fantasy Characters based on real people

So I am dealing with something right now and there are not a lot of people that I can discuss it with. It occurs to me that this community is one that would likely understand.Have any of you ever created a character in your daydreams based on a real person? Do you feel as if you actually had a relationship with that person when, in fact, you did not?In high school I had a major infatuation with a girl in my class. She was a fairly popular girl, but I was not a popular guy. I tried to get close…See More
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Silver Swan replied to Silver Swan's discussion People Notice when I Day Dream
"I do know somebody in my town, and she doesn't know I am a former MDD'er. I too afraid to mention this because we scarcely see each other enough. She also tends to react at things that are not exactly good. I could try to tell her."
Thursday
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Look at the Bright Side

This is for the daydreamers that don't look at their disorder as a curse but yet as a gift; a gift given to a select few that allows them to live not one, but many lives.See More
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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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Another name for this disorder

Started by David Burkett. Last reply by Aj 4 hours ago. 1 Reply

Do you guys ever feel like you wish this disorder had another name for it? I feel like it throws people off because when they think of daydreaming they think of just being an airhead or somebody who shouldn't be driving a car or operating a…Continue

Recovering from MD is difficult

Started by Silver Swan 14 hours ago. 0 Replies

My head is starting to clear up and I am making more sense out of my former fantasies. However, I am waking up to this isolating, uneventful and friendless life. I almost never travel anywhere. Although, I do look at social meetups and events in my…Continue

What do you think ?

Started by Karlisie yesterday. 0 Replies

Hi everyone,So I want to share my story to see if anyone can relate. I've been daydreaming for as far as I can remember. At first it was a way to escape from an hard life and then it just started to be normal, a part of me. Everytime something's…Continue

How I've Decreased/Stopped My MD

Started by Hope. Last reply by Silver Swan yesterday. 1 Reply

So this a really, really long post I know.PLEASE, please don't be harsh in the comments - this is all highly personal and really difficult for me to disclose. I FULLY understand this is ONLY my own experience. I am not trying to preach, or play…Continue

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Has anyone "gotten out" of MD? The transition isn't easy

Started by Julia. Last reply by Hope yesterday. 6 Replies

Hello !Well, I think it’s not possible to stop completely 100% - I feel that the tendency and ability to produce immersive and elaborate daydreamings can’t just “go away” like that. The thing is that, only 1 year before now, I was still spending…Continue

Had to stop MD

Started by Silver Swan. Last reply by Theaxe yesterday. 3 Replies

I used to do maladaptive day dreaming, but I think it's done some things to my head. My concentration and awareness to the world isn't the same. I'm not attuned to things and I get so clumsy. My head is tired rather often, I get concerning aches and…Continue

My daydreaming

Started by Rose on Friday. 0 Replies

Hi, I’ve been daydreaming since I was very little. When I daydream I run back and forth in the house and I know it is not normal. It is just what I do when I daydream and I always have since I could walk. I’m 15 currently and my mom only knows that…Continue

paranoid type feelings

Started by kelly grimes. Last reply by Theaxe on Friday. 2 Replies

just joined, but as I'm replying to things and starting to read posts, I'm getting this feeling of want ng to just stop, signout, delete everything. I'm feeling like my BF or kids or somebody will open my computer and find this or google my name and…Continue

Day Dreaming When Happy?

Started by Daily Dreamer. Last reply by Theaxe on Friday. 7 Replies

Just a quick question for people,  I have read a lot of posts while I was waiting to get approved for the site, and I have noticed a lot of people use day dreaming as tool for when they are feeling down or depressed as means of escape. I am the…Continue

Fantasy Characters based on real people

Started by Paul Rapp. Last reply by Theaxe on Friday. 1 Reply

So I am dealing with something right now and there are not a lot of people that I can discuss it with. It occurs to me that this community is one that would likely understand.Have any of you ever created a character in your daydreams based on a real…Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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