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Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.
For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.
This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.
I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.
This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.
One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.
Since I like to write a lot, and I've written a few novels, I've given a lot of thought to what famous writers (and other creative types) have been maladaptive daydreamers.I suspect that one of my favorite writers, JK Rowling, was one of us. She…Continue
A thing with my maladaptive daydreaming is that there are certain things that really trigger it, more than normal, and whenever I end up triggered like this, I have a kind of manic mood swing. It will be something like, increased pain tolerance and…Continue
Hey... me venting again (which, is usually what I'm known for anyway). This is like... the bottom I never wanted to reach, I feel like I'm truly faced with two paths and I have to decide NOW which to pick.I would be deeply grateful if you read my…Continue
I cannot believe that after living with my secret world for 30+ years, there is not only a term for it, but other people with it too. I only by chance happened upon the term yesterday during a google search for symptoms of depression, after my…Continue
I used to daydream as a way to escape and it used to make me feel better, it helped me anxiety a lot. Lately all of my daydreams are depressing, sad, full of anxiety and pain. What I put my daydream characters through is extreme and I can't seem to…Continue
Some of us have been looking for a way to add polls - it doesn't seem possible to simply embed the code into posts. So, I've found an easy compromise - Straw Polls. They're easy to setup and all we have to do is add the given link to a post.To see…Continue
So... this is my first time interacting with other MDers and it makes me so happy! :D Feels awesome not struggling while explaining your complicated situation to someone who will eventually see it as a made-up disorder to gain pity and attention...…Continue
I have known all along how and when my day dreaming began. In middle school, high school and through half of my college I had these chronic headache's accompanied by sinus inflammation, eye watering etc that made it impossible for me to concentrate…Continue
There have been so many times when I'll be listening to someone speak and then all of a sudden I'll just melt into a daydream and completely miss an entire conversation or instruction. I am conscious of the fact that these are daydreams and when…Continue
gonna try to make this as brief as possible - i think daydreaming (at least in my case) has a lot to do with having power over things. you can create whatever you want, do whatever you want, and say whatever you want. and if it doesn't work out,…Continue
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This is an article I wrote for my writing class about MD.
Out of My Mind…Continue