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Lost Zone

Posted by Jessica Ballantyne on August 15, 2017 at 10:01am 0 Comments

real life

Posted by docho on August 15, 2017 at 6:50am 0 Comments

dreams don't manifest

Posted by Jessica Ballantyne on August 14, 2017 at 8:30am 0 Comments

MD has ruined my life

Posted by Damask on August 13, 2017 at 10:06pm 0 Comments

It's Time To Stop

Posted by Emily on August 12, 2017 at 9:01am 0 Comments

Vice Versa if only

Posted by Jessica Ballantyne on August 10, 2017 at 5:30pm 1 Comment

Careful What You Wish For

Posted by Kim Russell on August 9, 2017 at 8:28pm 2 Comments

My Story

Posted by Emily on August 8, 2017 at 2:35pm 1 Comment

Pretending

Posted by Jessica Ballantyne on August 6, 2017 at 8:02pm 0 Comments

Desiderata

Posted by Dave Rair on August 4, 2017 at 11:00pm 3 Comments

Daydreams versus Art

Posted by darmody on August 1, 2017 at 1:22am 1 Comment

Just life

Posted by Jessica Ballantyne on July 31, 2017 at 11:54am 1 Comment

Comfort zones of Mind

Posted by Sam T P on July 26, 2017 at 10:06pm 1 Comment

Our Family Dog Passed Away...

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Ulaan Gom replied to Ulaan Gom's discussion Journey to a Life Free of Maladaptive Daydreaming
"Day 32 - Honestly my daydreams have become more severe over the past two days, especially due to a sense of disappointment that I am not living up to my potential in real life. I really need to wean away from that perspective of pressure and focus…"
8 hours ago
Ulaan Gom replied to greyartist's discussion Dr Somer new interveiw on MDD
"Watching this video, I was able to draw many parallels between the experience of the person being interviewed and my personal one. The number one trigger by far for daydreaming in my life has been a dissatisfaction with my real life—and…"
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Negative Daydreamers?

Do you ever have negative daydreams? Ones about death, violence, traumatization, or victimization? If so, stop by and tell your story.
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Teenage Dreamers❤

Here is a group for teenagers who are daydreamers and pretty new to this whole thing. Maybe your not new but just having trouble with school and DD? You are all welcome. :)See More
9 hours ago
Jessica Ballantyne posted a discussion

Solved mystery

Now that I thought so hard about this...the pieces are all getting put together. It is a very long and devious story to explain what actually happened with my life. Every time I work, it's like I get these messages from this invisible spiritual force. Anyway, I didn't realize I had Autism until I was 30. Before this, I believed I was just a 'timid odd-ball' or a 'shy awkward' who never fit in too well. I always wondered why everybody was so beastly mad or disgruntled with me. I never understood…See More
17 hours ago
Jessica Ballantyne posted a blog post

Lost Zone

I think that I see what's wrong.....Because I day dreamed excessively for 20 years, the only life I ever knew exists inside my head....I only knew myself inside my head. In the real world, I have no life....I don't exist in reality....I'm currently not "somebody" at all. Seriously, I rarely speak a word to 'real life' people. I practically don't have an existing personality. So, I don't exist in reality to present living people. Therefore, I've never had any relationships up to this very day.…See More
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docho posted a blog post

real life

like most of you i was blatantly surprised and  happy for the fact that there are more people like me..for now am on the learning phase of my condition.....one thing that bothered me is that none of you mentioned about what language u use in your day dream even though English is not my mother tongue i tend to create a most of the scenario with it.See More
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greyartist replied to EllE's discussion God, Angels, Demons, and Alien fantasies?
"Interesting idea. I have also wondered about military mind control programs. I have read allot about shamans and their communication with the other side. But they seem to be able to control it, they have to go into a trace or take a special brew etc…"
Monday
Jessica Ballantyne posted a blog post

dreams don't manifest

I have idea if it was because of AUTISM. I look back at three decades. I smack my head and think, "what an idiot!" It was as if I was 'living in my own world.' Even if I was wide awake and here in this world, I ask myself, "Would I still have seen some differences? Wouldn't I have gotten some opportunities. What are the odds?" Of course, I knew a lot of jerks and bitches in my time. I can't help the fact many people can be jerks....especially to somebody as socially awkward and misfitted as…See More
Monday
Damask posted a blog post

MD has ruined my life

There is nothing else for it.  I struggle so hard to turn it off when I need to. If I could flip a switch and just stop when I'm at work or out being social, that would be great.  If I could just control it, that's what I would like.I once had an old friend give me Adderall, and that was wonderful.  And when I drink, it is also wonderful.  Why?  Because my mind can't wander.  That's what I want; a way to shut it off.See More
Monday
Emily posted a blog post

It's Time To Stop

After joining this website I've come to the conclusion that I finally want to stop this addiction that I have. Don't get me wrong I will miss it like crazy and most likely have terrible urges to go back to it. I'm taking this one step at a time because I know something that has manifested itself for over 10 years won't simply just go away. My main character in my world will always be by my side. She's taught me a lot of things. But it is now time to take a hold of my own personal life. I want…See More
Saturday
Emily replied to Emily's discussion Mental Illness?
"Maladaptive daydreaming is really my only fault, I don't think I have any other serious issues going on with me, maybe some anxiety but everyone experiences that. "
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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

Forum

Journey to a Life Free of Maladaptive Daydreaming

Started by Ulaan Gom. Last reply by Ulaan Gom 8 hours ago. 76 Replies

Day 1 - I've been Maladaptive Daydreaming for over four years now, and I know that it's time to stop. I've recently been able to improve my life, but am facing some obstacles right now and want to clear my mind and focus on improvement. Today I…Continue

Dr Somer new interveiw on MDD

Started by greyartist. Last reply by Ulaan Gom 8 hours ago. 1 Reply

Yalda Hakim, host of Impact on BBC World News interviews a person with maladaptive daydreaming and talks with Prof. Eli Somer, a psychologist who studies this psychological problem…Continue

Tags: MDD, Somer, study, daydreaming, maladaptive

Solved mystery

Started by Jessica Ballantyne 17 hours ago. 0 Replies

Now that I thought so hard about this...the pieces are all getting put together. It is a very long and devious story to explain what actually happened with my life. Every time I work, it's like I get these messages from this invisible spiritual…Continue

Lack of Inspiration?

Started by Emily. Last reply by SamJ on Monday. 1 Reply

While I am maladaptive daydreaming I call it My World. And in my world is a whole new different story of characters I have created in this physical world and one main character that I see myself as or (the person that I wish I could be but am not)…Continue

Tags: inspiration, my, world, dream, story

When to tell significant other

Started by Lysa. Last reply by greyartist on Monday. 2 Replies

(Sorry if I'm repeating a topic, I rarely check in with Wild Minds.)I pace and move my arms while I daydream, so it's impossible to hide for me in a living situation. I'm very happy with my MD, it took a while for me to learn to get it under control…Continue

God, Angels, Demons, and Alien fantasies?

Started by EllE. Last reply by greyartist on Monday. 3 Replies

What if we are messengers? Shamans traditionally could communicate with ET's.  Has anyone had direct contact with God or aliens?Continue

Mental Illness?

Started by Emily. Last reply by greyartist on Monday. 3 Replies

Do you consider maladaptive daydreaming a mental illness? Whenever I think of the word mental illness it's something I could never imagine myself having...it's such a strong word, kind of scary. Continue

Tags: my, world, illness, mental, inspiration

Wish I did it better

Started by Jessica Ballantyne Aug 8. 0 Replies

It beats me as to why I decided to start MDD. I can only guess, I wanted to escape my reality, because my suburban life was not exciting enough and the young kids in my school didn't appear interesting to me. Or I could have been more interested in…Continue

Anne with a E.

Started by Helen Douglas. Last reply by Laura Aug 8. 1 Reply

 Loving the new "Anne of Green Gables" on Netflix. It is darker than all the other versions of Anne.  Anne is a dreamer and imagines herself as Cordelia.  These dreams have persisted since Anne was a child. As you know she was an orphan and treated…Continue

Just asking

Started by Jessica Ballantyne. Last reply by Kim Katz Aug 8. 6 Replies

Has anybody been so complacent with their dream world and contemptuous when people has something to say about you, that you weren't the slightest big concerned about your future? And then when the future came 10-15 years later, you discovered your…Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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