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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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Just learned about this..herin is a long post about what I had to write down today about my revelation

Started by LydiaWylder. Last reply by Jennifer G yesterday. 10 Replies

Its really late for me right now. I live in Arkansas and Its about 3am..eek..nothing new for me there.I wrote a bunch of random thoughts about myself and MD and i'm just gonna copy paste it from my notepad here. I'm not shy like I used to be. I feel…Continue

When did your maladaptive daydreaming start?

Started by Coy. Last reply by Jaray Reeves yesterday. 30 Replies

Just wondering, I know that mine started silently but I could guess that it was when I was about 8. It was probably because of how antisocial I was...

Young-ish MD-ers?

Started by Iza. Last reply by Jaray Reeves yesterday. 68 Replies

Um, I was wondering if there were any teenage daydreamers on here? I'd like to have someone to relate to, or whatever. Of course, it's okay to talk to me if you're any age at all! But it seems like most people on here are older, and they seem to be…Continue

Do you ever feel mentally and physically exhausted?

Started by ɢʜᴏsᴛ yesterday. 0 Replies

I'm not sure if this goes for everyone.Whenever I daydream for long periods of time, (3-4 hours) I start to feel tired. Not just my brain, but my body. I feel like I need to lay down; I feel dizzy, my heart pounds. When this happens, I can't…Continue

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Does anyone know?

Started by Adriene. Last reply by ɢʜᴏsᴛ yesterday. 403 Replies

Do your friends or family know about your daydreaming? What are their feelings/reactions to it? This is the only place where I can talk about my daydreaming. I've never told anyone and I'd be mortified if my family found out.Continue

When and where do your daydreams take place?

Started by Coy. Last reply by ɢʜᴏsᴛ yesterday. 1 Reply

I'm just curious if it is in the present, past, or future? Mine is set into the near future, like a couple of years or so. Where does your daydream take place? Is it your hometown/area, or is it somewhere else, or is it a place completely made up?…Continue

Isn't this better?

Started by Teyla on Monday. 0 Replies

I heard this quote in a movie recently (the movie isn't important and not relevant in any way) but it kind of struck a chord with me and I wondered what other people think about it:-"What if we choose to exist purely in a reality of our own making?…Continue

What's the most physically painful thing that has ever happened to you in a daydream?

Started by The1andonlyAbber. Last reply by Mai Xiong on Sunday. 11 Replies

For me it was when my character fractured her skull and was unconscious for a few days, then broke 3 of her fingers shortly after waking up...all while battling cancer.

Wanna rise above MD ??

Started by Ashish Singh on Saturday. 0 Replies

Greetings to everyone!!!I'am not quiet good at writing but am doing it out of my responsibility to help those like me.I am currently doing a study on MD and if, after going through this blog you think you have MD you can…Continue

HOW DOES MD SHAPED YOUR LIFE ( FOR OLDER PEOPLE OVER 30)

Started by Bee Anchor. Last reply by Robert M. Laramee on Saturday. 16 Replies

 I am trying to understand how MD has shaped the lives of matured adults and the lessons we can learn from them...Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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