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Failed Romantic Life

I spent my entire life day dreaming about getting together so very nicely with people. I'd invent imaginary worlds where I do all sorts of exciting, daring and romantic things with people I had crushes from films and TV shows. I was strongly hoping that in real life, I could still experience building relationships or friendships in the exact same enlightening way. However, when I entered the real world, it was so very disappointed with how badly I bonded with everybody I've ever met. Not only…See More
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This freaks me out

When I woke up from Maladaptive daydreaming at 29, I was absolutely terrified at all the essential things in life that I missed out on. What normal person has never dated before age 30?! I then remembered having thousands of people criticize me in so many ways that it gives me insomnia at night. I didn't seem to really listen to then, nor care at all, because I was so "lost and gone" in my head at all times. I still live at home with mommy and daddy, staring across our field at the same stupid…See More
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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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What does a person on the outside do?

Started by searching mom. Last reply by searching mom yesterday. 9 Replies

I have a daughter who is a MDDr.  She acknowledges that she does this, but doesn't see a way to stop.  I have tried to encourage her to use some of the methods here and she is starting counseling again in a few weeks.  I just don't know what to do…Continue

Do you think MD has made you dull?

Started by SamJ. Last reply by Camoran on Thursday. 2 Replies

I was thinking about this today as I consider what to write on a dating profile as I take the plunge back into the dating game. Do you think MD has made you some what dull? I have no hobbies I read sometimes  and watch movies but most times I…Continue

This freaks me out

Started by Jessica Ballantyne on Wednesday. 0 Replies

When I woke up from Maladaptive daydreaming at 29, I was absolutely terrified at all the essential things in life that I missed out on. What normal person has never dated before age 30?! I then remembered having thousands of people criticize me in…Continue

Did you tell your therapist about it?

Started by Anna. Last reply by JenBren on Tuesday. 1 Reply

Hey,I'm 15 years old and from Germany.Two years ago I was diagnosed with depression since then I was often in therapy. We usually talked about my family or school but I never mentioned my biggest problem, the daydreaming. But it's getting worse and…Continue

Intimidated at the dinner table

Started by Jessica Ballantyne on Sunday. 0 Replies

I feel intimidated at the dinner table, because my family is heavily into talking politics. Whereas, I spent too much time in my day dreams, never paying attention to what's really happening around me. So, I almost have no idea about the political…Continue

Two Opposite Worlds

Started by Jessica Ballantyne Jan 12. 0 Replies

My family still thinks I don't live in this world, and am completely wrapped up in my own. I guess in some ways, I still day dream at times, which all tend to involve stories about me and my fictional friends. Other times, I am intrigued by real…Continue

Past changes everything

Started by Jessica Ballantyne Jan 10. 0 Replies

Having both Autism and a mind that constantly day dreams excessively, I had no choice but to land up a lonely and unfortunate individual. Let's face it, everybody found me too weird for words. My peculiar behavior made them so uncomfortable and they…Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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