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DD-crack

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MD is more common than I thought

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I don't know what to do to get help.

Posted by Zoe on January 28, 2015 at 10:47am 6 Comments

Attention Deficit Disorder and laziness

Posted by Floris on January 27, 2015 at 8:00am 4 Comments

The End of the Western Union

Posted by Richard Quest on January 25, 2015 at 6:36pm 3 Comments

need help ,always thinks about gf

Posted by pankaj on January 21, 2015 at 2:15am 1 Comment

15 things about me

Posted by Cordellia Amethyste Rose on January 18, 2015 at 11:52pm 8 Comments

Exams, and such Blog #3

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Mareeya replied to Kay M's discussion Your current main plots
"I am an online writer so I basically have a lot of plots. Some of them I've already written, some of them I save for future use. my favorite plots are a mashup of reality and fantasy 1) A woman who has been trying to lose weight was…"
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Mareeya replied to Mareeya's discussion Does M.D. progresses/worsens with time? (Do you think I do have M.D.?)
"Thanks for the replies Iris, Blair, Alex, the1andonlyAbber, ohmymagent?. im doing fine with MDD since I concentrated on writing my daydreams down. the only problem I have is my memory.."
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Fitri Kamelia posted a blog post

Finally finished making realization of my characters

After nearly a year (from August 2014-February 2015), my blank book finally full with my drawings - only one blank paper which I planned to draw commission for Alexandrov Ensemble, the music group that trigger my DD since high school. That one wasn't really in hurry actually. But since a week later my family had  to move out to another house (still in same city, though), so I think I must spend my last days for DDing and drawing as much as I can.... until this precious book full.Fortunately, as…See More
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Alta Morden replied to Alta Morden's discussion Addiction versus not enough social connection?
"I was thinking about your replies.   A long time ago the phrase "The solution becomes the problem over time" got stuck in my head.  The DDing starts as a solution to the personal and family issues we face, but over time the…"
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Helen Douglas replied to Alta Morden's discussion Addiction versus not enough social connection?
"Yes Matthew r what you say resonates with me.  I had a difficult childhood and I know my MDD  started very early as a coping mechanism.  My father was a brutal amn and I often wonder how my mother coped. Now, I see that she  no…"
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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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Your current main plots

Started by Kay M. Last reply by Mareeya 6 minutes ago. 20 Replies

What are your current main plots in daydream land?I have a few recurring daydreams at the moment: My alter ego and her wife find a lost kid, and take her in and try and find her parents. Her parents are usually either very neglectful and did not…Continue

Does M.D. progresses/worsens with time? (Do you think I do have M.D.?)

Started by Mareeya. Last reply by Mareeya 53 minutes ago. 6 Replies

Hi Guys! I'm just new here so there's still little that I know of about this condition.. Can you help me out?Before finding out about Maladaptive Daydreaming, I've always thought that there is something in me, maybe my personality and thinking, that…Continue

Addiction versus not enough social connection?

Started by Alta Morden. Last reply by Alta Morden 3 hours ago. 17 Replies

Hi all,This came up in my Facebook news feed, not sure why.  I have long thought of MDD as an addiction and from knowing myself and reading many posts here, MDDers do tend to be socially isolated.  Now I admit that is a "chicken or egg" question,…Continue

Enthusiasm

Started by Floris. Last reply by Floris on Friday. 9 Replies

For as long as I can remember I have been accused of lack of enthusiasm for things I do, even if I love them. When somebody asks "aren't you excited?" I simply can't find that connection. It's like that good feeling of being one with something is…Continue

Hi I'm new here and looking for some help!

Started by Elizabeth. Last reply by Ivy White on Wednesday. 3 Replies

I'm almost eighteen and female. I still live with my family; I will graduate high school in a few months. I only found out about MDD a few weeks ago, when I finally got up the courage to try to find out if anyone else dealt with something similar to…Continue

MDD at work

Started by Ivy White on Wednesday. 0 Replies

Hi all,How do you deal with MDD at work? I tend not to do it when my supervisor is with me in the room, but if I am alone (as I tend to be lately), it flares up immediately. There are deadlines to meet and things to do, but I feel that once I've got…Continue

Meeting The Person Of Your Daydreams.

Started by Daydream Believer. Last reply by Chris Parker on Tuesday. 6 Replies

The people I made up in my daydreams were entirely my own creation.  They were never made from people I knew.  Instead I dreamed them up from scratch, and sometimes the dreamer falls in love with his character.I was thinking that for each of my…Continue

Does anyone know?

Started by Adriene. Last reply by dark thoughts on Monday. 466 Replies

Do your friends or family know about your daydreaming? What are their feelings/reactions to it? This is the only place where I can talk about my daydreaming. I've never told anyone and I'd be mortified if my family found out.Continue

Controlling MD with anti-depressants

Started by ♥. Last reply by Alta Morden Jan 24. 7 Replies

I've found since I started taking paroxetine (paxil) in 2011, my daydreaming is practically non-existent. I just don't have any interest or I just can't get into it.I use to have MD really bad to the point where I couldn't focus on much at all.…Continue

I quit cold turkey

Started by Zoë Verdancii. Last reply by Alta Morden Jan 23. 25 Replies

A week before Halloween - 10/27/14. I quit...A lovely woman was coming to visit me in a few days. I had just realized how truly alone I was, and how great it felt having someone mean something to me so much...how much I'd love to be WITH someone.…Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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