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where did it begin?

Hi there I haven't been on here in a few years...I always tried to figured out what caused mdd for...I recently came to the realization that I have Narcissistic mother and was wondering if anyone else on here was a victim of a narcisist maybe that's why I have mss...thoughts
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Nancy Johnson replied to Cordellia Amethyste Rose's discussion What helps?
"Hi What helps me  - I'm working out every other day. Sometimes, I work out twice a day. I'm MDD-ing to get to my classes. But, once I'm there (and after I work out) I'm very present. I have to be present to get the dance…"
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Do your daydreams ever surprise you?

I'm wondering if anyone else's daydreams have surprised them?I had a lovely daydream about a long lunch with some character pals and I having a good visit. The married couple's banter was so fun, and there were a few times where I felt genuinely surprised by things they said.That may sound crazy, but it's fairly similar to the feeling I get as a writer when a character 'blurts something out' or 'does something I didn't expect.'Has this ever happened to you with your daydreams? No?See More
May 20
Ali Renee replied to Ali Renee's discussion Obsessions, MBTI, and Ballet alter ego, therapist
"Hey, sorry for replying almost a month later, I keep meaning to use this site more.  Its interesting that an INFJ, ENFP, INFP are all on a MDD site- I have been wondering for a while if there is a correlation between type…"
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LGBT MDDers

Because "the Gays just have to be everywhere" and "birds of a feather flock together" -  feel free to discuss, complain, gossip, rant about whatever you wantSee More
May 18
Ulaan Gom replied to Ulaan Gom's discussion Journey to a Life Free of Maladaptive Daydreaming
"Day 59 - Today I really realized how much I need to stay in the moment. When I woke up, I felt ... actually slightly depressed. I became worried for a bit, but then realized that my depression was a result of the accumulation of many unfulfilled…"
May 17
SearchingForReality commented on Beef's group Weasley is Our King
"Being in the Harry Potter universe helped me cope with my depression until it became too much and I had to get help. But now I can't stop daydreaming about other fandoms as well. Does anyone have any tricks they use to help them focus on real…"
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Just noticed that there wasn't a Harry Potter group so i created this for people to discuss HP and maybe even HP related daydreams!See More
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"Does anyone have any tricks that help them with their daydreaming?"
May 17
Amity is dreaming replied to Adriene's discussion Does anyone know?
"I feel the same way. My sister was trying to get it out of me, but k just said I cannot tell her. Only two of my friends know. One because she forced it out of me, the other because I can relate to her so well with MD because she has bipolar…"
May 15
 

Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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Copycat effect?

Started by Source. Last reply by Eretaia on Tuesday. 2 Replies

I was wondering if a consequence of having an imagination as powerful as the one we daydreamers have could, in a sense, heighten our "senses". Not the conventional physical senses, but some kind of perception related to interpretation and…Continue

Is it possible to fall in love with someone from your daydreams?

Started by Helen S. Last reply by Carly Cole on Monday. 20 Replies

    Hey guys! :) First of all I'm new here and I want to say I'm really happy to have found you! Secondly, I think I have fallen in love with a character from my fantasies. I can't stop thinking about him and knowing that he is not here really…Continue

What helps?

Started by Cordellia Amethyste Rose. Last reply by Nancy Johnson on Sunday. 168 Replies

Now that we've had some time to think about this & discuss it, let's start creating a plan to help.  Let's try and make a list that we can refer to & refer others to.  Here's my question:What helps? Not just what helps you stop…Continue

Tags: daydreaming, fantasy, Maladaptive, Daydreaming, MD

Do your daydreams ever surprise you?

Started by Auryn. Last reply by Cemre on Saturday. 1 Reply

I'm wondering if anyone else's daydreams have surprised them?I had a lovely daydream about a long lunch with some character pals and I having a good visit. The married couple's banter was so fun, and there were a few times where I felt genuinely…Continue

Tags: daydreams, Surprising

Obsessions, MBTI, and Ballet alter ego, therapist

Started by Ali Renee. Last reply by Ali Renee May 19. 4 Replies

So, I don't know if any of you are into MBTI (the 16 personalities test) but I discovered it about a year ago. Now I am Obsessed with it- at first it was fun and not harmful to look it up.Now it is just pissing me off- every time I am bored. I look…Continue

Journey to a Life Free of Maladaptive Daydreaming

Started by Ulaan Gom. Last reply by Ulaan Gom May 17. 26 Replies

Day 1 - I've been Maladaptive Daydreaming for over four years now, and I know that it's time to stop. I've recently been able to improve my life, but am facing some obstacles right now and want to clear my mind and focus on improvement. Today I…Continue

Does anyone know?

Started by Adriene. Last reply by Amity is dreaming May 15. 506 Replies

Do your friends or family know about your daydreaming? What are their feelings/reactions to it? This is the only place where I can talk about my daydreaming. I've never told anyone and I'd be mortified if my family found out.Continue

Hey fam I'm back :D

Started by Bittersweet Nostalgia. Last reply by Ulaan Gom May 11. 2 Replies

Last time I posted on here I was 16, I'm about to turn 20 in June. So it's been quite a while. I've been a daydreamer since I was a kid like most of you guys on here. When I posted here in 2012 I was worried it would keep on affecting my life…Continue

Yes, you can cure Maladaptive Daydreaming

Started by Eretaia. Last reply by Yolandi Wells May 10. 146 Replies

Two years ago when I joined this community, I think I was more dead than alive. I've been waging quite a brutal war with maladaptive dreaming and the array of issues that underlie it ever since then and I'm on my way out of this prison. I wanted to…Continue

Tags: overcoming, maladaptive, daydreaming

Depending on alter ego

Started by Amity is dreaming. Last reply by Amity is dreaming May 9. 10 Replies

Whenever I am in a stressful situation, I either whisper or say in my head "amity Amoura amity Amoura amity Amoura..." Does anyone else do this. I think I have depended on Amity my alter ego to save me from stressful situations.

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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