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Expanding the Witches

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My Experience With Daydreaming

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Ranting and expressing

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where did it begin?

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Nature

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Advice on How To Separate Triggers from DayDreaming?

Hello guys!I was wondering if anyone has any advice on separating MDDing from triggers? Specifically music as a trigger? At the moment I've quit listening to music as I find that's when I MDD worse - full on rocking or running about - cut my MDDing done to barely anything. However, I'd still like to return to listening to music but I'm not sure how to do that safely. I also have the issue that I think I might imagination stuff to music - MDD or not. I remember that guy at the beginning of…See More
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Kali_74 replied to Adriene's discussion Does anyone know?
"The only person that I told was my psychiatrist. I would never told about my MD to my family, friends or my boyfriend. I´m really scared of being discovered by them, in fact. I´d be terribly embarrassed if the trap me. And of course, if…"
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DaydreamBeliever328 replied to Dreamcatcher's discussion Which state do you live in? (both US and non-US members)
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Are Maladaptive Daydreamers really people with schizoid personality disorder?

"Yeah, you may be right. I feel indentified with some of the symptons of schizoid personality disorder and with some of avoidant personality disorder, even though I´m no diagnosed yet. My mother had schyzofrenia which make me prone to have some…"
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Silverfish commented on Vendela Collins's blog post A Not-So Maladaptive Daydreamer?
"My insiders are people, but not in the way one might imagine. they are people, but if they were to appear in our reality, many wouldn't see them that way.  they resemble anthros kinda??,  they're a little hard to describe…"
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Vendela Collins replied to Ali Renee's discussion Obsessions, MBTI, and Ballet alter ego, therapist
"My MBTI is INTJ (The Mastermind). What is yours? Also, why do you obsess about it? "
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Vendela Collins replied to Helen S's discussion Is it possible to fall in love with someone from your daydreams?
"I have fallen in love with multiple people from my DD, and even felt the pain of heartbreak when they left me/when we had relationship problems. I definitely know what you mean. Message me if you want to talk ;)"
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Vendela Collins commented on Fitri Kamelia's blog post Expanding the Witches
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Vendela Collins commented on Vendela Collins's blog post A Not-So Maladaptive Daydreamer?
"Good question. If I'm getting this right, and correct me if I'm wrong, you're asking if the characters in my dream-worlds know of the real me? As in the person who is sitting here and writing this? No, mine never do. Some take place…"
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Silverfish commented on Vendela Collins's blog post A Not-So Maladaptive Daydreamer?
"This is interesting to here.  I had something similar to this.  ( Not quite the same but you catch my drift. )  My question to you would be do the insiders know of the world outside? do they know about, like a person in a alternate…"
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Vendela Collins commented on Vendela Collins's blog post A Not-So Maladaptive Daydreamer?
"In my dream world, my alternate self is dating a man like the one of my dreams. However, he's not perfect by any means. He is very funny, charming and laid back. But he is also lazy, temperamental and a bit dirty. He has a shady past but treats…"
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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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Advice on How To Separate Triggers from DayDreaming?

Started by Kate 5 hours ago. 0 Replies

Hello guys!I was wondering if anyone has any advice on separating MDDing from triggers? Specifically music as a trigger? At the moment I've quit listening to music as I find that's when I MDD worse - full on rocking or running about - cut my MDDing…Continue

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Does anyone know?

Started by Adriene. Last reply by Kali_74 yesterday. 512 Replies

Do your friends or family know about your daydreaming? What are their feelings/reactions to it? This is the only place where I can talk about my daydreaming. I've never told anyone and I'd be mortified if my family found out.Continue

Which state do you live in? (both US and non-US members)

Started by Dreamcatcher. Last reply by DaydreamBeliever328 yesterday. 47 Replies

Hi!I guess this site compromises mostly of the US members, but there are members of other nationalities as well. You can also specify which "instate/region/country do you live in (like e.g. California, Tuscany, Scotland). If you don't want to go…Continue

Obsessions, MBTI, and Ballet alter ego, therapist

Started by Ali Renee. Last reply by Vendela Collins on Thursday. 7 Replies

So, I don't know if any of you are into MBTI (the 16 personalities test) but I discovered it about a year ago. Now I am Obsessed with it- at first it was fun and not harmful to look it up.Now it is just pissing me off- every time I am bored. I look…Continue

Is it possible to fall in love with someone from your daydreams?

Started by Helen S. Last reply by Vendela Collins on Thursday. 38 Replies

    Hey guys! :) First of all I'm new here and I want to say I'm really happy to have found you! Secondly, I think I have fallen in love with a character from my fantasies. I can't stop thinking about him and knowing that he is not here really…Continue

Overcoming Maladaptive Daydreaming

Started by Ulaan Gom. Last reply by Ulaan Gom Jun 25. 17 Replies

Hi everyone!I'm writing here today because Maladaptive Daydreaming has been a major problem in my life: it has caused my motivation levels to drop, my priorities to get skewed, and my neglect for the things that really matter in my life to worsen.…Continue

will it really stop?

Started by Dee-ei. Last reply by Dee-ei Jun 23. 3 Replies

will it really stop?

The Rabbit Hole

Started by Cristy. Last reply by Cristy Jun 22. 3 Replies

Even though I am talking to all these people about their experiences and thoughts, I can't help, but feel a little...hopeless. Like aren't I suppose to be doing some thing. Shouldn't I try to re-coordinate my life in some way? My fantasies…Continue

How much daydreaming should I stop?

Started by Kate Jun 22. 0 Replies

Hello,So okay, first a little background.  I have been maladaptive daydreaming since I can remember. The most destructive side of my habit was the amount of time I would spend - when I was young whole weekends -  listening to music and running about…Continue

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Journey to a Life Free of Maladaptive Daydreaming

Started by Ulaan Gom. Last reply by Ulaan Gom Jun 16. 32 Replies

Day 1 - I've been Maladaptive Daydreaming for over four years now, and I know that it's time to stop. I've recently been able to improve my life, but am facing some obstacles right now and want to clear my mind and focus on improvement. Today I…Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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