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positive aspect of MD

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The Cause of My MDD

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Maladaptive Daydreamer

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Aspen meets holli

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What my therapist says about MD

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The Last Of Her Kind

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A creative person's life with MD.

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Not a sufferer of MDD

I don't see maladaptive daydreaming as a bad thing although it is a strange thing that I do. I enjoy it and do not want to get rid of it or try to be "normal". As long as it doesn't interfere with studies. I might cut down on the daydreaming but I have control over it. Although,  what happens in a daydream is not reality and that makes me feel disappointed and empty. Without it, I'd feel even worse.See More
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"She seems happy, and I really hope she is. In reality she's in a bad place and that's never going to improve for her so what I hope for her is that her mind is actually powerful enough to make her physically see what she claims she sees.…"
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"Also, I usually have a chorus or section of a song constantly replaying over and over in my head. Usually a song I've heard somewhat recently. Today it's Genesis "Ripples" from their mid-70s album Trick of the Tail. Ahhhhhh!"
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"That's a great start, actually. Being able to identify what the problem is and perhaps pursuing a way to handle it / avoid it. Helps you build healthier coping mechanisms, I find. The other environment (daydreaming place) is definitely…"
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How would you describe yourself?

I know on the inside we’re constantly daydreaming, but what else describes you all? I would say I have a quick sense of humor, yet have also been diagnosed with mild depression. I am very good at creative writing but not at paperwork, and I can rarely get past the first few pages of a book before my concentration looses the battle against my imagination. I have fantastic inventions inside my head but score very low on ‘Executive Function’, so I don’t know how to proceed with my ideas. I’m…See More
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Patrick John replied to Zoë Verdancii's discussion I quit cold turkey
"But don't forget that a lot of the daydreaming is a coping mechanism and it’s how our minds shift our anxiety to a better environment. That’s why it should be called ‘Adaptive’, not Maladaptive. However, this better…"
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OhMyMagenta replied to Mareeya's discussion Does M.D. progresses/worsens with time? (Do you think I do have M.D.?)
"I'm now 36 and have been daydreaming since I was 5. I don't know if I'd say the daydreaming "worsened" over time; frequency hasn't increased nor has duration. Daydreaming is a part of my daily life, mostly during my…"
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True Blue Dreamer replied to True Blue Dreamer's discussion Favorite place to daydream?
"Why does eating or being in the dinning room make you want to daydream, if you don't mind me asking? Does the atmosphere of being in there make you happy or....? "
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sujaek commented on sujaek's blog post positive aspect of MD
"Dear Thierry and Abner I too had lots of negative thoughts, that was during late teens. Today as a mother of two and facing innumerable challenges of life, my negative thoughts slowly got processed towards positive thoughts. Something's which…"
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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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Not a sufferer of MDD

Started by Emani 1 minute ago. 0 Replies

I don't see maladaptive daydreaming as a bad thing although it is a strange thing that I do. I enjoy it and do not want to get rid of it or try to be "normal". As long as it doesn't interfere with studies. I might cut down on the daydreaming but I…Continue

How would you describe yourself?

Started by Patrick John. Last reply by The1andonlyAbber 7 hours ago. 2 Replies

I know on the inside we’re constantly daydreaming, but what else describes you all? I would say I have a quick sense of humor, yet have also been diagnosed with mild depression. I am very good at creative writing but not at paperwork, and I can…Continue

Tags: creativity, traits, personality

Favorite place to daydream?

Started by True Blue Dreamer. Last reply by The1andonlyAbber 8 hours ago. 4 Replies

I have gotten into the habit of daydreaming in my bed room, but it has turned into a bit of a problem. If I am in the living room watching a movie or show on tv that I like that triggers a daydream, I go to my room and then come back out (my…Continue

Tags: trigger, daydreaming, Location

I'm Scared and confused

Started by Kathy. Last reply by Kathy yesterday. 10 Replies

I have a character named Courtney. I originally created her to be my friend, and I had some control, but now I don't. Now she's being insanely mean and won't leave me alone. I'm trying to get rid of her but she just won't go away. How do I get her…Continue

I quit cold turkey

Started by Zoë Verdancii. Last reply by Zoë Verdancii yesterday. 12 Replies

A week before Halloween - 10/27/14. I quit...A lovely woman was coming to visit me in a few days. I had just realized how truly alone I was, and how great it felt having someone mean something to me so much...how much I'd love to be WITH someone.…Continue

Does M.D. progresses/worsens with time? (Do you think I do have M.D.?)

Started by Mareeya. Last reply by OhMyMagenta yesterday. 5 Replies

Hi Guys! I'm just new here so there's still little that I know of about this condition.. Can you help me out?Before finding out about Maladaptive Daydreaming, I've always thought that there is something in me, maybe my personality and thinking, that…Continue

Anyone else, or am I alone?

Started by Alex. Last reply by True Blue Dreamer on Saturday. 3 Replies

Rant incoming, but if it's tl;dr I bolded questions and important details and just answer those if I'm too wordy for you. :PI read about other people's experiences and I feel a bit alone because the most I hear of is pacing, mumbling, etc. while…Continue

I dont daydream as myself

Started by sarah elizabeth clark. Last reply by Georgia G on Friday. 11 Replies

Does anyone else role play as their characters instead of being themselves in their daydreams? I do.Continue

Real friends in your fantasy

Started by Fitri Kamelia. Last reply by Alex on Friday. 5 Replies

Well daydreaming about real person is normal I think. Famous person, either they're celebrity or scientist.... Maybe it's normal too if my real friends are in my fantasy too??Around July 2011, I always dd about my class have a project to save my…Continue

Tags: locked, tease, fantasy, friends, real

Your current main plots

Started by Kay M. Last reply by Alex on Friday. 17 Replies

What are your current main plots in daydream land?I have a few recurring daydreams at the moment: My alter ego and her wife find a lost kid, and take her in and try and find her parents. Her parents are usually either very neglectful and did not…Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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