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I thought I was the only one

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An open letter to my hardworking self

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Wishing for Death

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Getting through stuff

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People think I'm weird

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My Story

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Sadness

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Was just special

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Feeling adrift

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Blending in socialization

I haven't lived in socialization for quite a while. I currently freelance in graphic art and writing at home. Spend lots of time in my home studio working at the computer. However, I find myself so shy to mix socially with others in society, whether its sports, bars, clubs, resorts...anything. I sort of have asperger syndrome, so when I do engage in social things, I notice that I don't really want to hang around for long. As much I wish to make more friends, everyone I meet has so little in…See More
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It seems that have difficulties to make friends and the difficulty to connect with other persons is a common denominator between Maladaptive Daydreamers.Nevermind is it is due to social inability, a side effect of daydreaming or that we are too much time away of “this world”, and that when “we come back to earth” we don´t have enough experience.Now we have a forum, a Meeting point, a place with people like us. Daydreamers without friends. Perhaps this group is not a  good place to make friends.…See More
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Annie replied to SamJ's discussion Living alone does it make things worse?
"Hey there! I have only lived alone for the past 1.5 years, but have been an extreme MDD since earliest childhood. Even when I lived with people in shared houses during University I was still DD every single day. It was more exhausting because I had…"
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Sian replied to Alan D.'s discussion My life is a mess and I'm trying to figure out if I have MDD
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Source replied to Alan D.'s discussion My life is a mess and I'm trying to figure out if I have MDD
"Zoning out all the time whether you like it or not: check. Imaginary actions leaking into real world gestures: check. Energy drain: check. Disrupted attention: check. Free time speeding by like a damn race car: check. Looks like it as I see it."
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What I never knew

I always reflect on how frequently I battled with social phobia and anxiety. For the past 25 years, I grew up in a town where I never fit into any type of crowd. I just recently got diagnosed with asperger syndrome by a local psychologist—and this plainly answered all challenges I faced in social situations all of my life. Dealing with AS, I struggled to verbally explain myself properly, and most times, I felt no urge to 'talk aloud' openly to people in any social situation. Many others found…See More
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Source commented on Annie's blog post An open letter to my hardworking self
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Jessica Ballantyne replied to Tom's discussion Life becoming hollow: MD's incomparable unlimitedness
"I do relate to your article. Daydreaming took away my real life that could've been better if I didn't totally delve into MD. I do find myself split in between two worlds! In the real world, people will strongly detect when my eyes look…"
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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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Blending in socialization

Started by Jessica Ballantyne 21 hours ago. 0 Replies

I haven't lived in socialization for quite a while. I currently freelance in graphic art and writing at home. Spend lots of time in my home studio working at the computer. However, I find myself so shy to mix socially with others in society, whether…Continue

Living alone does it make things worse?

Started by SamJ. Last reply by Annie yesterday. 2 Replies

Hi I was wondering how many people here live alone. I've just started to buy my first home on my own and though I am excited to finally be leaving home. I am also worried that it may cause me to submerge myself  more in my MD. At the moment I live…Continue

My life is a mess and I'm trying to figure out if I have MDD

Started by Alan D.. Last reply by Sian yesterday. 2 Replies

Hello everyone-This is going to be a long post, and if you're like me you have a short attention span so I really appreciate anyone that reads this. I want to get some things off my chest with people who might understand. There are some elements of…Continue

What I never knew

Started by Jessica Ballantyne yesterday. 0 Replies

I always reflect on how frequently I battled with social phobia and anxiety. For the past 25 years, I grew up in a town where I never fit into any type of crowd. I just recently got diagnosed with asperger syndrome by a local psychologist—and this…Continue

Life becoming hollow: MD's incomparable unlimitedness

Started by Tom. Last reply by Jessica Ballantyne yesterday. 5 Replies

Now that I'm finally approved I really want to know if someone can relate to the following:I've been daydreaming for as long as I can remember, at least 10 years.The earlier dreams were about very common wishes like being healthy, making friends…Continue

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I am Lost: MD, weed and sadness

Started by Sally. Last reply by Alan D. on Wednesday. 3 Replies

Hello,First, thanks for this forum, it makes me feel less lonely when I read them. Thank you for existing. On the other side, I apologize for my English, I am from Latin America and I dont know english yet..I am Sally. I am 25 years old, and being a…Continue

Pretty tough if you ask me

Started by Jessica Ballantyne. Last reply by Alan D. on Wednesday. 1 Reply

I am slowly and gradually waking up to smell the coffee beans. After spending 18+ feeling complacent about myself and being so confident towards my future, I had no inclination about the 'real world' at such a young and inexperienced age. Day…Continue

Do you think MD is an addiction, like alcohol or drugs? Do you have other addictions/an addictive personality?

Started by Liza. Last reply by Zimdars_58 on Tuesday. 11 Replies

I sometimes think i am addicted to MD, but other times i think that MD is something VERY different.  I'm not sure.  I know that (for me) MD is a way to detach/disassociate from the 'real' world.  Binge eating & bulimia has (in the past) served…Continue

Insecurity And Depression

Started by Sally. Last reply by Sally on Monday. 3 Replies

Hello,I'm new here.I am a Maladaptive Daydreamer since I was ten. I have grown up with this condition but until today this condition has become a problem. I do not know if you have happened to the same thing, but my life expectancies are very high,…Continue

Similarities in mechanism

Started by Source. Last reply by Eretaia on Sunday. 5 Replies

An unintended round of self-experimentation has me wondering how similar daydreaming and regular dreaming could be in how they function. Specifically, I've noticed some curious parallels between regular dreams and the daydreaming state itself,…Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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