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Accepting Things

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The Man in Black - A Poem

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It's Been Two Years...

Posted by Lizzie Marie on November 21, 2014 at 3:04pm 0 Comments

Sharpen your mind and Daydream!

Posted by Henry on November 21, 2014 at 12:00am 0 Comments

My story of illusion vs reality

Posted by Source on November 15, 2014 at 1:36pm 2 Comments

Marijuana and MD

Posted by Shakira on November 10, 2014 at 7:55pm 1 Comment

Aging with MD

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Accepting Things

Although I really hate to accept this I realize that maybe there is no cure for this. Maybe there will never be a cure for this at all. Plus I don't think this problem is psychological, I think it's neurological. Maybe our brains are forced to have a different way of working because of a neurological problem. I don't know if a neurological problem can be fixed but I've given up hope for a cure, I'm pretty sure I'll live the rest of my life with this. Oh well.
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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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I'M SO F***ING FED UP WITH MDD AND LONELINESS... IS ANYONE ELSE?

Started by eternally a child. Last reply by Aquarius 1 hour ago. 1 Reply

Im tired of this problem/habbit/disorder taking over my life and destroying me and taking my life away from me , but its a mistake i make 10,000 times a day. I make it often because if I face reality I face all of my faults and face the fact that Im…Continue

Do any of you use hand gestures and talk to yourself while daydreaming?

Started by FunAtmosphere. Last reply by Lizzie Marie yesterday. 2 Replies

Apparently to my family, I talk to myself while laughing and moving my hands as I daydream. I'm also pretty sure i do this at school too, which would look pretty friggin weird. But who cares, haha :DAnyone else do this? I'm really curious to know if…Continue

How many of you are/were an outcast?

Started by NovBaby. Last reply by FunAtmosphere on Saturday. 30 Replies

I'm just curious if there is a connection. When I was in school I got teased a lot and didn't have many friends.  I'd spend a great deal of time in my room watching movies, listening to music and being in my own little world.  Til this day I'm still…Continue

what's your story?

Started by Heaven. Last reply by Lizzie Marie on Friday. 9 Replies

Hi. I'm fairly new to this community, I only found out about a month ago that what I've been doing practically my whole life had a name. I love that this website exists and I can come here and read different discussions and feel as if I'm not…Continue

I quit cold turkey

Started by Zoë Verdancii. Last reply by Floris on Friday. 3 Replies

A week before Halloween - 10/27/14. I quit...A lovely woman was coming to visit me in a few days. I had just realized how truly alone I was, and how great it felt having someone mean something to me so much...how much I'd love to be WITH someone.…Continue

Wishing with all my heart that my daydream becomes reality

Started by Not 2 Crazy. Last reply by Not 2 Crazy on Friday. 10 Replies

Is it possible?I've had the same daydream for many, many years.  It occurs in real-time and the characters are all the same.  Its the life I wish I had.  Its the life I feel I could have had if I didn't get married and had moved to where I wanted to…Continue

Dead Chatroom

Started by True Blue Dreamer. Last reply by FunAtmosphere on Thursday. 1 Reply

Okay, no one ever seems to be on the chate room and that bums me out cuz I would love to talk to other maladaptive dreamers. If you want to chat, just inbox me snd I will message back! Laters!

Daydreaming about the guy you like

Started by Luna. Last reply by True Blue Dreamer on Thursday. 5 Replies

First of all excuse my English, it's not so great...I wanted to share my experience as I don't know if anyone else feels the same.I mainly daydream about a guy I like but I am not in a relationship with. In the DD he usually tells me I am beautiful…Continue

Tags: self-esteem, relationships, love, guys

When did your maladaptive daydreaming start?

Started by Coy. Last reply by Heaven on Wednesday. 44 Replies

Just wondering, I know that mine started silently but I could guess that it was when I was about 8. It was probably because of how antisocial I was...

Do you do research and stuff?

Started by Kay M. Last reply by True Blue Dreamer Nov 17. 2 Replies

When you do your daydreams, do you research stuff to make it more realistic? When my daydream characters were adopting a child, I read up on the adoption process and read blogs by people who had adopted. When they got a new pet, I looked up on the…Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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