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Procrastination and Daydreaming

Posted by Kal J. on July 6, 2015 at 9:30am 3 Comments

sleeping my life away

Posted by greyartist on July 5, 2015 at 3:56pm 2 Comments

Daydreaming from the beginning.

Posted by Kal J. on July 2, 2015 at 1:19pm 3 Comments

Names

Posted by GM on June 29, 2015 at 5:00pm 3 Comments

Daydreams, Numbers, & Crazy 8s

Posted by GM on June 28, 2015 at 9:47pm 1 Comment

Looking at My Life

Posted by Katherine Milano on June 27, 2015 at 12:49pm 3 Comments

Disconnected Dreamer

Posted by Richard Quest on June 12, 2015 at 7:55am 4 Comments

IM ACTUALLY SO TRASH AT DOTA

Posted by Swords Dance on June 10, 2015 at 8:52pm 2 Comments

Rough weekend

Posted by Nephanim Nocturn on June 7, 2015 at 10:51am 2 Comments

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greyartist commented on greyartist's blog post sleeping my life away
"thanks. fighting the busy mind is exhausting."
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Emma replied to Floris's discussion Non-MDD's: how can they stand a life with little imagination?
"It has been fun to talk about this with you.  Thanks for letting me think about all these ideas.   What we are describing here is not my focused imagination but rather typical MDD.  If you browse the discussions here on this forum,…"
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Kal J. commented on Kal J.'s blog post Procrastination and Daydreaming
"Thanks a lot! I'll try to do what you did and hopefully I'll beat procrastination. :D"
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Floris commented on Kal J.'s blog post Procrastination and Daydreaming
"Like Amanda mentioned, try to find the real issue. Rather than see procrastination as the enemy (that's probably you're father talking), try to understand why you want to procrastinate. Is school interesting? Does it stimulate you? What…"
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Floris commented on Simran's blog post No Title
"IRL many arguments between couples or even colleagues are about very little things. Usually when going deeper there is something they are profoundly unhappy about and the little things are signs of those bigger things at best. Sometimes they are not…"
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Floris commented on greyartist's blog post sleeping my life away
"The post is tagged depression and I never had a serious, heavy depression as a medical condition. However... I do sleep at least 9 hours if not 10 or 11 a night. This is considered much but I just need it. Also, I've always been laid back and…"
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Floris commented on Dee-ei's blog post Are we crazy?
"If you ask me 70% of the world population is bat shit insane. Just turn MTV on or go out and watch how people behave in night life. No wonder so many people have problems and resort to coping mechanisms.And remember Seal singing "We'll…"
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Floris replied to Floris's discussion Non-MDD's: how can they stand a life with little imagination?
"I think the difference is you have a much more focused mind and have this ongoing story. My mind is much more chaotic and ideas can pop up all over the place, about many things, useless or sometimes useful, when I'm not focused on the here and…"
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Do people here watch music videos?

I think a lot of music videos have a "daydreamish" quality - fuzzy, fragmented, disconnected. Also in a certain portion of scenes in music videos, the characters are daydreaming, or at least they look like they could be daydreaming.Do the daydreamers here like to watch music videos, or do you prefer to listen to the music and make up videos inside your own imagination?See More
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Amanda Lewone commented on Kal J.'s blog post Procrastination and Daydreaming
"That's the thing about avoiding work. What you do doesn't matter. I used to procrastinate by cleaning out my cupboards. I was doing that because I had gotten rid of the obvious distractions. The mind is the worst but even if you could…"
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Procrastination and Daydreaming

This week is exam week for me. I have voluntarily given away my smartphone to keep me from getting distracted. Yesterday, I sat down to revise my lessons. I sat down and I forced myself to read the book. The book was very dull and uninteresting, I soldiered on till the point where it was impossible to keep my eyes on the text. I looked at the clock, and only 17 minutes had gone by. Now, I am serial procrastinator. And this time too, I became slave to this habit. I kept down the book and I…See More
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Adam Lajos commented on GM's blog post Names
"I absolutely commiserate with you, hurting someone with his or her name or apearance is disgusting. When someone bullied me with my weight before I felt an atomic-bomb in my hands. I roared them sometimes or hit and of course they hit back stronger…"
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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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Non-MDD's: how can they stand a life with little imagination?

Started by Floris. Last reply by Emma 12 hours ago. 17 Replies

Quoting from the main page about non-MDD's: "Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it…Continue

Does anyone know?

Started by Adriene. Last reply by Katherine Milano on Saturday. 486 Replies

Do your friends or family know about your daydreaming? What are their feelings/reactions to it? This is the only place where I can talk about my daydreaming. I've never told anyone and I'd be mortified if my family found out.Continue

Is anyone here into MBTI?

Started by Kayla Corcoran. Last reply by Fitri Kamelia on Saturday. 14 Replies

The MBTI was created by daughter Isabel Myers, and mother Katherine Briggs. The idea of Myers Brigs is everyone in the world fits into 16 personality types. Your personality is made up of 4 preferences. It is also made up of strengths and…Continue

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Daydreaming vs fantasizing

Started by Cynthia Schupak. Last reply by Emma on Friday. 33 Replies

Hi all, it's Cynthia Schupak.  When my co-author, Jayne Bigelsen, and I wrote our recently  published paper on the results of our 90-participant study, the most difficult part was defining the activity that actually constitutes the condition we've…Continue

Help with Personal Project?

Started by Desiree Winns. Last reply by Emma on Friday. 3 Replies

I'm working on a personal project about maladaptive daydreaming

Guilt

Started by Caitlin. Last reply by Katherine Milano on Friday. 4 Replies

I've been trying really hard to stop daydreaming and i have been pretty successful so far and i feel like I'm making progress, but I have these moments where I'll catch myself daydreaming and I can't help feeling really guilty and kind of angry. It…Continue

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intruders in our home!

Started by Dwayne. Last reply by Francisco on Thursday. 6 Replies

Just when u find a little place of sancturary and pracereality hits. MD'ers our home site has some guess  that surely  does notshare our intentions as well as our struggles.  How do we keep these peopleOut!Continue

ATTENTION, ATTENTION PLEASE - VERY IMPORNATNT INFORMATION

Started by Leonardo A. Last reply by Emma on Thursday. 27 Replies

 People, please look for help immediately. There is not such thing as the one you are talking about.You are wasting precious time of your life. What you are describing is the symptoms of Racing Thoughts which is at the same time a symptom Bipolar…Continue

Bipolar Disorder and Maladaptive Daydreaming.

Started by Ash Lumiere. Last reply by Emma Jul 1. 3 Replies

In correlation to the symptoms of MD,Bipolar disorder has familiar symptoms such as:psychmotor agitation - pacing back and forthracing/intrusive thoughtsnon-linear disorganized thought patternsheightened creativity, among other things.Because of…Continue

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Day dreamers in movies

Started by Floris. Last reply by Kia Hood Jul 1. 2 Replies

Know any other films with a key character showing a considerable amount of day dreaming? Having a hard time coming up with an extensive list! Of course there are many, many films with short scenes of fantasies like American Beauty but I was…Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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