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The 3 Kinds of Daydreamers

Posted by MatthewR on March 24, 2017 at 9:45pm 2 Comments

Been long time!

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Hello! I'm Xander.

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My Symptoms

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Accountability

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Why we are proud of daydreaming ?...

Posted by maro on February 28, 2017 at 11:00am 32 Comments

"Playing with Strings"

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I don’t know what call this.

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THE LIFE OF A DAYDREAMER

Posted by honey successfull on February 24, 2017 at 6:43am 1 Comment

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MatthewR commented on MatthewR's blog post The 3 Kinds of Daydreamers
"@Source - Yah, it's hard to pigeonhole something like this into neat categories. It could be that people operate one way for a certain amount of time and then switch to "normal" for a while. Maybe we operate with combinations of…"
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Source commented on MatthewR's blog post The 3 Kinds of Daydreamers
"I think you got it right, but I doubt that assigning those categories to individual daydreamers is as easy as defining them. I wouldn't be surprised if it turned out to be a whole spectrum with incredibly blurry gray areas."
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dark thoughts commented on Johanna's group Look at the Bright Side
"I've been MDD my entire life, and I honestly believe it's taught me how to multitask. Since I've lived my life and been ather successfully, all the while immersed in my daydreams, I've learned how to think about and do multiple…"
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dark thoughts replied to Eretaia's discussion To all those reluctant to quit: Letting go of MD and what it is (not)
"I feel the same way. When untreated my daydreams cam literally consume hours- and I enjoy them, I just can't seem to get real life done. When treated, I miss them- terribly, it's like I lost a friend. I'm trying to find a balance,…"
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The 3 Kinds of Daydreamers

This is just something from observation, but i get the impression that there are 3 kinds of people on this site:Neurotic Daydreamers - these are the dd’ers who are closest to the “maladaptive” definition. They use daydreams to sustain an idealized sense of self that compensates for low self-esteem, essentially “growing on the useless side of life” because these daydreams don’t improve our situation; they unconsciously serve to spare us the pain of real emotion and the possibility of…See More
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Eretaia replied to Eretaia's discussion To all those reluctant to quit: Letting go of MD and what it is (not)
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honey successfull replied to Maevi's discussion My Story. in the group Maladaptive Daydreamers
"hi maevi, i understand how difficult it must be for at such a young age going through an addiction, i started daydreaming as a child too.i have some suggestions for you ,try apps that help addicts you can install them on your phone if you have…"
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Daydreamers welcome

Most children daydream. Most children have imaginary friends they play out creative scenarios with. Their fantasy world is a simple, joyful distraction from their outer lives. Eventually their outer lives take root, and they grow out of it. Their playful fantasies become unnecessary as they develop more fulfilling relationships. Their fantasy dream world fades into the past as nothing but a wonderful childhood memory. Usually they forget it ever existed.
For some of us............it doesn't, and the consequences can be drastic.

For the past 30 years I've been living in an alternate reality that has completely taken over my life. Instead of fading into the past, it became my reality. The outside world faded & faded, and I've been fighting to reclaim it. Long past the point of being a joyful fantasy, it's become an addiction that I have unlimited access to. I have no self control. I can only distract myself out of it. I'm like an alcoholic with an unlimited supply of booze everywhere I go. When I do it too much I feel sick & dazed, yet I can't stop. I've stepped out into traffic & almost gotten myself killed more times than I can count. I've gotten better & am struggling to find footing in the outside world. In the meantime, I want to reach out.

This condition has a name. It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, also known as Compulsive Fantasizing. I spent years feeling alone and scared, like I was the only one on the planet that could possibly be going through this. I felt like a freak. I was completely ashamed and scared to death anyone would find out. It's time to end that. We're not freaks. Our brains work differently. Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers) lead unique and enriching lives. We have wondrous gifts and gut-wrenching struggles. For the good and the bad, this condition takes a lot of strength and energy to live with. I refuse to be ashamed, and I don't want anyone else to be either.

I know there are others out there who are experiencing a similar kind of condition. Hopefully they're not experiencing it to the extreme that I have. Either way, let's talk. Perhaps we can find some answers together.

This forum isn't just for Maladaptive Daydreamers (Compulsive Fantasizers). Many disorders do overlap. Feel free to discuss any that you like. Let's keep the dialog going.

One day, I hope we can all stand proud and learn to live the best of both worlds. Once we do, I'm sure we'll feel better off for having had this condition.

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To all those reluctant to quit: Letting go of MD and what it is (not)

Started by Eretaia. Last reply by dark thoughts 4 hours ago. 13 Replies

Dedicated to all those of you scared of losing MD.--- If someone were to give you a pill that would cure MD, would you take it?Would you end this?You could call this a typical dilemma that eventually slaps every addict in the face and keeps them in…Continue

CURE of MD (probable)

Started by Zack. Last reply by Zack on Wednesday. 8 Replies

Hey, i was suffering from MD from past two years. I was daydreaming for 16 hrs a day. t was out of control . I could'nt study ,drive my bike or do any activity properly. I had 5 alternative personalities/stories in my daydreams. I wanted to commit…Continue

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Is it a solution?

Started by Turkick on Tuesday. 0 Replies

I have had day dreams for many years, just like all of people. Yes, it is not hard as you have or you think you have. But, I am better now than one month before me.I don't want to write long. Both I am tired now and English is not my native…Continue

Does anyone play The Sims and make their characters and live their lives through the game?

Started by Leanne. Last reply by Alison on Monday. 1 Reply

I find the game was mega useful when thinking up my characters appearance and personalities. So whenever I did go back to my daydreams I could just imangine my sims faces.It's also a good way to live my fantasies in my mind without having to…Continue

Naming Characters

Started by Meghan Sheath. Last reply by Olivia Mar 19. 7 Replies

Hey!I am just wondering if someone else does this. I make an awesome character backstory, personality, plot. But I have a problem when making my characters : the names. When I was younger the characters didn't need names. Every time someone said…Continue

Does anyone know?

Started by Adriene. Last reply by General Foolishness Mar 19. 542 Replies

Do your friends or family know about your daydreaming? What are their feelings/reactions to it? This is the only place where I can talk about my daydreaming. I've never told anyone and I'd be mortified if my family found out.Continue

For Those Age 30 and Over...

Started by candee. Last reply by Kelly Elaine Mar 18. 23 Replies

I've been lurking here for a while but I've finally worked up the courage to post.I'm nearly 50 years old and I've been a MD'er from a very, very young age (my guess is it started around 4-5 years old - from what I can remember). I have never been…Continue

What's been destroying you? Let's help each other: share. I've Been Feeling So Lonely...

Started by B L Carlson Mar 17. 0 Replies

So, this is the third post I've made so far in short succession. But I really need somebody to talk to. Right now, I'm feeling very lonely, very depressed, no appetite, no energy. I keep lulling into my personal MD, and watching podcasts and…Continue

Myers-Briggs Types

Started by Emily. Last reply by Zolik Mar 17. 29 Replies

I was just wondering about what Myers-Briggs types you all were, so could you please tell me:What type you are (you can take the quiz here http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp…Continue

does anyone here not mind their maladaptive daydreaming?

Started by Natasha Mander. Last reply by Zolik Mar 17. 31 Replies

honestly, i dont mind it. ive had it basically my entire life (i didnt even just daydream like a normal child, the pacing began even when i was six) and ive never had anything traumatic happen to me. it doesnt take that much away from me (maybe 1 hr…Continue

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    Do I have Maladaptive Dayreaming?

    Maladaptive Daydreaming is not an officially recognized condition yet. We’re still learning a lot about it. Here are some of the main symptoms that seem to be emerging:
    • You daydream more often than you think is normal.
    • You’ve built up a character(s) that’s an idealized version of yourself
    • You feel more empowered in your daydreams.
    • You’re starting to enjoy daydreaming better than the real world.
    • Daydreaming is starting to interfere with your day-to-day activities.
    • You might enact some movement, like pacing or moving your hands, (though not everyone does this).

    • Some people make facial expressions, talk, and/or act out their daydreams.  

    It's not all bad...

    Maladaptive Daydreamers have many gifts along with struggles.
    Pros:

    -extreme creativity
    -the ability to think through complex issues on our own
    -the ability to see issues from many perspectives (we can have intense dialogs in our own minds)
    -the ability to think quickly
    -strength. (It takes a lot of strength to live in two worlds at once.)
    -insightful and empathetic
    -loving (Even when no one's around, we still have people to love in our minds.)

    Cons:
    -extreme difficulty concentrating
    -forgetful
    -sluggish. It's hard to be productive when you just want to daydream
    -clumsy and awkward
    -difficulty cultivating or maintaining relationships (This may not apply to everyone, but if your MD starts to progress, you may prefer daydreaming to real interactions)
    -difficulty completing tasks due to desire to constantly stop and daydreaming
    -difficulty reaching certain milestones because of constant desire to stop and daydream.

    What do I DO?

    Well, we're still figuring that out. Since this is so new it's kinda up to us to figure out how to deal with it. I encourage people to try anything they can & want to. If something works, please let us know, so others will benefit.
    -Identifying triggers
    Many people find that
    certain activities
    trigger them to start
    daydreaming.
    Identifying and
    limiting exposure to
    triggers is one way to
    help.
    Common triggers:
    music, tv, books,
    long walks or
    monotonous activity
    -Distraction
    If you feel yourself
    starting to daydream,
    stop and change
    activities. Get up and
    do anything else and
    come back to it when
    you're feeling more
    focused.
    -Getting out in the public
    A lot of times we just
    need to get out of our
    heads for awhile. Go
    out and talk to people.
    -Get up quickly and go to bed tired.
    Many daydream in the
    morning. To avoid
    this, make sure you get
    out of bed the instant
    you wake up.
    To avoid daydreaming
    at night, go to bed
    when you're extremely
    tired.
    -Allow limited daydreaming
    Many of us really
    appreciate the comfort
    of our daydreams and
    don't want to give
    them up.
    Instead, allow
    yourself certain times
    to daydream, and
    force yourself to get
    up and stop when
    your time is up.
    -Find other things you love, and focus on them.
    Don't forget that we
    daydream because we
    love it. It may take
    time and energy to
    focus, but if we can
    make the external
    world more fun, then
    we won't need to
    daydream as much.

    -Meditation

    Another common suggestion that people are saying works for them is meditation.  Some have said it helps them focus, even if it doesn't completely eliminate their MD.  Some have also said that Yoga and meditation help.

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