Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
Added by Windy City Day Dreamer on May 27, 2019 at 5:25pm — No Comments
I am finding that when I go on a MD binge that I don't take care of the house like I should. Dishes pile up. Piles of dirty clothes. Not picking up after myself. Then, I come off my binge and then try to detox my house.
For anyone, trying to stop MDing or curb it... the question we ask ourselves is when does DDing turn into MD. How much is too much? Should I not DD at all because it could lead to MD? Can I still DD but try to put limits on it? Am I capable of putting limits on it or does it become a slippery slope? Should I just avoid my favorite MD scenarios that lead to bingeing where I daydream for hours on end? How do I manage this?
Dr. Eli Somér who first proposed the phrase,…Continue
I haven't really had any major withdrawals from MD, yet. I noticed that I am having creative urges. For example, I was walking my son to daycare and I looked intently at a tree and the grooves in its bark - they looked like wrinkles - I wanted to take out a pad and just draw every indentation, curve, valley, peak, shading of the bark of the tree. I have never taken an art or drawing class. I think I may just do that one day- just sit by a tree and draw it. Maybe take a drawing class.
I thought I would experiment for the next thirty days and do my best to not MD. Today, there was no MD. It was difficult as I was walking around the park with my son in his stroller and I wanted to daydream. Instead, I felt the hot scorching sun on my face and watched other parents with their kids. My son is only 22 months but he always wants to try the playground equipment that is really for older kids. Really admire his adventurous spirit and his confidence. I normally now would turn…Continue
I am not sure if I will be able to get rid of MD completely but I hope to try to manage it. One thing, I have been doing is DDing while exercising. I DD with music while I am exercising on the elliptical. I end up staying on the elliptical longer as I don't want to stop DD. lol This way I have been getting my DD fix but I am also getting healthy.
I guess someone from the outside looking in would not think MD has affected my life. I am an attorney at a Fortune 500 Company. In addition to my JD, I have two master degrees. I have been married for 17 years and have a son. BUT MD has affected my life. I think I could have more friends than I do now if I wasn't devoting my extra time to DD. Although I did keep in touch with my mom over the years, I should have called more - but she is dead now from ovarian cancer. I also would keep…Continue
Added by Windy City Day Dreamer on August 11, 2013 at 2:08pm — No Comments
In the morning when I woke up I started DD. I wish I could enjoy the time with my son and not DD. I also surfed the Internet looking at the lives of certain celebrities which is also a trigger for my MD. Any time I am walking (normally with music but can be without) I also DD. One day I think I daydreamed so much that I had a headache. There is cycle- DD, Guilt, DD, Guilt. I sometimes beat myself up as to why I can't stop this MD. Otherdays, I say to myself it is a condition you are…Continue
I would be interested to know if others use maladaptive daydreaming to mask the pain they feel in real life. I don't think I will ever get over this addiction until I get to the source of the pain and heal from it. Below are the pains that I feel:
1. Pain of inadequacy. I had a step-father who was very critical of me when I was growing up. I have not felt that I am good enough. In my DDs, I am an idealized version of myself where I am more than adequate and I am…Continue
In memory of those who lost their lives (12 died) and the 59 injured at the Colorado movie theater and their families and loves ones, I encourage fellow malaptive daydreamers to consider abstaining from maladaptive day dreaming this Sunday.
I feel powerless as I hear about this tragedy in the news. It is a reminder to all of us that one minute you can be alive and another minute you are dead. Life is such a gift and so precious. Those who lost their lives in this tragedy will not…Continue
Added by Windy City Day Dreamer on July 21, 2012 at 11:52am — No Comments