Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
Out on a drive the other day my eight year old daughter starting telling me about this world that she made up in her head. It included characters, storylines and lots of bright, vibrant details. She said she goes there every morning and every night. Naturally my heart sank and it terrified me. I didn't make it into a big detail, but it was something I was completely unprepared for. I am hoping that it's "normal" daydreaming for a kid, and not my kind that will follow her throughout her life, and hold her back the way mine has held me back.
It was something I had never thought about, the possibility that I could "pass it on", or maybe I haven't, maybe if she does have it then it's just a co-incidence.
Anyway I told her that it was ok, she was pretty happy about it so I didn't want to jump all over it and give her issues about it. I just told her to always enjoy real life as well, and try to not let it take over the things that you do in the real world.
I'm not a doctor, or a therapist, or anyone remotely qualified to give her advice on how to handle it, despite having had it for 27 years I obviously haven't learnt to control it so can't really help her as such.
I will have to monitor how she progresses, she's a smart, happy, friendly little thing so hopefully if she has MD this won't change much...?!
She said that when she was five she told herself that would tell me in four years, this year she is nine so she decided to tell me. The fact that she reasoned that out in her head at age five suggests that maybe even back then at such a young age she knew it was something different, and knew that maybe it was something to be worried about, that maybe I would disapprove.
I already have guilt over the fact that I have been "absent" most her life due to my own MD. As a parent we all want better for out kids than what we had. I want to give her the world, but not my world of MD.