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Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest

Fear?

I'm constantly screaming at myself, screaming STOP screaming YOUR TO OLD FOR THIS. But no matter what I do I'm still running away to my dreams.... What do I do????? Am I to scared to face reality??? To scared to face myself? Is justification of my actions to much to handle?? I'm lost and like my childhood I escape to my imagination and dreams instead of facing life and emotion.

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Comment by MatthewR on April 14, 2017 at 7:54pm: Fear is behind my daydreaming. I feel like i am unprepared for life. But this is just an error in my thinking. I know i can accomplish something if i just try. It doesn't have to be the best. It just has to be me. I'll be like everyone else trying to make sense of this crazy life. Right now, i'm still struggling with breaking this habit, but i'm getting better. The more i remain in the present and sort through these fears, the easier it gets to stay focused. Please don't be hard on yourself. All of us here have probably been yelling at ourselves since we were young, saying we should be better, or more successful, or more attractive, or bla bla bla...but really, why are we even doing this to ourselves? I'm glad you're here, tho. A lot of us feel lost, too, but we're working on it. Take care of yourself, Justin!

Comment by Source on April 13, 2017 at 1:08am: There's a lot of pressure waiting for you outside, more than you can handle, so you shut yourself in. The gap between you and yourself grows wider and deeper with every second you spend in this state, meanwhile friction builds up between reality and how you perceive it. This friction will eventually accumulate so much power that no amount of daydreaming will be enough to contain it.

All that daydreaming is just the surface, though. Start digging, study your daydreams, break them down into their components to figure out what causes them, then repeat recursively for the components themselves. It will feel like a trip to hell, but if you can't find the root problem, you'll be stuck this way for who knows how long.

Comment by Fallen Messenger on April 12, 2017 at 8:48am: Expressing ourselves outwardly is one of the most difficult tasks for a maladaptive daydreamer. We are introverts by nature. So even posting personal stories about MD on this site can help ease the burden on MD. Please ask me ANY questions about MD and how I've learned to control it. I'd love to help!

Comment by Justin on April 12, 2017 at 8:19am: Thank you for your input I'm not used to talking about any of this or expressing it so thank you

Comment by Fallen Messenger on April 12, 2017 at 5:52am: I feel that this is something all maladaptive daydreamers face. I fave this as well, especially when I fall away into my fantasy in public. But something that I've learned to master is integrating md into my life. Using it as a crutch in some situations. I believe today the biggest weakness for maladaptive daydreamers is the fact that they fear themselves. We care too much about what others think of us. We try to hide ourselves and our natural tendency to daydream from others. This leads to only sadness and a loss of hope. I believe you can learn to lose this fear of you start meditating on a regular basis. It'll seem really word and stupid at first, but it will really help you come to terms with yourself once you start a habit of it. You first need to accept yourself before you allow others to accept you. I believe once you do this, you will be able to master you MD as I did, even though is a different process than what I went through. Please take my thoughts into consideration. I have a nationalistic pride for my fellow maladaptive daydreamers. I want to help you and make us stronger and no longer fear to be who we are in the society we live in today.