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MatthewR commented on docho's blog post ''knowing the condition makes a difference''
"When I was young, I daydreamed about having friends instead of going out and making some. I avoided social situations. I stayed home instead of pursuing my dreams in reality. I sacrificed a rewarding and fulfilling life for the sake of a…"
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MatthewR commented on Jessica Ballantyne's blog post Aftermath
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MatthewR liked Vesta Harford's discussion Maladaptive Daydreaming = Naivety
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MatthewR commented on Ella's blog post FIRST POST!! :)
"Daydreaming is my way of coping with stress. It's also how I compensate for really bad feelings. I started daydreaming as a way of dealing with anxiety when I was very young, so it's a very difficult habit to break. I'd say a good…"
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MatthewR liked Jessica Ballantyne's blog post Happ-less Halloween
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MatthewR commented on Jessica Ballantyne's blog post Happ-less Halloween
"You're right. This is a good opportunity to talk to co-workers. You never know, just randomly striking up conversations can do wonders for you. Even if the job isn't so great, you are finally getting out of that rut you were in before and…"
Oct 17
MatthewR replied to Alex's discussion I'm afraid to be without it
"So you think your unresolved dilemma is separation anxiety? You have trouble standing on your own, so you invent people to provide closeness and reassurance? If you let go of this coping mechanism, does that mean you'll be forced to deal with…"
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MatthewR liked Alex's discussion I'm afraid to be without it
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MatthewR liked SamJ's blog post Feeling so alone
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MatthewR commented on Lou's blog post A little introduction
"Are you a voice hearer by any chance? Your story reminds me of a former member to this site who was also ftm transgender and had highly individuated characters with separate identities.  "
Oct 7
MatthewR commented on Jessica Ballantyne's blog post Communication and Idealisms
"Yeah, I understand what you mean about the lack of experience and exposure to the real world. I went through my teens and 20's being idealistic, too. I clung to the idea that eventually things would just happen and I would have the life I had…"
Oct 7
MatthewR liked Jessica Ballantyne's blog post Communication and Idealisms
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MatthewR commented on MARISHA SINGH's blog post An Introductory Blog-To Be Continued..
"Daydreaming is compensatory for me as well. I get so wrapped up in my imagination that I often lose track of time. Compounded over years of doing this (I'm 32 now), my life has become very empty and lonely. I sacrificed time I could have been…"
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Fear and the Real Reason I Daydream

Posted on March 26, 2017 at 9:11pm 9 Comments

This is a long post, but here it goes...

Dd’ing is something i’ve done all my life. I started when i was 4 or 5 and just kept doing it. It’s fine for a child but problematic for an adult.

This is not to say that daydreaming is bad, but that dd’ing excessively serves a purpose that is unhealthy for me. Daydreaming is a way to get what i want without trying, to have great moments in my imagination without risking rejection, and to feel powerful without any…


The 3 Kinds of Daydreamers

Posted on March 24, 2017 at 9:45pm 12 Comments

This is just something from observation, but i get the impression that there are 3 kinds of people on this site:

  1. Neurotic Daydreamers - these are the dd’ers who are closest to the “maladaptive” definition. They use daydreams to sustain an idealized sense of self that compensates for low self-esteem, essentially “growing on the useless side of life” because these daydreams don’t improve our situation; they unconsciously serve to spare us the pain of real emotion and the…

Has Anyone Taken Paxil (Paroxetine)?

Posted on August 3, 2014 at 6:59pm 5 Comments

In the past couple of weeks I have been seeing a doctor for major depression, anxiety - especially social anxiety disorder. I also fit the profile of someone with an avoidant personality. When i was discussing my symptoms to the doctor I described my excessive compulsion to fantasize, how i pace, and how i can't focus sometimes because my urge to daydream is so powerful. My doctor didn't seem as interested in Maladaptive Daydreaming but assumed it was an aspect of being socially avoidant. I…


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At 6:09pm on April 1, 2015, Machelle Irby said…

Matthew.... you there???

At 6:18am on November 29, 2014, Adria Nolis said…

Hey :) Yeah, it's from Dreamfall


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