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MatthewR commented on MatthewR's blog post The 3 Kinds of Daydreamers
"@Eretaia - Have you ever experienced something like that? I've had daydreams that seemed symbolic. Assuming i'm not directing them, then images have emerged spontaneously, like I Ching imagery. I thought that's what active imagination…"
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Source commented on MatthewR's blog post Fear and the Real Reason I Daydream
"I wrote a comment under another post some time ago, talking about a spiral of events and an inevitable center. This is what I meant, and strikingly similar to what happened to me. You've hit the wall at long last, have you?"
10 hours ago
Eretaia commented on MatthewR's blog post The 3 Kinds of Daydreamers
"I totally see where you're coming from but I'd be very careful to associate Jung's active imagination with daydreaming. Jung's active imagination is far from cases we commonly see here, even those that are least maladaptive.…"
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tasniiem chandraa commented on MatthewR's blog post Fear and the Real Reason I Daydream
"Seek help. I did. My psychiatrist was a very helpful lady. I havent stopped dding but i definately lessened it. She also gave me a very nice book mind over mood. Its CBT for people like us. All this help and it dint even financially strain me. Plus…"
13 hours ago
honey successfull commented on MatthewR's blog post Fear and the Real Reason I Daydream
"i think that what you have posted is what we all experience on a daily basis,as daydreamers we are often tired,bored confused and angry at ourselves. Your not alone my dear. i hope that someday we will all be able to hold our head up high and deafet…"
17 hours ago
MatthewR posted a blog post

Fear and the Real Reason I Daydream

This is a long post, but here it goes...Dd’ing is something i’ve done all my life. I started when i was 4 or 5 and just kept doing it. It’s fine for a child but problematic for an adult.This is not to say that daydreaming is bad, but that dd’ing excessively serves a purpose that is unhealthy for me. Daydreaming is a way to get what i want without trying, to have great moments in my imagination without risking rejection, and to feel powerful without any possibility of defeat.When i first joined…See More
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MatthewR replied to riavjvrj's discussion Driving?
"Your parents are right. It really is much easier than it seems. I thought i would be terrible at driving in a straight line. But after the initial awkwardness is over, it really isn't difficult. I admit that i used to dd a lot on my way home…"
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MatthewR commented on MatthewR's blog post The 3 Kinds of Daydreamers
"@OhMyMagenta - I didn't know about the term "neurotic" being used like that. I've only seen it referenced as a general term for behaviors that interfere with life. For instance, a person suddenly develops back pain before having…"
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OhMyMagenta commented on MatthewR's blog post The 3 Kinds of Daydreamers
"In reading this post, I'm thinking it's going to be difficult to neatly place a person in one of these three types. Diagnoses, like human beings, can be fluid and change in intensity/frequency/duration when a life stressor occurs. We may…"
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MatthewR commented on MatthewR's blog post The 3 Kinds of Daydreamers
"@Source - Yah, it's hard to pigeonhole something like this into neat categories. It could be that people operate one way for a certain amount of time and then switch to "normal" for a while. Maybe we operate with combinations of…"
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Source commented on MatthewR's blog post The 3 Kinds of Daydreamers
"I think you got it right, but I doubt that assigning those categories to individual daydreamers is as easy as defining them. I wouldn't be surprised if it turned out to be a whole spectrum with incredibly blurry gray areas."
Saturday
MatthewR posted a blog post

The 3 Kinds of Daydreamers

This is just something from observation, but i get the impression that there are 3 kinds of people on this site:Neurotic Daydreamers - these are the dd’ers who are closest to the “maladaptive” definition. They use daydreams to sustain an idealized sense of self that compensates for low self-esteem, essentially “growing on the useless side of life” because these daydreams don’t improve our situation; they unconsciously serve to spare us the pain of real emotion and the possibility of…See More
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Fear and the Real Reason I Daydream

Posted on March 26, 2017 at 9:11pm 3 Comments

This is a long post, but here it goes...

Dd’ing is something i’ve done all my life. I started when i was 4 or 5 and just kept doing it. It’s fine for a child but problematic for an adult.

This is not to say that daydreaming is bad, but that dd’ing excessively serves a purpose that is unhealthy for me. Daydreaming is a way to get what i want without trying, to have great moments in my imagination without risking rejection, and to feel powerful without any…

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The 3 Kinds of Daydreamers

Posted on March 24, 2017 at 9:45pm 6 Comments

This is just something from observation, but i get the impression that there are 3 kinds of people on this site:

  1. Neurotic Daydreamers - these are the dd’ers who are closest to the “maladaptive” definition. They use daydreams to sustain an idealized sense of self that compensates for low self-esteem, essentially “growing on the useless side of life” because these daydreams don’t improve our situation; they unconsciously serve to spare us the pain of real emotion and the…
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Has Anyone Taken Paxil (Paroxetine)?

Posted on August 3, 2014 at 6:59pm 5 Comments

In the past couple of weeks I have been seeing a doctor for major depression, anxiety - especially social anxiety disorder. I also fit the profile of someone with an avoidant personality. When i was discussing my symptoms to the doctor I described my excessive compulsion to fantasize, how i pace, and how i can't focus sometimes because my urge to daydream is so powerful. My doctor didn't seem as interested in Maladaptive Daydreaming but assumed it was an aspect of being socially avoidant. I…

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At 6:09pm on April 1, 2015, Machelle Irby said…

Matthew.... you there???

At 6:18am on November 29, 2014, Adria Nolis said…

Hey :) Yeah, it's from Dreamfall

 
 
 

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