Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
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I experience the same thing with celebrities. When I find out things about them on the internet that have changed I become irritated, sort of annoyed and sad. I do an extensive amount of research for my daydreaming as well. After finding out information I am not happy out it takes me a fair amount of time to re-convince myself that these are my daydreams and anything can happen in them, it doesn't matter what is happening in the real world.
I used to hate my MD but somehow I have learned to accept it for what it is and that made me enjoy it so much more and made me feel so much better about it.
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Glad it's not just me. I struggle really hard when I find out something I'd rather not know about my celeb and find I can't control my DD the way I'd like as it's like the real world collides with my fantasy world and it's difficult to deal with.
I think it's why I have a whole life history for the "me" in my DD, so I can jump to a place back in her timeline before she meets the celeb and I can try and get a control over it again.
Have no idea if that makes sense. I wish my MD could just be fictional with no characters based on reality at all. But I guess I like the realism of it as it's the way I live my life through my DDs.
Hello Jane,
I'm a long-time daydreamer like you (now almost 40 years). My daydream charakters are no celebs or other real people, they are totally fantasy. You said that the "me" in your DDs is everything you're not in real life. For me this is exactly the same - they are successful, can solve problems - and they are male. I think I wanted them to be the opposite of me.
I know, it is hard to live with daydreams, but don't give up your life. Always try to do something you like in real life. Try to have and meet friends, don't get isolated in your head. Real life is unpredictable and it can be depressing but it is reality. I live a quite normal life with a job, family and pets. Daydreaming is hindering me in many ways, but I'm trying that it doesn't take over my life. - All the best to you!
Thanks for your words of encouragement Iris.
I use celebrities, but I change their personalities. Like michelle said, I kinda cast them as characters.
in elementary school I kind of did what you did, though. I had made this perfect character who was a couple years older than me,she was an actress and had a show on disney channel. She hung out with like jonas brothers, miley cyrus, basically all the teens that were popular in 2006/7/8.....so embarassing LOL. She even dated/married this one dude from hannah montana. oh god. I'd read about the celebrities on stupid teen gossip sites all the time, to see what they were like outside their fake-christian-gooody-two-shoes-perfect-disney life. So i guess it was cool...Id imagine what these celebrities lives were like outside of what disney wants us to think.
Looking back on that, Its so weird how I pictured all those celebrities lives turning out like. I pictured by their 20s mileys career fading out, nick jonas being a successful solo musician, cody linley marrying my character LOL, Demi lovato focusing on producing, and selena gomez being a beoming a really successful actress...........all of my predictions were wrong. (Demi lovato did go to rehab in my daydream though! before she actually did.)
my new daydream i like to base their looks off a celeb or person i saw (maybe tweak a few things) and create my own personalities for them, just incase I wanna write it out one day and i become famous LOL (big dream)
I did this too. The whole celebrity thing.
Right now I want to improve my self esteem issues.
Funny, I do the same thing! :)
Michelle Young said:
With me, I kind of "Cast" certain celebs in the roles of my characters. So my characters are fictional, but if I can find a celeb who looks like one of my characters, then watching one of his/her shows or movies just helps me visualize my story better. What the actor does in the real world has no effect whatsoever on my story line.
I wish I could be more detached from real-life celebritites. Some of my crushes from fiction just look like a specific celebrity and that is easier, but never as intense as the real-life ones. However, the down side of this is having to deal with their real girl friends or anything else about them you might not like. The real-life ones though - for me - have always been the hardest to give up. There is a group, BTW, on this site, for people who have celebrity crushes, started by Christy.
Hi Roxanne, so glad it's not just me. Real life celeb MDs are no fun at all and as you say are hard to give up with all the info you can get about them online these days.
I'm not used to this website yet, didn't realsie about groups...will go and have a looksy. Thanks!
roxanne said:
I wish I could be more detached from real-life celebritites. Some of my crushes from fiction just look like a specific celebrity and that is easier, but never as intense as the real-life ones. However, the down side of this is having to deal with their real girl friends or anything else about them you might not like. The real-life ones though - for me - have always been the hardest to give up. There is a group, BTW, on this site, for people who have celebrity crushes, started by Christy.
I've been chatting online for some time with a small-time celebrity who lives in another city. He came to town, so I met him, and almost all the topics i MDDed about discussing with him, I did actually discuss them. It was so strange. A relief of some sorts, but also very reassuring. MDD is not about being a muddle-head, it's also about developing your thoughts, ideas, heck who knows, maybe we might be even developing our brains.
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