The Illusion of happiness.

[Lily of the valley]

I promised that I’ll post frequently, so here I am, rewriting this whole post again, because I googled how to say ‘action movie’ in English and the text just disappeared… So just know that I had enough dedication to share my thoughts with you Σ੧(❛□❛✿)

Life has been… pretty okay honestly. Sounds so unusual to me, because then I had MD every day of my life was a living hell. Now days are mostly quiet and mundane; I go to the gym, study, eat, go to bed, go to the gym, study, go to bed, go to the gym, stu… You got the point. I got used to it, but sometimes I really miss my fantasy world, myself from my daydreams.

Sometimes It’s so hard to stay away from daydreaming that it feels like fighting: in bad times I breathe heavily, while siting with closed eyes and just trying to stop thinking. Sometimes the only thing that stops me is rereading your posts.

I decided to share some of my experience on staying away from daydreaming.

Firstly, you should determine your biggest triggers: for me it’s romantic relationships, fear of losing my family, and just all strong emotions. Knowing what triggers you the most will help with the next point: Avoid the triggers. I promise, it will be much easier to deal with emotions in a normal way. Another bonus point to this topic: as we, daydreamers, think alike, I think that we should collectively avoid watching movies and series. Especially dramas, thrillers, action movies, fantasy movies etc. Because it makes our minds go crazy and it’s really hard to not let it happen.

To my mind, the whole “disorder”, Maladaptive Daydreaming, wouldn’t be so bad without the Internet. Daily unlimited access to music and content made our lives worse. Too much stimulation. We can’t get enough of it, so we go and do it in our minds. Thus, avoiding social media and films may help a lot. I will try to live without social media for at least one week to see if it’s really helpful.

The last thing I can recommend today is getting to know your real self. Then I stopped daydreaming, it suddenly became obvious thar I have no idea who I am as a person, what I really like and dislike. Because of MD, I always didn’t have enough time to think about this, and my dream world was enough for me. Now, it is not. Learn what you like, your priorities, plans, etc. In order to stay in this reality you should love this reality and your real self.

The most valuable thing from being a daydreamer is the insane creativity. Find ways you can express it without daydreaming. For me personally it’s drawing, writing, making collages. Maybe I will share some of my works in my next posts. The creativity we have is not bad, it’s actually wonderful! Just use it in a healthy way.

I hope you found reading it helpful. As usual, sorry for my bad English. God bless you all, my dear friends.

[Mils]

You describe the reasons perfectly omg, getting to know my real self was a big game changer. Also yeah, it's so annoying because as much as it's cool to live in the real world and get shit done, I also miss the fantasy worlds, where everything comes without effort and I don't need to put the hours in for the reward. But the creativity is such a big bonus, oh my god :)

[Kave]

I'm so glad you keep writing, it makes me happy, it's really amazing, I respect you

[Tan]

I literally just found out the reason while typing this

[Tan]

I have this very recurrent theme of like impressing my family so it’s like all of them are sitting on a table and I show up with my friends or something cool has happened to me or someone tells them that I’m their friend or I meet like 100 people I know when we are at a restaurant. I think this probably happens because my family always judged me always and on things like you don’t have a lot of friends and I would genuinely feel bad feeling they feel oh she doesn’t even have friends and would always compare me . My Maladaptive daydreaming probably started like that when I felt like you know I needed to show them that I have friends that I have a good life