Possible connection between MDD and boring life?

This has probably been already said, but I got to thinking about it just now.
From what I know about brains, they need to be stimulated in order to work right, and if they're not stimulated enough, they make up interesting stuff (a.k.a. 'hallucinate').

Now, as you all can probably imagine, a life in which every day sucks all the same to the point where you start having trouble tracking time, not to mention that you hate it all, is bound to feel boring as hell. And when nothing exciting or even decent happens, what choice do you have but make things up? Hence, daydreaming.

I can confirm this, give me something to do that is actually worth doing and I'll stop daydreaming immediately without thinking twice. Anyone else feeling this way?

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Comment by Camoran on February 23, 2016 at 8:47am
Routine tasks are boring by their very nature, you just keep doing the same thing over and over again until you can do it almost without thinking, and then daydreaming takes over.
As for isolation, it's a far too common problem. We're taught since our birth that we have to hide and lie, show as little as possible of our true self and instead let others see only what we want them to see. Witness all the suicides with nothing but bright smiles in their photo gallery.

The only way to remove this kind of isolation is to stop convincing everyone that it's a good thing, but truth is bad for business and so is everyone who wants to be honest.
Comment by Danny M Reed on February 23, 2016 at 8:37am

As for having something to DO, yes, it does tend to focus the mind. Still, I have found that doing routine repetitive tasks only causes me to drift off into daydreaming. It is boredom that gets the best of us. We tend to disconnect.

Comment by Danny M Reed on February 23, 2016 at 8:31am

Yes, I agree. People put into Solitary Confinement have similar experiences. I think we sometimes put ourselves into isolation or we are put there by someone else. People in BOTH Rural AND Urban or Suburban areas have a feeling of isolation that is really about connectedness and relationships. If we don't have that we create it with our minds. Even these Forums and Chats on the Internet have become commonplace. Still, there is a quality of genuine intimacy in a real relationship that is always missing when people are into Maladaptive Daydreaming. We are trying to replace something that is missing and the replacements, in the end, are just never as satisfying or fulfilling as a real intimate relationship with one person. I'm not referring to just a sexual relationship, although that is usually part of it. I MEAN A REAL CONNECTION. Nothing, not even sex, can replace that intimate quality.

Comment by Camoran on February 18, 2016 at 2:16pm

It's always easier to talk about solutions than to put them into practice. Your situation is dangerous, your parents played their cards well enough that none of you have the means to get rid of their oppression.

There's one thing though, that you may not have considered. Assuming what I'm going to say is the case where you live, being at least 18 is being overage, and if you're overage your parents no longer have any excuse to force you to do (or not do) anything. I'd suggest that you take everything bad they've done for your entire life and turn it against them in the most cruel and relentless way, but this requires an almost non-existent set of morals that you probably don't have.

Before I suggest anything else, what kind of dictatorship do you have? Do your parents enforce their whims with just loud words and orders or do they come to blows?

Comment by Rachel on February 18, 2016 at 11:14am

In response to Danny and Source, I think both of you guys have a good point. 

However, regarding the problem with my parents, I believe I agree more with what Source said. You see, it isn't really that my parents doubt my abilities or anything like that. They've basically always thought that their children were just there to make their lives easier and to babysit and care for their younger children. Therefore, they always say to us, help out at home, instead of getting job and or moving out. Then, they've refused to let any of us even start practicing driving until age 18, so that they don't have to pay for Driver's Ed. Of course, then they try to teach us how to drive themselves and both of my older siblings didn't get their license until age 19! My parents actually had to drive them to and from college classes, making it impossible for them to make friends or take part in extracurricular activities, because they just had to run to class the minute they got there and to the car the minute class ended. Then, since they won't let us get our license, we can't a get a job (they wouldn't drive us or let us walk to work) and then have to rely on them to pay for our education and don't have any money to move out or anything. So, yeah, they are definitely an obstacle to my life goals. I've tried and my siblings have tried to talk to them about this stuff, but they just don't listen. I am thinking that I'd like to detach, but, not being independent whatsoever because of my parent's suppressiveness, makes it almost impossible to go out on my own. So, although you both make good points, I don't see how either suggestion would actually succeed with my parents...

Comment by Camoran on February 16, 2016 at 3:08pm

@Danny Daydreaming isn't "a mind trap that sucks life away", it isn't an active entity that does things. It's nothing but a manifestation, a consequence of something from outside. It isn't a mind trap, but rather the signal of one that originally came from outside.

That said, I'm very tempted to believe that Rachel's parents wouldn't understand, or even listen if she told them what's wrong. After all, they're the very cause of her isolation and all of its consequences. Such parents are nothing but an obstacle to life goals, no good can come by trying to get them to be helpful. Detachment and independence are the only way to stop them from blocking off everything.

One's own strength is the only one that should be relied on, and anyone who tries to undermine it should be thrown out of the way.

@Rachel Nice, isn't it? Now you have two contrasting views on the same problem. Does your own view match one of them, maybe just in part?

Comment by Danny M Reed on February 16, 2016 at 2:19pm

@Rachel I had similar experiences and I developed the Dissociation of MDD that later became Bipolar Disorder and AD/HD Inattentive Type in School and my personal life. If you don't have Connection and Relationships your mind will compensate for that. I'm not saying you have or will have such serious Disorders, but the breeding ground for trouble with Emotional and Mood Disorders is lack of Connection and and lack of Relationships.

Do EVERYTHING you can to let your Parents know how important it is to your health and future to have Connection and healthy Relationships. If they have fears about your abilities to get a Drivers License and a Job or making Friends, help them to have confidence in your abilities to handle these Responsibilities at home. It is really quite important that you work with your Parents to develop some Goals for yourself in Real Life to achieve now.

I really wish you the best so you can be Happy. I'm afraid Daydreaming is a Mind Trap that sucks your life away.

Comment by Rachel on February 16, 2016 at 10:58am

I think this is pretty accurate. I, for one, have had a very boring life. I've been homeschooled or virtual schooled my whole life. I have extremely strict parents. Even though I'm almost 18, I've never had a single real-life friend, am not allowed to leave the house by myself, am not allowed to get a job, and am not allowed to take classes for my Drivers License. I think my daydreaming actually started when I was a little kid. My brother and I would be so bored at home with no friends or anything, that we would play pretend all day long. Once we got to old for that, I had nothing to do, but to continue our pretend in my mind, hence, the daydreaming. I feel that if I had had a more sociable life, or if I had friends and a job, and stuff, that I wouldn't daydream half as much as I do. However, since I'm generally just stuck at home, I simply just pace around daydreaming or watching movies, reading books, or listening to music to fuel my daydreaming.

Comment by Camoran on February 15, 2016 at 4:14pm

I seriously hate this thing. I had written one of the longest comments I'd ever put down and the backspace key loaded the previous page. When I hit the back button, it was all gone.

And since I'm seriously pissed for having wasted half an hour for nothing, I have no intention to write it again.

@DaydreamBeliever Long story short, a kid knows what he's taught. Raise a child with shouts, orders and conditional love, and you'll end up with a merciless, cold-blooded demon who will wait until the time is right to destroy everything you represent. Raise one by teaching them that they can have anything at any time, and you'll end up with yet another brainless empty box like the majority of the under-16s we have now. Fill a kid's head with bulls--t opinions, and you get people like your grandma.

This is true for you as well, just as it is for me. In fact, every case has the same root structure behind it. You were raised and trained to be a boring person, you never knew fun, so now all you know is stress and you dream about fun. You were enslaved to baseless opinions instead of being kept safe from them, so now you dream of freedom.
All the people you probably met, who were little more than embodiments of hatred; they only ever lacked love. Outgoing, encouraging people who always smile; be careful not to dig too quickly into their secrets, or you'll regret it.

There's no such thing as a point when it's time to stop blaming one's parents for these things. If you have a damaged personality, it's no one's fault but theirs.

DDing is a coping mechanism, an attempt to compensate for what we need, never had, and never knew. Balance must be maintained somehow, so if it can't be done in reality, imagination will fill the void.

Comment by Camoran on February 14, 2016 at 3:24pm

@DaydreamBeliever You sound like me, running after ghosts, no progress, counting the days. I've reached 983 and I'm farther from my goals than I was on day 1.

You'd think I'd get things done in 23592 hours.
Let me guess, you have already figured out the causes and how to fix stuff but you can't bring yourself to turn thoughts into action?

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