Lost

[Aseel]

I assume that most of people have already been through this.We recognize our condition,then we find this site,then get excited and start struggling to overcome this condition.First two days are usually successful then slowly we drown in DD.

I've been like that,then I started praying  a lot,then I don't daydream as  I used to be.Now I don't find comfort in daydreams as I used to be but the problem is:If I can't find comfort in daydream,what can I do? If I overcome daydreaming, what then?

Daydreams are the only thing that fills my life,without them I am empty and that's why I feel lost at the moment because I can't enjoy daydreams neither can find something else to fill the emptiness.

 

[Aseel]

I am at school,I study medicine,most of my time is occupied by lectures and rounds,the only time I have for my myself is the weekend and I am supposed to be studying but I lose it to daydreams.I can't create a room for other activities because guilt will eat me although I've many hobbies but i stopped them because of school.
Most of the time I feel like I don't belong there,I tried to find a place for me but when I start something I feel like this isn't my thing.

[ShellyBelly]

Hello! The only thing I can say is that we have to really figure out WHY we are so disappointed with real life. There must be a reason and we all have to do that soul searching. Why do you think you are so discontent?

[Nicholas Peralta]

It really depends on what your real life is like. How is your social life? Any hobbies or things that you find you are good at and enjoy? Are you in school? Do you live in a small town or near a city? Filling that emptiness depends on these kinds of questions its literally about exploring the options and the situation.

Also, how close are your daydreams to reality? I found that most of mine were pretty far-fetched and impossible but some of them were things that I could actually accomplish within a reasonable time frame. Do you have any "realistic" fantasies per se?

[Morella Damascena]

The only way to "fill the emptiness", I think, is to DO stuff (something I am horrible at; what do I do?), and to try to build on your skills, character, and relationships. All easier said than done.

[Morella Damascena]

I am the same. I daydream a lot, but ever since I started analyzing my daydreams and getting more in touch with reality*, I come away feeling cold after I enjoy what I enjoy from my daydream. The thing that I'm concerned with is: what do people DO when they don't daydream? How do you live without thinking about anything?

*e.g. In my daydreams, I talk a lot to people, they respect my opinions, etc. IRL, I'm a closed clam. Case in point: a few weeks ago, I went to my cousins'. I uttered maybe ten words in the entire 4 hours of being there.

[ShellyBelly]

I know exactly how you feel! I noticed one of the reason I DD is because I want to be somewhere else in life but don't feel that I have the tools to achieve it. I feel that if I had a life full of other things that I would stop DD'ing. For me, I'm a developing hobbies. I craft and I am playing guitar. I still wonder though if I am MDD'ing when I do it because I don't know what normal people do when they are occupied in a task but at least I am improving on my skills. Just pick a random new thing and do it and see where it leads you. Dance, skate, paint, sing. Just try something and see. :-)

[Sammy]

That happens to everyone. It's a very easy question to answer. What you can do is start working on your life. As the days go by, you'll become more attached to reality and you'll see yourself more as person. Make friends (Real life). Keep a diary. Depending on how old you are, focus hard on school, college, work, or wherever your occupation is. Have any hobbies besides daydreaming? Go achieve it. If not, it's always  great idea to find one. Daydreaming is definitely more comforting than real life, because anything can happen there. But it's not good for you. As you become more attached to the real world, you'll feel better about it.