family issues

[Aseel]

I don't know what to do?I was faring well for the past weeks,my daydreams have been less than before and I was relaxed but then a strong storm disturbs my solace,a fight with my mother.I generally tend to be away from her,my mom is controlling,judging and represents the reality that I tend to escape from . Everytime we've a conflict,I end up be reminded that I am a selfish cold person and merciless towards her,I don't know what happened so I end up hearing things like that.So when your mother says things like that to you all the time,you end up believing them and then I can't stand those facts so I escapes to my daydreams.I daydream that I've lots of friends who appreciate me,like having me around them,I never daydream about family because even in my daydreams they're the same for me.

I know I should accept things as they're,perhaps I am what my mother says about me and perhaps I am not that.Daydreams are potent pain killers but they don't stop the major issue.

[Kathy C]

Sorry I know how you feel I also have a mother who makes me feel bad about myself....it sucks when the one person you should be able to rely on isn't there for you in the ways you need them to be and are in fact causing the problems ive learned to stand up to my mother.....she should be saying those things to you they are not helpful in any way....you have to love her from a safe distance and it does not make a cold person for shutting her out.......we all need space