Maladaptive Daydreaming Making Me Appriciate What I Have Got

[Tinkerbell]

I once had a crush on a guy who was my brother's friend. I never even have the courage to say ," Hello" to him as I was so shy. I fancied him from a far for about 3 years. Something happened and my brother and him stopped being friends ( I don't know why ) and we all just lived our lives separately. Still I watched him from afar, I thought he was so beautiful and although I didn't know him. In my day dreams I had completed this beautiful gentleman who was kind, nice to animals and pleasant to be around. He got a girlfriend and I was annoyed with myself for not saying anything to him sooner but I thought ,"Whatever, I can live with it." Then one day irritated that I was staring ( I actually thought I was being discreet) he waited for me outside my house. My Uncle had just dropped me off home and when I saw him I couldn't even look him in the eyes. . There he was standing with all of his "new friends" he approached me and said very calmly without any menace, "I prefer dating white girls. I don't date N ***ers." I felt like my heart had broken. I had allowed my fictional version of him to become real enough to me that I never stopped to consider that, he could be the complete opposite. I would leave the house and he would intentionally block my way so that I could watch them embrace and French kiss.

Second time, a semi fictional character of mine had ended up beening the exact opposite.

When I met my boyfriend I didn't think it would last but it has and he is amazing. On top of that, he knows of my Maladaptive daydreaming and he's ok with it. I have an amazing job have some amazing people in my life and I have found this AMAZING site, filled with amazing people like myself. Although I do day dream about having super powers and being that popular girl from high school, my experience has allowed me to focus more inwardly and realize how lucky I am. Thank you all for reading. X

[True Blue Dreamer]

Wow! Thanks to your post, now I realize why I would get so attached to guys I didn't really know and get so disappointed when I really get to know them. I did what you did, I would create an ideal version of the guy I like and that would make me fall for him even more. I would create this date we went on hoping it happens in real life, to get heartbroken in the end. So I think in reality, I never really liked a guy in my life, just the guys in my head. I'm glad things are better for you and I pray to God he blessed me with a man who will not see or treat me different cause of my MD. God bless!

[Amanda Lewone]

That guy was kinda rude though. He could've just said he's not interested. But glad you are now able to appreciate real life.