Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
Day 1 - I've been Maladaptive Daydreaming for over four years now, and I know that it's time to stop. I've recently been able to improve my life, but am facing some obstacles right now and want to clear my mind and focus on improvement. Today I spent a huge amount of time in depression and daydreaming, trying to escape my current circumstances and overlooking all the blessings in my life. I truly believe that all our lives have so much value, value beyond our imagination, and that we should try our hardest to recognize that value. So right now, I will take small steps, starting off by forgiving myself for all the mistakes I have made, and calmly take on whatever I need to do.
Day 19 - Today I'm writing in the morning, something I usually don't do. I'm about to get started on my work, but before doing so, I want to remind myself of my blessings in real life. I admit that my real life is far from ideal, but I strongly believe that I'm fortunate in so many ways, for example having healthy food to eat, clean water to drink, an awesome education, and an amazing family. Daydreaming can be so tempting, but I have to remind myself that I need to be completely focused when working, because focusing will bring me peace of mind and will allow me to accomplish what I set out to do. When a daydream comes, I will calmly observe it without catching myself in it, knowing that eventually the daydream will pass.
Thank you for the complement. My willingness to cure my daydreams comes from my resolve to not spend the rest of my life daydreaming uncontrollably and my firm belief that I can overcome Maladaptive Daydreaming. There have definitely been times when I felt as though I was not strong enough to stop MD, and during those times I had to remind myself the truth. I know you are strong enough to eventually stop Maladaptive Daydreaming and live an amazing and fulfilling life. Doing so will just require a lot of focused effort and faith, but I know it's possible. Consistently motivate and be kind to yourself, and know that you are worthy of living an awesome life. There will be many setbacks along the way, and sometimes you may find yourself deeply caught up in daydreams, as I have just a few minutes ago. However, each time you daydream, pick yourself back up, and know that one day, because of your consistent efforts, you will be in a much better position than you are currently. Good luck!
If you need motivation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KmLpvzufJ5s
Never give up, no matter how discouraging situations may seem at the moment. If you put in effort, things WILL get better! Guaranteed.
I'm impressed by your willingness to cure. I started to be aware of My daydream's triggers. But I'm not feeling myself strong enough to stop it.
Day 26 - This morning when I woke up, my MDs hit hard. I felt like I was enjoying the present moment but at the same time I was trying to escape it by daydreaming. However, I realize that no matter how much I daydream, at some point I will be forced to face reality, so I might as well make the best out of my reality. I realize that it's completely uncertain how much longer I will live, so I've set high goals for myself that will require me to really stretch out of my comfort zone, but also those that if I am able to achieve will give me intense happiness, fulfillment, and meaning in my life. I realize that the best approach I can take at this point is to stay 100% committed to my goals, and willingly embrace any discomfort I face along the way. In the end, it will be worth it.
Day 28 - Up until this point, this whole day I have been Maladaptive Daydreaming heavily, and I know it is time to stop. My daydreams were fueled partially by my desire to escape the problems I must deal with in my real life, but I know I must face them. I felt depressed in the afternoon, and couldn't figure out a way to get out of the negativity, so I started listing out things I am grateful for and went for a nice run. I really need to work now to fulfill my goals, and I understand that MD will come, so I will treat the incoming daydreams with a sense of calmness and detachment, staying focused on what I need to do in real life.
Day 30 - Today my daydreams really hit hard when I was studying for an exam this morning and didn't do so well. I became slightly dejected, and allowed MDs to enter. Though the rest of the afternoon was tough, it really gets better once you just grab yourself, no matter how bad of a state you're currently in, and resolve to start doing what you need to be doing. Sometimes, just getting into action is the best way, even if you don't know for sure whether the action will be fruitful.
Day 31 - Today my MD wasn't that bad. I had a clear focus on what I wanted to do and that really helped keep me motivated and on track. I remember this afternoon, my daydreams were getting fairly strong. However, I realized that I didn't need to continue daydreaming. I made a resolve to focus as hard as I could on my work, as I know doing so will be very rewarding at the end. I had to remind myself that I was working towards something great in life, and that it was up to me whether I chose to enjoy my work or not. Later, while exercising, daydreams started creeping up again. This time though, I caught myself, and made sure to work out hard to the intention that I get the strength to deal with my daydreams in a responsible way. I also allowed myself to dream, not daydream, that one day my life will be completely unlike it is now if I stay consistent with my work.
Day 51 - I haven't posted on this journal for a long time. I think that it's very important I keep in mind why I'm doing what I'm doing. I know that I have a major test coming up in two days, and I have to make a decision. Either I can continue to MD, focus on my problems, and work very inefficiently, or I can be kind to myself, work extremely hard, not get discouraged, observe my MDs calmly when they come, and know that I'm doing the best I can. I choose the latter.
Day 54 - Today I definitely experienced decreases in productivity levels, and felt strong MDs creeping in, trying to mask the fear and insecurity I'm facing in my real life. After reading Eretaia's post on how to cure MD, I was given hope, and I also know that now is the time to fight this MD addiction smarter, not just harder. I need to try out new approaches to dealing with my real life and the MDs that enter my life. I will start off by making sure to take time to include restorative habits (exercising, meditating, journaling, coming on WildMinds, etc.) as part of my daily routine. I know that it's really important for me to take care of myself, and by doing so I will feel better and be more capable to overcome MD.
I also understand that MDs are not just thoughts we should shy away. They're thoughts with which we have the opportunity to observe, and really see what they're telling us about our lives. Maybe my frequent daydreams of fame and success are trying to tell me that I urgently need to develop a higher self esteem and work towards living a meaningful life. In that case, I need to start taking risks to push myself out of my comfort zone, embrace the discomfort of change, and start seeking out ways to learn about and implement those two goals. I need to always remember that for every problem, there is a solution!
Hi. I am also trying to stop DDing. I have been free for 8 days now.
I think it's definitely worth the effort to try to stop daydreaming. That's impressive that you've been free for 8 days. For me at this point I'm going hour by hour, and I know that with smart and consistent effort, we can free ourselves from MD. Do you have any advice for staying away from MD?
Yolandi Wells said:
Hi. I am also trying to stop DDing. I have been free for 8 days now.