What are you missing out on the most?

[Palejade]

I was wondering what your real lives are like. What parts do you feel you are missing out on the most because of MD?

Me it's probably romance. Im sixteen and ive never dated anyone. I know it's probably my dreams that have been keeping me from experiencing the things i really want,and sometimes i worry im never going to get that.

I've found that when i travel and im really busy my urge to dream becomes less strong since im so involved in my current life. Only problem is I've got a real "nerd" reputation at my school, so i never get invited to parties or anything. I've decided just to cram until school is over (only got a year and a half left) to get into a good school, then to have fun in college where ill have a clean slate. But will I be able to? I know I'm inexperienced, and im worried i won't be able to get into the life i want since i dont know how. 

Has anyone else gone through this? Were you able to make relationships and have fun? What are your real lives like? 

Other than my lack of romance, Im actually very happy with my life. I have a good balance between my dreams and my real life, Im just in a school where i dont get the opportunity to do the things i want. 

Sometimes I just really worry about whether ill be able to build the future i want for myself. I dont feel like im asking for much. 

Tell me how these sorts of things are for you in your lives. 

[Laila]

I'm missing out on life period. I think my MD stemmed from social anxiety, as a way to feel safe, entertained, and in control of something. It's more than a coping mechanism; it's my lifestyle. As a result, I haven't experienced most things people my age have done, like dating, working, and living away from parents. The sad part is that I'm not even interested, since my daydreams are full of those experiences. My only major accomplishment in life was completing 4 years of college; however, it doesn't really mean anything until I do something with my degree. I've been struggling for half a year to do just that. If I want to seriously reduce MD, I think it'll have to start with finding confidence in myself. And like Hamtaro said, becoming more involved in social activities.

[littleschrodinger'scat]

     Everything. I don't have friends, I rarely leave the house, and I don't particaipate in any in or out-of-school activities. I can't sustain any conversation (other than with my mom or sisters) because I just don't know how. I used to be much better at it but the more I daydreamed the less I socialized and I slowly lost the ability. I don't know how to act with other people, especially people of authority. I used to skip school because I was afraid my teachers would yell at me (which to this day has never happened). I was in drumming classes for a month and a half. I dreaded every day I had to go, I was so scared of my teacher. I wanted to quit from day one, but was afraid to tell my mother (I am so glad I finally did).

    I am never going to be able to live on my own. I can't deal with school, and am not going to even attempt college (I am not even sure I am going to graduate). I can't find any motivation, all I want to do is go to my fantasy world. I am not going to be able to survive with a job because my social difficulties. It would be like my drum lessons, except they were once a week for thirty minutes. A job is hours a day, day after day.

   It as been nearly two years since I have had a friend. I am sort of friends with this one girl. We only see eachother (or even acknowledge the other exists) once a year at a convention. It is the only unnecassary socializing I do all year.

[Wish Upon A Wish]

I'm not quite sixteen, I had one bf about a year ago, but I didn't really try too hard to contact him and stuff, I think 'cause I like the daydreams better, (which is why I put off contacting my friends in real life, even though I love them to bits). I'm kind of wanting another boyfriend again, but I know I'm not going to try hard enough, even if I care about him, so that puts me off trying to find someone.

[Wish Upon A Wish]

A social life. I think. I do have one, I just don't try hard enough to keep in contact, and soon I'm going to have to start trying harder, because school's out now.

Also, in Martial Arts, I find it harder to concentrate, like I do in some things in school. So it's kinda damaging my education. Though my computer usage isn't lacking. I find here and while rock climbing I daydream least, and it affects me leas. Because on the cpu, my brains concentrating on the game, or reading (though, like with books, I look up into space and start dd) and in rock climbing, I can only talk to someone in my head, and usually, in a difficult spot, they wither tell me to get my arse moving or I'll get to tired to manage, or give me tips on what move to do next, if my belayer hasn't got an idea.

[1nmiirc70dne4]

I don't really know...I have been asked out before. He was SUPER cute but he was like 15 and I'm 12...I said I'd call him...its been like 6 months and I still havnt called him...LOL. I am also a geek, a nerd and I'm also a bookworm :D so the only friend I have is one at school. The rest are either 1, on the other side of the world in corea where they'll stay forever, or 2 in another city hours away. What I'm missing out....I don't know....writing?

[Skylar Grey]

I always try to not think about this but I guess being
Able to think cleary in general is what I miss. 
In the back of my mind there's always 
Something going on that involves my daydreams 
.. I'm 15 and never dated anyone :(. 

[Wish Upon A Wish]

You're only 15, you have years left to find someone! I'm barely older than you are (just turned 16) and i only had one bf, and though he didn't pressure me, exactly, I'm so bloody agreeing, and didn't do tonnes for him, so I felt.... Obliged, I think's the best word, to go further with him than I should have (not sex, but nearly. I was bloody 14 at the time!) and you know what's good about not dating many people? You don't have to worry about abusive relationships, guys who are just stupid, cheaters or many broken hearts, and if you want to flirt with someone, you've no worry about jealous boyfriends. it's a good life (even though I never try to flirt)
 (And I agree with the thinking clearly part. My brain's just got worse and worse, and I dropped down a whole level in maths last year, and another two years before that, and I'm glad as hell it's an option next year, because this year, I couldn't hardly pay any attention, and Idid try!)

Skylar Grey said:

I always try to not think about this but I guess being
Able to think cleary in general is what I miss. 
In the back of my mind there's always 
Something going on that involves my daydreams 
.. I'm 15 and never dated anyone :(.