What are you like in the real world?

[Drake]

We've talked a lot about our daydream worlds but now let's talk about the other world we live in: the real world.
What are you like outside of your daydream world? How does it compare to the daydream you?
Personally, I'm pretty tImid and quiet, whereas in my daydreams I'm adventurous and outgoing. People actually respect me in my fantasies as an equal but in the real world I get about as much respect as your average doormat.
What about the rest of you?

[J Noland]

Around people who know me well I am funny and try to make people feel happy. I am a pleaser so most of my energy goes to tuning myself to what other people may need or want. Most people who know me say they can't understand why I spend so much time alone or are suprised that I don't have a boyfriend/husband or kids. In my dds I'm still friendly (usually) and try to be funny but I don't care when people aren't happy or if they don't like me. I am self assured so to speak. Sometimes I am a loner in the dds and other times I am popular with a big social life and lots of friends. In real life you can't have it both ways so I don't know what I'd prefer if I had to choose! In the dds I can fall completely in love with someone; in real life I am way too uneasy with emotions at the moment to fall in love.

[Magenta]

In my daydreams, I'm confident, well-spoken, intelligent, and have an easy time conversing with others.  People enjoy my company and I have a close-knit group of friends, along with many suitors, that jockey for my attention.  While not a total extrovert, I'm open to new experiences and trying new things.  At work, my performance is admirable and my co-workers respect me.  In my intimate relationships, I remain a bit reserved however, and have been accused of being withholding.

 

This image sharply contrasts with reality, where I am none of those things.  Self-effacing to the core, social anxiety causes me to appear awkward in my interactions with people, often losing my train of thought mid-sentence.  Crippling fear of harsh criticism makes it next to impossible to try something out of my comfort zone.  While I do have some friends, I can't help but feel like they simply tolerate my presence, rather than seek it out.  I'm the person that gets invited to gatherings by default because the host doesn't want me to feel left out.  Piss-poor self-esteem reeks havoc upon my intimate relationships, and currently, it's easier for me to not be in one.  It's not like anyone is beating down my door to convince me otherwise at the moment. 

 

Social anxiety deeply plays into how I present myself to world, and I'm embarrassed of that person, so in reaction I withdraw further.  Increased isolation does nothing for my self-efficacy, and when I do interact with others and it is awkward, I become depressed.  Depression leads to more frequent bouts of isolation, and I end up creating a nice little trap that is extremely challenging to get out of. 

[Laila]

 

Despite that I'm quiet in both worlds, I'm perceived as cool and mysterious in my daydreams because I'm famous with a super power. And because I'm always traveling to perform, I don't really have friends. It's good enough that the whole world admires me. =P I don't know why I have a different sexual orientation, though. It just seems cool, and I like the idea of even girls fawning over me, like I'm so attractive and amazing to everyone.

[greyartist]

great chart!

It stills amazes me how simular we are seem to be. my list is about the same as everyone elses.

 

real;

quiet, serious, no close friends, preceived as cold, distant. Uncoordenated, weak, suppecious. Bad memory, disorganized.

DD;

quiet in a thoughtful kind of way, quick wit, everyone likes but still not very open(mysterious) but warm and friendly, caring. Strong, fast, trained in self defense. Younger ;) always knows whats going on and has a plan.

[Drake]

I have plenty of pretty close friends actually, I'm quite good at friendmaking :3 one of the main differences between the real me and the daydream me is that in the daydream people actually need/want me. If there's ever a problem, they know they can depend on me to help them solve it. I suppose that's my main desire in this real world, to be needed and wanted.

[littleschrodinger'scat]

Real - Timid, socially awkward in a bad way, quiet, cowardice, accidently annoying due to anxiety, not funny, not quick-witted ( in person at least ), tongue-tied, difficulty finding the right words (in person at least), forgetfull, slightly higher than average intelligence, slow at underastanding humor, couch potato, alone.

Daydream- Slightly arrogant but not to the point where in love with self, sarcastic, quick-witted, heroic, skilled in combat, has friends (but only because they have to in order to survive. If the other worldly me were in the world I currently am in, than she too would be friendless), genius, artist, can speak her mind fluently.

Both- Brutally honest, mental issues, intelligent, love of moths and butterflies, undying  passion for music, strange, number doublers, carries a stuffed animal everywhere.

 

 

[Chloe]

In my dream world, i'm confident, people care for me, listen to me, can stand up for myself, be the person i want to be. I try to reflect this in the real world, by the way i dress and the way my hair is, so try to be more and more like the person in my daydreams, but of course theres only so far i can go with it, because my personality shines in a different light.

 

In the real world I'm quite quiet, caring, do anything i can to please people. Dont care for getting, but always giving, a door mat...too nice. Just a huge softy and completely weak. Very nervous type of person, suffer from panic attacks. I always got bullied for being different, and just trying to be me. I think as well because i'm quite young for my age, a lot of people speish when i was at high school, or at college found it really weird that i wasn't acting older. 

 

[Mira]

I'm shy, awkward (or at least I feel that way) and I bottle things up inside because I never want to bother people with my problems. I'm meek to a fault, such that I have a tendency to emotionally isolate myself a lot.

I can be funny, entertaining, and VERY accommodating to people who are nerdy or eccentric, when I'm at my most comfortable (which rarely happens anymore). I'm very tolerant and patient with people, whether they deserve it or not. I am practically bursting at the seams with opinions on things that I am afraid to express, except to the very few who are closest to me. I'm scared for people to find out how emotional I am, so I hide- both physically and mentally. I almost NEVER tell people how I feel. I just go along with what they want, and don't make waves. I go about my business and keep my mouth shut, while I mentally torture myself.

In my dream world, I'm confident, and I speak my mind. I tell people what they NEED to hear, instead of just what they WANT to hear. In my dream world, I don't have stage fright or social anxiety. I can focus on the things I love, and see my projects through to the end...which is definitely not the reality. :P In my dream world I can speak eloquently to people and not trip over my words or lose my point. And in my dream world, if they don't like me, I can turn and walk away with no problems.

[Drake]

for me it's the opposite, daydream characters tell ME what I need to hear xD

Mira said:

I'm shy, awkward (or at least I feel that way) and I bottle things up inside because I never want to bother people with my problems. I'm meek to a fault, such that I have a tendency to emotionally isolate myself a lot.

I can be funny, entertaining, and VERY accommodating to people who are nerdy or eccentric, when I'm at my most comfortable (which rarely happens anymore). I'm very tolerant and patient with people, whether they deserve it or not. I am practically bursting at the seams with opinions on things that I am afraid to express, except to the very few who are closest to me. I'm scared for people to find out how emotional I am, so I hide- both physically and mentally. I almost NEVER tell people how I feel. I just go along with what they want, and don't make waves. I go about my business and keep my mouth shut, while I mentally torture myself.

In my dream world, I'm confident, and I speak my mind. I tell people what they NEED to hear, instead of just what they WANT to hear. In my dream world, I don't have stage fright or social anxiety. I can focus on the things I love, and see my projects through to the end...which is definitely not the reality. :P In my dream world I can speak eloquently to people and not trip over my words or lose my point. And in my dream world, if they don't like me, I can turn and walk away with no problems.

[Paradox]

I can only reflect what has been said by most of those above:

 

real world =shy, awkward, isolated

DD world = confident, witty, intelligent,  admired, a bit mean and arrogant (but with a heart of gold) etc.

 

Love to see that a few people like EludeMyFantasies and Drake can carry on a pretty normal life along side thier DDing. Wish it were that way for me.

[Truthful Alibi]

@Laila, hope you don't mind, but I decided to make a chart like you did.

 

My shoulder thing is that I hate it when someone touches my shoulders or shoulder blades. Especially my shoulder blades.

Another thing is that my DD character has broken loads of bones, had really bad injuries (not burns though, DD me is immune to fire... most of the time) and has even been in a coma. DD me also likes to matchmake people and argue. The real life me likes to argue, but not a lot. The DD me always wins arguments and fights and is very good with little kids. She used to look after them when she was 10/11 and lived on 'the island' and worked for 'the agency'. She once took them tombstoning. She didn't get to look after them after that.

[Dea]

Well... The thing is... In real life, I'm quite interesting and fun to hang out with. Sometimes sarcastic but always hyperactive, friendly etc. It always surprise me that people actually want to hang out with me... But as time goes buy they give up with calling me out and stuff.. I turn them down all the time, they're waisting my precious DD time.