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Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
will MDD be stick to me the whole life ?!!!
the most terrifying idea that comes through my mind is that I will suffer from MDD for the rest of my life that really makes me terrified :( I want to get rid of daydreaming but the problem it is the only thing that gives me the joy and makes me happy and raise my self-esteem and confidence nothing else makes me the happiest person in the world except DD but when I truly want to get rid of it for just one day no more and the next day I feel worse.
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Permalink Reply by Jennifer on
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It seems very common for us MDers to worry about this. I'm glad you posted this, because I was just worrying about the same thing!! I have this long, thought-out, elaborate daydream that i've been involved in for about 8 years now, and I'm just so afraid that I'll never be strong enough to let it go. My biggest worry is that I'll be married with an important career, and STILL carrying this story on with me. I've always just thought to myself that I'll be happier with life when I'm older, so my daydreams would just go away. But, now I don't see that being the case.
Sorry! Didn't mean to start ranting like that. :/ But, just remember that we're all in this together, and that we are all living with this condition with the same fears, wonders, and struggles. (For the most part).
Best of luck to you!
Jennifer xoxo
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Permalink Reply by Dahmy Wahmy on
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MDD is basically impossible to get rid of unless you have a really high boost self-esteem and things go perfect in your life (at least for me). I constantly worry I'll never be able to let go my DD too since I am really shy and depend on it as my own personal safe haven. What I recently started doing was typing up my DDs and printing them off to show my friends and this seemed to help. By doing this I could satisfy my need to daydream while still doing something productive and not actually daydreaming. Maybe if you write your fantasies out like me we'll slowly be able to let MDD go. You could show the stories to relatives instead of your friends if you don’t have any. I only have a few =(
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Permalink Reply by mohamed bahaa eldin hussien on
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yes jannifer I know are all suffering from the same problem and we are trying to help each other and i hope we will get through this as soon as possible but I thnik from my point of view is that the best thing to forget about DD is that to make yourself busy as possible even if you forget about it a week or even month and then return DDing it is ok as long as you have something that makes you forget about it
best of luck to you too!
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You are right about keeping busy, when I have a deadline or am under performance pressure of some kind, I don't DD much. But on other days, it's a compulsion - I can't control or stop it. And everything else pales in comparison. The books or movies I like, the friends I like talking to, I just can't wait to be alone so I can begin with my dd.
I love music, but now I don't seem to be able to listen to anything without dd-ing. So I suddenly realize that the song is over and I didn't even listen.
Hate this feeling of loss of control. I hope I'm able to kick this. I feel guilty that I enjoy it so much. Am I really any different from an addict who needs a fix every now and then?
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sepia grey I agree with the idea that says the MDD is kind of an addiction that needs to be healed and needs alot of things to fix.I have exactly your problem you said how I feel in your words so I think that what I would do I will make a list of things that make me stop DD-ing and make another list of things that make me fall in DD-ing then I would exactly see what should I do about it that what would I do I hope you find away also to get rid of this MDD as soon as possible
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Dahmy Wahmy
I liked your idea alot you are making the best use of DD you converting from something negative in your life to something positive that can enrich your creativity or you can make it a story.I will try your idea I liked it a lot I hope that will works for me to stop DD and converting to something I can use to improve myself and at the same time I would satisfy my desire of daydreaming but by writing a story about it thanks for help :D
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Your welcome =) and if you don't like writing maybe you could make drawings, paintings, mosaics, etc. of your DDs. Like everyone said the whole idea is to stay busy and do something fun & useful! There's many other things you can do as well in order to distract yourself, but for me I'm so addicted to MDD that I have to do something related to it (otherwise I'll get bored and start DDing again...). I hope we can get better together!! ^_^
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Dahmy Wahmy
I hope we get better together thanks a lot :) and I have tried drawing but it didn't work out as I get bored and get back to MDD and your are right the point is you have to choose something makes you busy and not makes you bored because sooner or later you will return to MDD so everyone has to choose something fits him/her and be restricted to it
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I am so like you that I feel your words are mine:-). How I developed this I'm not sure. I'm not shy, an extrovert, had no abuse as a child other than maybe some verbal kid stuff yet I turn to the fantasy cuz I'm happiest while I'm there. My therapist said that it was a coping mechanism that now doesn't work for me. What I was coping from still eludes me. Loneliness is all I can think of. I, like someone else posted, couldn't wait or would opt out of going out with others just so I could be in my fantasy world. Ugh I want it to go away. i'm going to try keeping busy etc like others suggested. My therapist said to write about it as I'm in it cuz it's helpful....looking for any and all ideas...thanks!!
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wooooooooooow I am so surprised a very good poem good job :D .I think that is the creative part of DDing thanks alot
CreativeWriter said:I have no answer to your question but I wrote a poem about it.
Adult with imaginary friends.
Any adult that still has imaginary friends
Will never know normal life or even where to begin
To explain why you’re almost 50 still playing pretend
With maladaptive daydreaming that has no end
It may be hereditary or chemical imbalance in the brain
It may be a result of abuse but not all stories are the same
I have never known life without these imaginary friends
They were with me when I was born and I guess
They’ll be with me when life ends.
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yeah a lot of stories about DDing but I think they are the same they are all meeting at one point which is they can't stop DDing because it gives them the happiness or the relief they couldn't find some where else I think that is the point and if we should start healing the DDing we should begin at this point.
Lisa p said:I am so like you that I feel your words are mine:-). How I developed this I'm not sure. I'm not shy, an extrovert, had no abuse as a child other than maybe some verbal kid stuff yet I turn to the fantasy cuz I'm happiest while I'm there. My therapist said that it was a coping mechanism that now doesn't work for me. What I was coping from still eludes me. Loneliness is all I can think of. I, like someone else posted, couldn't wait or would opt out of going out with others just so I could be in my fantasy world. Ugh I want it to go away. i'm going to try keeping busy etc like others suggested. My therapist said to write about it as I'm in it cuz it's helpful....looking for any and all ideas...thanks!!
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Thanks....you're words make sense to me and are so true. I really appreciate it..it's been a rough 2 days.
mohamed bahaa eldin hussien said:yeah a lot of stories about DDing but I think they are the same they are all meeting at one point which is they can't stop DDing because it gives them the happiness or the relief they couldn't find some where else I think that is the point and if we should start healing the DDing we should begin at this point.
Lisa p said:I am so like you that I feel your words are mine:-). How I developed this I'm not sure. I'm not shy, an extrovert, had no abuse as a child other than maybe some verbal kid stuff yet I turn to the fantasy cuz I'm happiest while I'm there. My therapist said that it was a coping mechanism that now doesn't work for me. What I was coping from still eludes me. Loneliness is all I can think of. I, like someone else posted, couldn't wait or would opt out of going out with others just so I could be in my fantasy world. Ugh I want it to go away. i'm going to try keeping busy etc like others suggested. My therapist said to write about it as I'm in it cuz it's helpful....looking for any and all ideas...thanks!!
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