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Telling someone exactly what I think about...

I can't do it. I thought I could tell someone I trust, but I can't do it! DDing is SO personal to me that I'm embarressed. I'm worried that they will think I'm sick, in the head. "Why would you fantasize about that?" Well, I don't know why I do it - but I can't stop because it's like I HAVE to. Keeps me sane. End of story.

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Comment by ashlee on June 6, 2012 at 4:37pm

hmmm
one time i did extacy with my friend  ( i know im a bad teenager ok, i havent done it since then because its bad lol)
and i told my friend everything.....it took me 3 hours and i didnt even say everything. it was weird and she was actually listening lol
i told her i was embarrassed but she said it was ok. i havent broughten it up since then......
i think the only people i could tell now is like anyone on this site just because they'd understand

Comment by Nomad on June 3, 2012 at 3:14am

In my case, discussing my fantasies has gotten easier with practice. At first, exposing myself was terrifying. But talking seems to loosen the fantasies' power over me, and that's what I want. I also used to get into awkward, uncomfortable confessions, but my discussions have gotten more useful and productive over time. I think having more knowledge has increased my confidence, which makes it easier to trust the right people and to protect myself from the wrong people. 

Comment by LostSoul99 on May 31, 2012 at 10:30pm

That's exactly what I used to think. Recently I have talked to my friend. She understood. She didn't necessarily think that I had a problem or even thought I was crazy but she said how everyone does it some time or the other, much more than you realize. That day I told the social worker that I've been seeing lately about this, she said how she also used to day dream. I don't think she had a maladaptive daydreaming disorder exactly but she said how somedays she would look out the window and day dream for an hour. So try and figure out who would actually understand this condition and who will not, if you know what I mean. It takes someone very open-minded and intellectual to understand something as complex as meladaptive daydreaming and it takes a lot of courage to tell someone as well. My reccomandation: be careful of who you tell it to and if you don't feel comfortable telling anyone, keep it to yourself. This is a very personal thing and many people just wouldn't understand. If you want to tell anyone about your DDing, tell us. I think if there's anyone who would understand, it would be us. Good luck.

Comment by Brett Elaine on May 31, 2012 at 7:10am

I really want to tell someone I know about MD, just to raise awareness, and maybe help people understand why sometimes I seem so underachieving but it's so embarrassing and generally doesn't fit in with my persona in real life.

I feel like any sort of obsessive activity/addiction is usually really hard to admit to others, but especially MD because it seems like something that could be pretty easily controlled or avoided and it's almost impossible to gauge how someone will react to this sort of news. 

If you do confide in this person, don't feel obligated to tell them your DD content. There are lots of people who have told others close to them about their MD without revealing the content of their DDs and I think that's totally normal--people usually don't reveal all of their thoughts to others, regardless of whether they are daydreams or not, so you shouldn't feel obligated to do so either. 

Comment by Jules on May 30, 2012 at 8:15pm

Ok...yes I have generally told a few close people around me (one friend and a professional) just because I've been unhappy and I'm trying to feel better about myself. I thought that if I reveal to someone what goes on in my DD then maybe they can know my struggles better and help me through it, you know. Know me, and what makes me tic... even though I love my DD's, I do want to get rid of it too. As I'm sure many here would understand!

Thanks for caring, all. Maybe one day I will have the courage to share with someone and open my life (feels like heart and soul) to another.

Comment by Jennifer on May 30, 2012 at 7:23pm

I know exactly what you are feeling. I feel like what I daydream about is completely sick and twisted. But it's like an addiction/an obsession. :/

Comment by greyartist on May 30, 2012 at 5:35am

why do you feel you have to tell anyone? It IS so personal, and it's alright to keep somethings to yourself.  

Comment by Silla Bakht on May 30, 2012 at 2:42am

You can tell your sincere friend and tell him/her about your sickness like a story and show them different information available on internet and books and take their opinion then you will easily understand what your friend think about it and if you think better then tell him/her that it's your personal story...

Comment by Wish Upon A Wish on May 29, 2012 at 8:58pm

Can you tell someone about this, but not say what you actually DD about, and if they ask, tell them it's personal?

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