Not So Good At The Whole Socializing Thing

[Lizzie Wanderlust]

So, I'm going to get straight to the point with this blog post. I know from talking to a few of you, and from lurking other posts, that a lot of you are just as 'socially awkward' as I am. We aren't the outgoing extroverts that society wants us to be.

Truthfully, I believe being an introverted and shy guy or gal has its advantages. But easily making friends isn't one of them.

For over a month now, I have been trying to make friends at my new school, but my irrational fear of initiating conversation with others has kept me from meeting a single person. Sure, I've spoken to the occasional, outgoing girl who isn't afraid to speak to the lonely girl in the corner, but we quickly learn that we have nothing in common, and the conversation ends there.

What I want more than anything, is to meet someone who I can talk to for hours on end. Someone who also jams out to indie pop, watches Doctor Who and all the good crime dramas, is obsessed with youtubers (specifically, the gamers and the up-and-coming vloggers), and isn't afraid to meet up on a Friday night to play video games and dance like an idiot.

I have a few friends like this, and I love them dearly, but they live too far away and are much too busy with other issues at the present. I feel so lonely, here. But I just keep telling myself, that I'll meet someone tomorrow. No biggie, right?

So, what about you... do you have a dream friend you wish you could meet or do you have a good group of friends already?

[Yaz]

I have friends but rarely see them. it's seems like they have all moved on and i'm stuck in the same place! Rarely leave my house am feeling pretty low right now!

[taffle]

I can relate to Eretaia's response. If I make an effort to socialize, I can talk to people but it feels like I'm forcing myself. Eventually, the other person realizes how boring the conversation is and that we don't have much in common. The only time I can be spontaneous in a conversation is when I'm releasing anger and other pent-up feelings, but that's not a good way to start conversations.

I do have a group of friends who I keep in touch with on FB, but many of them are geographically dispersed. Most of them are social and don't share many interests with me. I wish I can meet a dream friend who is also into gaming, anime, manga, spirituality, and computers.

[Eretaia]

I think I understand perfectly. I'm not shy at all and I can initiate conversations without any problem, but it does feel terribly awkward when I talk to people because all conversations seem forced and I feel like I'm faking it all the time. I can keep my conversations going but it seems so unnatural and formal. It's spontaneity that I lack, not to mention that I always speak mechanically without any feelings. In my case, the problem definitely isn't anxiety or shyness but rather identity issues. I guess I don't place any feelings into words I say simply because I'm at odds with who I am, and maybe even a bit depressed. Even when I get the chance to speak about things I truly enjoy, or even contents that are parts of my MD fantasies, it's always awkward.

[Alvy]

i just wish i had someone to game with once in a while