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MDers and one sided love/crushes

I feel that us maladaptive daydreamers have a hard time letting go of any one sided crushes we have than others. Like that person would take over our scenarios very much. It has happened to me when I developed feelings for a girl I had talked quite a bit to, only to find out she was committed to someone else. Sad part is, there were some instances where it seemed like she liked me too and I took it too deep and as you might have guessed, daydreamt an entire life with this person which gave me intense joy. When I found out she got committed to someone else, it proved to be very very difficult to let go of the person and the daydreams I had. All this happened about 4 months ago, and she still influences my daydreams in one way or the other. Is there anybody else who has experienced this? If so, please do share your experiences so that we can sort of feel less hurt in a strange way.

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Comment by Kiruba Victor on July 15, 2021 at 8:35am: Well, I feel the problem with expressing romantic intent is that if it's not reciprocated, things will be awkward afterwards like 99 percent of the time, and eventually, the person might ghost you, which happened to me, and is very painful. That's why I've been scared all my life to ask a girl out.

For me, celebrity crushes don't impact me much. I have a celeb crush on the drummer of the band Skillet, named Jen Ledger. But it doesn't affect me in MD. My real life crush had the biggest impact on my MD.

Comment by Jessica Ballantyne on July 15, 2021 at 8:09am: I've had crushes on people who didn't even look at me or care back. I made a guy at work very uncomfortable when I sent an email about how I liked him and gave him my numbers.

A crush is a fantasy. I must admit that I currently have a crush on Jeff Goldblum. But my crush tends to last for a yea, or a few months, and then it's somebody else.

Comment by Kiruba Victor on July 8, 2021 at 8:53pm: I've had that way with friendships in MD, when I didn't have them in real life. But now that I do, it doesn't affect me much in that department. Only the romance department. I look deep into conversations I have with women to see if there are hints that they're interested. Since I haven't had a relationship in my life till now, in my MD, that is kind of the central theme.