Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
It went very well. I had trouble getting a moment to include it in my session, as we tend to intermingle other things-- my ptsd list rundown, then the job prospect, current little assignments I do weekly. Finally with 15 minutes left I squeezed it in.
He knew what I was talking about, said the "maladaptive part" is based on perspective! He mentioned how almost everyone does it. But, not everyone continues past childhood or even thinks of it as anything other than a few seconds daily and it really is just another form the of "id, ego, and super-ego..." the alter-ego. He believes it's very healthy, and says if it didn't exist, why would someone like Stephen King have any success. He said a lot of other things, it was so comforting-- he does it, but not very often, just occasion to toot his own horn and snap back!
He also mentioned to check out the old movie, "The Secret Life of Walter Mitty" which is about a daydreamer who apparently gets his fantasy "life" come real by some means. So it's really not that mysterious, it's just not talked about or thought about by many. I suppose for US, we utilize it so much, it's inevitable to question it's importance or potential effect on our lives.
I asked him what to do with it, he said, "think of it as expression, but the sad part is you keep it contained-- you need to shift it's energy elsewhere." So my next project is to... write a book! LOL!
I will actually stick to it. Since my 3 days strong without doing it, it was icky and I gave in at night-- but didn't commit to drinking or anything as I usually do, just light talk and what not. He also said it's related to depersonalization, or disassociation... damn I forget which. (I know they are similar.)
Anyway, that was what I learned from the smartest guy I know, and most trusted person I know... who is also my most successful (and now, long-term) therapist. Just thought I'd share. I'm sure I fudged some of his information, but it's hard to remember a 60 minute session hours later!
As for our confidence and lonely problems, I guess that's where we have to learn to break out of our comfort and just try to enjoy real people. HOWEVER BORING! Who knows there, I like this escapism when I can moderate my alter-ego's poisons of choice! But I let that get wild sometimes and it's put a burden. I suppose the fantasy isn't the problem, it's how I choose to party with it! lol.
I may edit this if I recall anything else. Again, my brain has been all over and I've felt lousy so I may recall things later. I apologize for the unorganized rant this has become!