How to Stop Maladaptive Day Dreaming

[Darren]

We all daydream about everything 

But most of us have a main character in the midst of things

I am the main character in my day dreams

I daydream i am popular and have a nice girl 

 

So if i get a girl and have a few good friends i can trust on, then I will be happy in real life. In fact, I have some good friends, I just need a girl. 

I hate day dreaming 

I want a good reality 

fuck day dreaming, it leads to nothing in the end except for loneliness and shyness

if we want to be happy with ourselves, we need to accomplish our goals in our daydreams 

in other words, accomplish our dreams 

once we accomplish our dreams, we will be happy with reality 

happiness won't stop our maladaptive daydreaming, but it will make my daydreaming happy and it will help me not daydream as much because i know i can be comfortable in my real life too. 

I won't have to daydream about myself and how i need to be more self confident because i will be more self confident. I just need to gain the skills needed, one step at a time.

I need to go to more parties on the weekends and meet more people and more girls. Girls especially. 

I need to go to the gym and work out 2-3 times a week so if someone fucks with me, I will beat the shit out of them. I am trying every chance now to play ice hockey too. Ice hockey is something that helps take my mind of  daydreaming because I think its fun.

I need to help out more around the house so my parents will know i'm a responsible and caring person. Then  this way I can stay out later on the weekends. I love my family. Getting a job made me realize this. 

I need to make an effort to talk to people, even people I might not care about because you never know. Not everything I say has to make the other person feel happy or laugh, even though that's what I'm going for. Sometimes I feel like I'm pretending but it helps to just say whats on your mind. 

Maladaptive day dreaming is a part of us, its not a bad habit or a personality disorder. I can remember daydreaming when I was young. It just has many negative effects and some positive ones like the ones listed on the home page. 

We all need to make something out of ourselves in reality...turn our daydreams into our actual life...then we can be truly happy 

[Cordellia Amethyste Rose]

Satchi, I know it's tough, but you're not alone.  Some people do get better.  The only thing that works for me is distraction.  I only daydream less when I'm too busy doing other things.  Try to find other things that you really enjoy that will distract you from daydreaming.  Another thing people are saying works is meditation.  I've also posted some other tips people have suggested along the right side of the main page.  It may take a while to figure out what works, but don't give up.  

[Satchi R]

I'm so heavy into MD.My life is hanging by a thread because I cannot seem to find a way to stop it.It's a built in pattern and I know I need to learn a new one.I feel heavily suicidal because of my MD and paranoid about things.Can someone please tell me if they found anything that works for them? Thx so much

[Darren]

and anyone ever conquer md? by that i mean has anyone ever stopped md? and if so, how? 

i just read Jennifer's blog on how to stop md and it's something im definately going to try 

[Darren]

yay everyone agrees with me

thanks for all the support too 

i now have a goal in life, always had 

i just got to take it one step at a time, gain some attributes i don't have...like raising my self confidence 

anyone ever try seeing a therapist? and if so, did it help or work to stop maladaptive daydreaming? 

[Jennifer]

You are sbsolutely right.  I have been trying this for weeks now; You know, to achieve my dreams and goals in life, and abandon daydreaming, but unfortunately, I have had no luck.

But I wish the best of luck to you!

[Wish Upon A Wish]

If you think you can, then you really should try 

Jessie: Ditto. That's exactly me and my daydreams, it's got some insanely bad situations,a nd is fantasy stuff too. Fallen angels and shapeshifters? Nah, not quite so real, huh? 

[Jessie]

My daydreams are highly unrealistic and often involve fantasy-action situations that, of course, could never be accomplished in real life. Actually, I probably wouldn't want them to.

But like Lizzie Marie said, if you think you can do it, go for it. We have faith in you. :)

[Lizzie Wanderlust]

I agree with that completely. If I had the life I daydreamed about, I would be completely happy to stay in the real world. But my daydreams are to complicated and improbable. The kind of people I daydream about, don't exist. And at  the end of the day, I can't change my family and it seems unlikely that I will ever become as outgoing as I make myself seem in my daydreams. I'd say if you think you can find those friends and that girl out there, go for it! I wish you luck and I hope you find some happiness.