EMOTIONAL BOND WITH YOUR DAYDREAM CHARACTERS???

[Simran]

I saw a guy, liked him and involved him in my daydreams. This has happened many times before. Many guys, girls, villains have come and gone. But his time I developed a crush on this guy and have become emotionally attached to him.

It's weird because he's one of those people who are not related to me at all, never spoken to me. You know, when you're walking on the road there are so many people walking with you. He's one of them who will not even be knowing that I exist.

I can no more meet or even see him. Even if I could I could never tell him this because I know that this problem has arised out of daydreaming and daydreaming is my problem and and it is wrong to involve him in my problems.

I tried to forget him by stopping to daydream about him. I failed.

My question is that DO YOU DEVELOP EMOTIONAL BOND LIKE THIS?

I know I should be asking for your opinions to get this person out of my head rather than asking you if you've experienced the same situation. But I really don't think it will be of any use. I'd rather increase my knowledge. But still if you could opine me on how to get him out of my mind it will be really good:-)

THANX:-)

[Simran]

Hey friends, I feel really bad about it because it's just not happening and cannot even happen in reality. Its only in my dreams, but I feel it's happening in reality. My greatest fear is that- WILL I EVER BE ABLE TO HAVE MY OWN FAMILY, FRIENDS IN REALITY IN FUTURE?

I don't like this. Still I like it. I'm in so much confusion. I enjoyed daydreaming and so I kept on introducing characters in my daydreams. Now since I have grown up and understand things, I realized how much problems I've invited for myself. If only I knew this when i was 7yrs old.

Reading what most of you have experienced really makes me feel bad for myself. The moment I realize that I'm living in my daydreams and need to come back to reality I start feeling giddy.

[Oxymoron]

yup, i've had a few "dd character crushes". The latest lives on the other side of the world. I found this person by complete chance through browsing clothing fashion pics on the internet. One look and i was hooked, simply beautiful. I found more info on this person and their page on a facebook-like site. It's so weird and i feel kinda salkerish but i'd spend literally hours every night just staring at the photos fantasizing. I'd fantasize from everyday things to intimate things. Eventually someone new came up and took my focal of dd attention, though not in the crush sort of way.

And tbh the only reason i stopped dd about this person was because there was a more interesting replacement...

[LJ]

My dd "man" has been around since I was around 12 years old.  I totally have a bond with him.......  He is too perfect for words.  Tall, handsome, adores me.  I have known him longer than I have known my real  life husband.  Sad, but true.  A severe emotional bond......   His name is Brian.  My dd character Shay is everything to him.  They have an amazing relationship.  It really hurts to come back down to earth after living their life.

I went to visit a cousin for the summer when I was around 12.  Brian was a kid in the neighborhood who I just fell in love with.  I guess he was my first crush.  I have not let go since then.  Sad part is I never ever even said a word to Brian the whole time I was crushin on him!  I had plenty of chances, just never thought I was good enough.  I had zero self esteem. 

In some ways I am still the same.  It's just that I grew up and in real life and you are forced to have some pride about yourself if you want to function in society. 

Shay was invented right after him.  There was no way he would ever want the "real me" so I invented her as someone I saw him with.  She is so irresistable to him and vice versa.  They live happily after in each dding episode.

[Jennifer]

Oh, absolutely! You are not alone for sure. In my daydreams, I am a 17 year old female named Elizabeth, and she has this perfect boyfriend. Love at its truest. I have always done this: Taken my real-life love interest and use them as her boyfriend. The first one I had was Nick. (I was in the 5th grade). Then, when I reached the 7th grade, I became head over heels for someone named Connor. So, I changed Nick to Connor. Then, in the summer of my Freshman year of high school, (Which was this previous summer) I had a long-distance boyfriend named Max, and we had a brutal breakup. We just blocked each other off of every website, and each other's phone numbers, and never talked to each other again. I changed Connor to Max because I was really afraid to fully lose the real-life Max. And it's still that way today. (for now). I have an emotional attachment to him, and Lizzie and him are so in love.

[taffle]

I used to be in the same situation - I develop a crush on a guy whom I had never spoken to/interact with face to face in real life. He was a former classmate for 2 years, and I was too shy and scared to approach him so I only watched him from afar. But, several years later, I got over him. Time heals. At first, I tried to force myself to stop daydreaming about him but it doesn't work. It takes time for the crush to slowly die. So, all I can say is be patient. And meditation helps too; it helps me accept my thoughts and not be a part of them.

[greyartist]

Well my characters are made up, not people from my life. I think it's safer that way. Even though I did not choose that, it just happens that way. You could make an effort to DD about someone else, or even make up someone. And "write him out of the story" while introducing the new character. I find it really hard to control anything in a DD but if you can it may be a way to get him out of the picture.

[Misha Kashyap]

I m exactly in the same situation,but the guy whom i involved in my daydream is my classmate n knows me well....in reality i hav no feelings towards him...but in my DD i hav a very strong emotional bond wid him......i know it sounds weild....i wish i cud help u but in this case i too am helpless :-(