What do people who don't have MD think about?

[victoria zaia]

Has anyone ever wondered how people who don't have MD spend their alone time? Like what do they think about? 

[Martha M]

When not DD’ing:  planning, reflecting, considering, replaying. 

[Chifago]

I always wanted to know about it, because i don't know what  think when i'm not md.

[Martha M]

Well, honestly, the mind fills up with everyday things.  I plan what I am going to do, short and longer term, I reflect on events and conversations to understand more fully, I consider how I could manage things better the next time by replaying events.  My spiritual practices are more focused and I feel more in tune with the world.

I DD’d obsessively for 65 years and have managed to keep them at bay for only this past year.  Relationships are so much better, I have more self worth and hate myself less for my former constant failures.

[Asma]

Interesting, how did you get around to doing it? And @OP, same! I can't imagine how it must feel to lay in bed and just remain in the dark, empty moment.

Martha McCulloch said:

Well, honestly, the mind fills up with everyday things.  I plan what I am going to do, short and longer term, I reflect on events and conversations to understand more fully, I consider how I could manage things better the next time by replaying events.  My spiritual practices are more focused and I feel more in tune with the world.

I DD’d obsessively for 65 years and have managed to keep them at bay for only this past year.  Relationships are so much better, I have more self worth and hate myself less for my former constant failures.

[Martha M]

“just remain in the empty, dark moment”. Really? Is that what you think happens if there is no DD?  No!  I often review my day and think ahead to the next day and anything coming up in the near future.  Goodness, ‘empty, dark moment’.  No, not like that.

[Asma]

Haha, fair enough! 

Martha McCulloch said:

“just remain in the empty, dark moment”. Really? Is that what you think happens if there is no DD?  No!  I often review my day and think ahead to the next day and anything coming up in the near future.  Goodness, ‘empty, dark moment’.  No, not like that.

[searching mom]

I bet most of the things are similar....I don't DD (my daughter does and that's why I became a member) so I am familiar with the process.  I know her dreams are elaborate and consuming.  For non DD'rs..  I think we all worry, pray, go over past scenarios and if we made correct choices. I think about what I'd like to do with my time left on earth and how I can make a difference.  I get frustrated like everyone else that I have more "good intentions" than courage and that many of my thought out plans never come to fruition.  But if I stop thinking about and planning them in reality, then it is 100% sure that I will never do them, even if they aren't successful....and maybe just trying is success enough. :)