Hi there, my daughter has maladaptive daydreaming and I'm writing a novel where a 17 year old boy has it too.

I was thinking about how to show it in the novel - so that people who don't have it can understand how compulsive it is, how it links to your 'real' life, and how to some extent it can even help people cope with certain things.

Do you ever feel as though you are stepping into another world like some sci-fi portal?

Do you pace with eyes closed or open, and do you always need some kind of motion or do you also do it on car journeys or in bed or on the sofa?

Do you replay scenes, refining them, practising a plot until you get it 'right'?

Have you created characters based on someone you vaguely know, or met once?

Do some of you daydream everyday situations or is it ALWAYS fantastical?

I was thinking of showing it as if my character lives on this island, people by characters he has created, some based on people he knows or characters from books or films.

My daughter has done it since childhood and she is now 21, and she only discovered the name for it from this website, and she was SO relieved to know there were other people like her.

If anyone wants to share their story, I promise I won't use it in my novel as I already have the plot worked out, but it would help with my background research. I don't want anyone with MDD to feel that I have misrepresented them in my story, and I am definitely not making fun of or demonising MDD in any way.  Thanks!

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She is so lucky to have an understanding mother like you. My mom thinks I need good psychiatry. I used to be a maladaptive daydreamer, but I stopped for several reasons. It drastically effected my life, and I don't think I'll return. It was very hard for me to conceal it in public, so everybody used to notice. It was so very embarrassing. 

I used to feel like I was landing into a different world each time, or kept the same world for months. 

I used to pace with my eyes open and stare at the floor, or a table, and this was everywhere; school, backyard, sofa, bed, car trips, even when hiking. 

I did used to replay scenes, make them better next time, and rehearse the plot until I was satisfied. Sometimes these plots were quite naughty.

Yes, I have created characters that were based on all sorts of people whom I used to know, or met once, and the characters were so much nicer and cooperative than the real ones. I met someone I really liked at work, and had fantasies that we got together and even started a family. When I sent him an email in real life to show my admiration for him, he showed no feelings in return and reported me to the manager. 

I always daydreamed fantastical, so because it was way more interesting. I used to create worlds where I used to travel back in time to certain eras in history, just like Outlander, and interacted with historical figures or unknowns. 

So what made you to stop? Is because basically you revealed it ? Like that i can imagine people would be more aware of you and what exatly you doing so basically its a kind of "people notice me daydreaming so i have to stop" as of course is extreamly embarassing.

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did you go to a therapist?



Jessica Ballantyne said:

She is so lucky to have an understanding mother like you. My mom thinks I need good psychiatry. I used to be a maladaptive daydreamer, but I stopped for several reasons. It drastically effected my life, and I don't think I'll return. It was very hard for me to conceal it in public, so everybody used to notice. It was so very embarrassing. 

I used to feel like I was landing into a different world each time, or kept the same world for months. 

I used to pace with my eyes open and stare at the floor, or a table, and this was everywhere; school, backyard, sofa, bed, car trips, even when hiking. 

I did used to replay scenes, make them better next time, and rehearse the plot until I was satisfied. Sometimes these plots were quite naughty.

Yes, I have created characters that were based on all sorts of people whom I used to know, or met once, and the characters were so much nicer and cooperative than the real ones. I met someone I really liked at work, and had fantasies that we got together and even started a family. When I sent him an email in real life to show my admiration for him, he showed no feelings in return and reported me to the manager. 

I always daydreamed fantastical, so because it was way more interesting. I used to create worlds where I used to travel back in time to certain eras in history, just like Outlander, and interacted with historical figures or unknowns. 

Yes I revealed it too much! I do have Asperger Syndrome, and we can't get away with squat. We don't know how to act around people socially, so if we do anything dumb, then we'll likely get so get caught and very embarrassed. I had to slow MDD to a stop myself, without seeing a therapist. It took me years of real-world experience in my adulthood to realize what I was doing. Apparently, when I started out, I was very immature with no perception of the world around me, and I was carefree. Life felt like bliss back then, when I was doing it as a kid. Then I got hit with adult responsibilities, and my whole world changed forever. I had to stop daydreaming! Also, not only my family found out about it...non-family did too..out in public! I was so alarmed about this, I eventually decided to discontinued. I was so appalled at what might happen between others and me. It just got to be too much. 


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