How do I enjoy this world when I'm trapped in my own?

[naomi]

Okay so I gues it the stress but this year I have been daydreaming excessively . To the point that Even when I'm having fun I can't be in the moment. I can't enjoy reality anymore and I often spend whole days in my room daydreaming, and as weird as it sounds I have more fun doing it then I do with real situations. I fear that I really am loosing touch with reality but I want to be able to enjoy the real world again. Does anyone else feel like this or have any sujjestions?

[Ivy C.]

Well the reason I personally think I daydream is because I am not completely satisfied with the reality I have. In order to get back in touch with reality, you have to find happiness with it. If you are not comfortable or happy with something, of course you are not going to want to be around it. In this case, if you are not satisfied with your life, you are not going to want to live your life. Instead, you will turn to daydreaming. Find out what makes you unsatisfied with your reality, and find a way to fix it. Only then will you be able to enjoy the real world and not turn to dreaming. That's how I see it anyway. I hope this helps. C:

[naomi]

That's makes a lot of sense I will defiantly have to find thing to keep myself happy. Thanks for the advice

Ivy C. said:

Well the reason I personally think I daydream is because I am not completely satisfied with the reality I have. In order to get back in touch with reality, you have to find happiness with it. If you are not comfortable or happy with something, of course you are not going to want to be around it. In this case, if you are not satisfied with your life, you are not going to want to live your life. Instead, you will turn to daydreaming. Find out what makes you unsatisfied with your reality, and find a way to fix it. Only then will you be able to enjoy the real world and not turn to dreaming. That's how I see it anyway. I hope this helps. C:

[Laura Gardiner]

Totally agree with Ivy.  I want to add that building a blissful reality takes time and effort, and you've gotta be willing to take a leap of faith and trust that the empty space you leap out into will be filled.

naomi said:

That's makes a lot of sense I will defiantly have to find thing to keep myself happy. Thanks for the advice

Ivy C. said:

Well the reason I personally think I daydream is because I am not completely satisfied with the reality I have. In order to get back in touch with reality, you have to find happiness with it. If you are not comfortable or happy with something, of course you are not going to want to be around it. In this case, if you are not satisfied with your life, you are not going to want to live your life. Instead, you will turn to daydreaming. Find out what makes you unsatisfied with your reality, and find a way to fix it. Only then will you be able to enjoy the real world and not turn to dreaming. That's how I see it anyway. I hope this helps. C:

[naomi]

I understand what you are saying and I know you are right, but befor I started excessively dding I hit some new lows. And I'm terrified that I will go back after being sheltered by another reality for so long. 

Laura Gardiner said:

Totally agree with Ivy.  I want to add that building a blissful reality takes time and effort, and you've gotta be willing to take a leap of faith and trust that the empty space you leap out into will be filled.

naomi said:

That's makes a lot of sense I will defiantly have to find thing to keep myself happy. Thanks for the advice

Ivy C. said:

Well the reason I personally think I daydream is because I am not completely satisfied with the reality I have. In order to get back in touch with reality, you have to find happiness with it. If you are not comfortable or happy with something, of course you are not going to want to be around it. In this case, if you are not satisfied with your life, you are not going to want to live your life. Instead, you will turn to daydreaming. Find out what makes you unsatisfied with your reality, and find a way to fix it. Only then will you be able to enjoy the real world and not turn to dreaming. That's how I see it anyway. I hope this helps. C:

[Laura Gardiner]

That's legit.  It can be scary to face reality.  Only you can make the choice.

naomi said:

I understand what you are saying and I know you are right, but befor I started excessively dding I hit some new lows. And I'm terrified that I will go back after being sheltered by another reality for so long. 

Laura Gardiner said:

Totally agree with Ivy.  I want to add that building a blissful reality takes time and effort, and you've gotta be willing to take a leap of faith and trust that the empty space you leap out into will be filled.

naomi said:

That's makes a lot of sense I will defiantly have to find thing to keep myself happy. Thanks for the advice

Ivy C. said:

Well the reason I personally think I daydream is because I am not completely satisfied with the reality I have. In order to get back in touch with reality, you have to find happiness with it. If you are not comfortable or happy with something, of course you are not going to want to be around it. In this case, if you are not satisfied with your life, you are not going to want to live your life. Instead, you will turn to daydreaming. Find out what makes you unsatisfied with your reality, and find a way to fix it. Only then will you be able to enjoy the real world and not turn to dreaming. That's how I see it anyway. I hope this helps. C:

[naomi]

Ya and you won't know if you don't try

Laura Gardiner said:

That's legit.  It can be scary to face reality.  Only you can make the choice.

naomi said:

I understand what you are saying and I know you are right, but befor I started excessively dding I hit some new lows. And I'm terrified that I will go back after being sheltered by another reality for so long. 

Laura Gardiner said:

Totally agree with Ivy.  I want to add that building a blissful reality takes time and effort, and you've gotta be willing to take a leap of faith and trust that the empty space you leap out into will be filled.

naomi said:

That's makes a lot of sense I will defiantly have to find thing to keep myself happy. Thanks for the advice

Ivy C. said:

Well the reason I personally think I daydream is because I am not completely satisfied with the reality I have. In order to get back in touch with reality, you have to find happiness with it. If you are not comfortable or happy with something, of course you are not going to want to be around it. In this case, if you are not satisfied with your life, you are not going to want to live your life. Instead, you will turn to daydreaming. Find out what makes you unsatisfied with your reality, and find a way to fix it. Only then will you be able to enjoy the real world and not turn to dreaming. That's how I see it anyway. I hope this helps. C:

[Amanda Lynne]

I konw how you feel.

 

You enjoy your daydreams in the moment, but when you snap out of it you get upset with yourself. It's like a drug. makes you forget all the complications of life, but all it's really doing is holding you back.

 

My suggestions are give yourself a set time to daydream. It's not TERRIBLE to daydream, but anything that causes you problems in your real life needs to be controlled. So give yourself 30 minutes every night, set a timer, and be strong. As hard as it is, you DO have control of your mind, but it's hard to just up and retrain your brain.

 

Write a book or a song. The creativity that comes with MD is a wonderful thing, you could really make bank in the future if you learn how to channel your daydreams into stories! And don't be to hard on yourself if you relapse, because you will. And that's okay. You didn't ask for this, and the fact that you're trying to control it is great.

 

And tell someone. Anyone. Go to counseling. It really is helpful. Go to the doctor and get evaluated for things like ADD.

 

You don't have to cut out daydreaming, just make it to where it's not MALADAPTIVE. And be patient with yourself and give credit to yourself where credit is due. Good luck!!:)

[naomi]

That is a really good sujjestion,thank you. I have actually thought of making a comic of my daydream, well a revised version, because i am a big art fanatic.Maybe if I get it out of my system I will be able to control it better. Also I have told a friend about it but I tend not to discuss it, mostly because i don't know how comfortable Im with her knowing my daydreams, guess I'm kinda embarrassed. 
Thanks again for the helpful advice.

Amanda Lynne said:

I konw how you feel.

 

You enjoy your daydreams in the moment, but when you snap out of it you get upset with yourself. It's like a drug. makes you forget all the complications of life, but all it's really doing is holding you back.

 

My suggestions are give yourself a set time to daydream. It's not TERRIBLE to daydream, but anything that causes you problems in your real life needs to be controlled. So give yourself 30 minutes every night, set a timer, and be strong. As hard as it is, you DO have control of your mind, but it's hard to just up and retrain your brain.

 

Write a book or a song. The creativity that comes with MD is a wonderful thing, you could really make bank in the future if you learn how to channel your daydreams into stories! And don't be to hard on yourself if you relapse, because you will. And that's okay. You didn't ask for this, and the fact that you're trying to control it is great.

 

And tell someone. Anyone. Go to counseling. It really is helpful. Go to the doctor and get evaluated for things like ADD.

 

You don't have to cut out daydreaming, just make it to where it's not MALADAPTIVE. And be patient with yourself and give credit to yourself where credit is due. Good luck!!:)

[Jenna]

It is ironic, I am currently in the worst I have ever been and yet I can't daydream longer than 3 mins at a time, if I get lucky enough to be triggered very good. I wish I could daydream again, it is a wonderful coping mechanism rather than the other kind of coping things you could do. So if I could daydream but still be in touch with reality and could lower it to 40 min or less a day of daydreaming, that would be great.

[naomi]

I'm sorry to hear that. As much as dding can be a problem, it is a wonderful thing. I know it has been my escape as long as I remember , even though I want to reduce it I never want to loose it..
I hope you find a healthy way of coping, and thanks for the insight.

Jenna said:

It is ironic, I am currently in the worst I have ever been and yet I can't daydream longer than 3 mins at a time, if I get lucky enough to be triggered very good. I wish I could daydream again, it is a wonderful coping mechanism rather than the other kind of coping things you could do. So if I could daydream but still be in touch with reality and could lower it to 40 min or less a day of daydreaming, that would be great.

[otakugirl]

I feel th same way it is hard to say in reality when your dd world is way better.