What damage do you think MD has done to your life?

[Lisa Smith]

I am not sure if it is MD that has caused this for me but my social life has been really going downhill in the last few years. Im really worried that because we fulfill our hunger for validation, control, love etc. (whatever reason we daydream) that we begin to not need it in our real lives. I read an article about poeple addicted to masturbating and porn, lol, i know that sounds weird but hear me out; the article said that they are so used to being in imaginary relationships that they begin to not try to make real relationships and that after stopping there was a lot of improvement in their social lives. im new here so im not sure if im allowed to included links but if we are it will be here: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cupids-poisoned-arrow/201001/wa...

 

Basically i would love someone to tell me that MD may not be the complete reason for my social awkwardness or my lack of intimate relationships...I dont even feel comfortable being on sleepovers; i like to be with friends but when it comes to settling down for the day i have to be alone so i can daydream...im thinking i may have ocd and add tendancies along with MD but im not sure if MD caused it or not. A problem i have is that i put my life on pause while trying to live up to the perfect beautiful me that ive created...does anyone have these perfectionist tendancies? In retrospect it may seem like DDers are creative people but doesnt it also mean that we escaping reallity and fulfilling something we are lacking? that doesnt sound very healthy to me.

 

Are we ruining our lives by living in the inner world in our heads instead of the outer world in reality? or is it not that harmful? Does it have benefits? if so, what type of daydreams are beneficial and which arent? Is it just a way of thinking or do we have something wrong with us?

[Tani]

Is it just a way of thinking or do we have something wrong with us?

I'm still not immune to the idea that MD could be part of a bigger problem. I do think it has a lot to do with social awkwardness, but maybe it isn't the whole reason why, maybe we just have a kind of 'personailty disorder' that has yet to be discovered.

We all tend to be introverted, creative, socially absent, slightly addictive personality, perfectionist, maybe anxious...

Of course, as they say 'you don't have to show all the symptoms to be a victim'.

I don't think we are ruining our lives, to an extent I think our lives were already ruined by the world anyway. Nobody is immune from it. The world ruined us, not the other way around. When most people turn to fashion, porn, make up, TV &c. we choose to daydream.

We have our own form of escapism, but people see it as childish. I don't see it as any more childish than computer games, or dress up (fashion and make up). I think it's your worldview that determines how you view yourself and so called 'problems'.