Any tips for a 15 year old?

[Emily]

Sorry if I've posted this in the wrong place or something, or I'm doing something wrong but I just wanted to say that this website has given me quite alot of reassurance! 

My name is Emily and I am 15 years old. I've been daydreaming for around 2 years now, and it's become a part of my every-day life. It's always been the same characters. The thing that triggers it for me is car journeys and music. If I'm alone then I'll put my music on and zone out into this daydream, and I can't stop it. I have never really thought about it until recently, and I realized that it doesn't seem 'normal'. I know most people daydream, but  I doubt they act it out in the way I do, or pace around the room. It's really embarrassing to admit it, and I know that I can't tell my mum because she'll tell me I'm being stupid. I did sort of confide in one of my friends about it, but I really don't think she does it as excessively as me...

I want to stop, but the thing for me is that I actually like doing it.. I have a bit of a hard time at school, and people don't really take me seriously, and so when I daydream it's kind of like a relief to me.

Does anybody have any tips on how to control it? It would be much appreciated, as I have my exams this year and I don't want to let it get in the way of my life or affect my grades!

 

Thank you! 

         x

[michael clarke]

i chewed gum through school. hopefully you allowed gum. doing something of a physical nature can help pull you out of your head. for a time it was suggested i wear a rubber band on my wrist and i was to snap it hard everytime i realized i was daydreaming. it never worked for me but it was supposed to break me out of the subconscious tendency.

 

another thing that worked was to take notes compulsively. make it your job to write something down about what is being said. try to make it automatic and you will find your paying more attention. good luck.

[1nmiirc70dne4]

HI! :) i pace too and my daydreams have taken over my life to where i do it all the time...sadly my condition has gotten so bad i cant find any way to control it....i daydream while listening to music too. :) im sitting on my bed listening to music 4+ hours a day..sometimes more. if im not doing that im lieing in bed daydreaming. i daydream all through school and i dont do my homework because im daydreaming. i dont study either. i cry when my charcters cry and ill laugh when they laugh and i say what they say out loud alot. i have had this for about a year now and mine still is the same 3 or 4 charcters. i have gotten my daydreams to kinda have a new world but i barley daydream about that but the world is still there. i was glad when i finally opened up another world! i now have 2 worlds! YAY! i do like daydreaming and i honestly do not wish to ever find control of it or get rid of it. :)

[debbie downer]

hi. (: i'm 14 & i've had MD since i was 9. i usually daydream in class too, especially if it's something that i'm not interested in, but if we have to take notes then i don't daydream because i'm too busy taking notes. sitting in the front of the class also helps me to pay attention. i take a long time to do my homework because i usually have no interest in it, so i start daydreaming, but it still gets done. for exams, i can't study by myself or else i'll start daydreaming, so i have my mom help me study because i can't really zone out if i'm talking to someone.

i also like daydreaming and don't want to stop, so if i were you i would just try to cut back instead of stopping completely. i've found that when i write down parts of my daydreams that i keep "replaying" in my head, i'll stop replaying those parts! i don't know if it'll work for you, but it does for me.

[BilboBaggins]

Hi! :)
I've stuck with the same characters for years n years now, and car rides and music are definitely the best for daydreaming.

"i cry when my charcters cry and ill laugh when they laugh and i say what they say out loud alot." ditto.

I'm in a love-hate relationship. I know that at this point I can't even consider stopping, but it is definitely hindering school to some extent. As for school, yes take notes whenever you can. And I find what helps for me while I'm zoning out during a class is to doodle. I think I just need to stay visually stimulated, so if I'm drawing something I can pay better attention to what I'm hearing :)

[Emily]

Thank you for your tips everyone! I have actually always wanted to be an author when I'm older, and enjoy writing so I might just write down some of them like some of you have suggested :) They will make very dramatic stories ;D Thank you, it really does help knowing I'm not the only one :)

[Ihaveitall]

I was exactly like you!  How do you get away with it? My teachers started talking to my mom and after that everything was BAD for awile. I HAD to start doing it less.  Sometimes i wish i could do it that much again but part of me is glad i don't. You forget how much fun other stuff is when you are dreaming so much you don't do anything else. So, ya now i just do it sometimes so i don't get in trouble and the rest of the time i am back to like it was before. I like that I can tell myself when to do it or not instead of it controlling me....ya i used to be kinda scared of what i was doing. Honestly getting caught helped me because I was, well, doing it all the time......  Good luck and ya I hope your teachers don't start talking to your parents like mine did :)

Emily Van Dort said:

HI! :) i pace too and my daydreams have taken over my life to where i do it all the time...sadly my condition has gotten so bad i cant find any way to control it....i daydream while listening to music too. :) im sitting on my bed listening to music 4+ hours a day..sometimes more. if im not doing that im lieing in bed daydreaming. i daydream all through school and i dont do my homework because im daydreaming. i dont study either. i cry when my charcters cry and ill laugh when they laugh and i say what they say out loud alot. i have had this for about a year now and mine still is the same 3 or 4 charcters. i have gotten my daydreams to kinda have a new world but i barley daydream about that but the world is still there. i was glad when i finally opened up another world! i now have 2 worlds! YAY! i do like daydreaming and i honestly do not wish to ever find control of it or get rid of it. :)