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Love fixation

Hi,
New member. Does anybody have issues with excessive fantasizing about love interests that you don't really know or are unavailable or celebrities? I'm very embarrassed about this problem because when I get obsessed about them enough and I'm manic (I'm bipolar) I will contact them and humiliate myself. ( Although 3 times it worked and I hooked up with them). I get a high from feeling like they are a soulmate sometimes. I know everybody does this to some degree but I know this level is not normal. I think about this current person even when I am at work or with certain people. Also the sex fantasies are quite intense and feel real (again, low level mania). Anyone else?

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Comment by oneira on September 20, 2021 at 6:32am: My romance fantasies ONLY involve people I don't know or are unavailable, because the second something actually might happen, I run away. It's a control thing, I'm struggling with opening up to someone. I'm also somewhere on the aromantic spectrum (not sure where yet) so I'm really not into holding hands or showing any affection in public - I am not asexual though, so my daydreams often involve sex. Honestly, my perfect relationship would be something that could be best described as exclusive friends with benefits. That, coupled with my views on marriage and parenthood (I want none), makes it really hard to find someone who would respect my boundaries - so imaginary relationships are the only ones I feel safe in.

Comment by Kiruba Victor on September 12, 2021 at 12:43am: Sure, I'd love to know your take on this as well as share mine further.

Comment by Melanie on September 12, 2021 at 12:20am: Nah, not NSFW at all. I can handle it lol. Thanks for replying. This is a very embarrassing topic and I need to talk about it.

Comment by Kiruba Victor on September 11, 2021 at 9:55pm: Well, I've not felt love towards celebrities, but often times, I feel my heart jumps out to the person who shows me a little bit of affection (This happened because I've had no relationships in my life yet). I daydreamed about 2 of my crushes and lived a life with them in my heads, although, one of them got committed to someone else, the other isn't looking for anyone now (That's what she says, at least), so I'm building the bond with her to see where it goes.

Also, I have had sex fantasies and while they don't always feel realistic (I don't know since I haven't had it yet), it does feel good for the body.

I hope it wasn't too NSFW. Just sharing my experience as you are.