manipulative of daydreaming and procrastinating

[Robert de Niro]

i'm procrastinating for a long time a simple thing may take months to do it
i'm in a sea of manipulative of daydreaming, how to get out of it , how to cure this

[Robert de Niro]

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[Filly]

Exercise vitamins focused goals

[Robert de Niro]

please what does it mean?

[Rose]

Hey! My daydreaming makes me procrastinate too but idk about a cure. I’ll give you my advice but also do some research on procrastinating and work ethics. This is just my experience and theory. Since I’ve developed a new passion my daydreaming started being about my passion and it encouraged me to do things involving my passion. I even thought about the effort that goes into it in a positive way. I didn’t need to force myself to think positively about those things but with the things I don’t feel like doing I am working towards looking at the work ahead in a more positive way. Example of positive “I’m waking up to go to school to be qualified to treat sick animals (which is a vet). what’s another benefit of going to school? Learning new information that’ll help you understand the world and do amazing things” Find something positive in everything and this may take a lot of work! This work that you put into being more positive could make starting and finishing other tasks easier in the future. Maybe you could do some more research on positive mindsets on google too. Also, you can use your daydreaming to your benefit! You can plan ahead for things in your daydreams by visualizing yourself doing what your planning to do in great detail. Try daydreaming about the journey to getting a positive mindset and try making the effort you’d have to put in seem positive in your mind. Get in a habit of taking action. Start with small things like daydreaming about brushing your teeth for 15 mins and then actually brush them right after and repeat it daily etc. These are just my suggestions and there might be a way to cure daydreaming but I’m not sure

[Robert de Niro]

thanks a lot your answer was very helpful, please if you know more information please tell me.Thank you again

[Cryptic_crime]

I don't think intrinsic motivation helps us. If you want to stop MD, I have no idea.

For procrastination, I learned that focusing on something outside of me is what pushes me to do well. E.g. I like my boss, so I can work 11+ hours a day for his sake. When someone else is relying on me to get things done immediately (i.e. really close deadline) that's when I succeed the best. 

[Don K]

Hi Everyone, I am new to this forum but I have been dealing with MD in some form or another since I was in my teens. I am now 40+.

I find practicing meditation [mindfullness] is very effective. We are all allowed to dream, in our free time and on our own terms. 

Tons of resources online on practicing mindfulness, good luck. I like to hear other ideas on controlling MD

[Filly]

Anything else but meditation help you?

[Rose]

We could see through trial and error. Different things work for different people. In my experience so far, I haven't found a way to completely stop procrastinating because of my daydreaming but I have the most success getting things done when it comes to my passion. Other than doing what I need to in order to continue my hobby, I don't really get much else done. My mind would rather not. Still working on it though. It takes a lot of effort and work and it definitely isn't easy to get motivated to actually take action. I may try your suggestion sometime though

Cryptic_crime said:

I don't think intrinsic motivation helps us. If you want to stop MD, I have no idea.

For procrastination, I learned that focusing on something outside of me is what pushes me to do well. E.g. I like my boss, so I can work 11+ hours a day for his sake. When someone else is relying on me to get things done immediately (i.e. really close deadline) that's when I succeed the best. 

[Don K]

Yes, I find focusing on what you are doing at all times is a good way to control MD. Even simple things such as brushing your teeth in the morning. Think of the taste of the toothpaste, how it feels, have you covered all the teeth, etc etc

I think most of us have been doing this for many years, so it's going to take us a long time to get off completely. Again I think controlling it is better than trying to get off it completely as in some folks this might lead to depression.

We do this to escape our real life we are happier in the alternate world, another way is to find more friends or do things you enjoy doing. I have a new hobby! I started collecting old LPs and CDs from the '80s. I don't spend much money on it as you can find them in thrift shops.

Filly said:

Anything else but meditation help you?

[Don K]

I stumbled upon this TED Talk, it's really good, 

https://www.ted.com/talks/alison_ledgerwood_a_simple_trick_to_impro...

[James Bond]

As I'm using this forum to procrastinate, I am trying to hold back from spending all day writing my life story, while explaining how perfectly this post slots into what I came here for. I found this forum a year ago. My use of it has tapered off, and I have rarely been on here for months. YouTube is my procrastination outlet atm. Last night I stumbled on a video about being organised and achieving goals. The word "procrastination" came up, and I immediately wondered why I haven't been studying/watching videos on the topic. I found this little gem - an entertaining, must watch....https://youtu.be/arj7oStGLkU Soon enough I started wondering about MD, and if us sufferers might be some of the worst offenders. So I was just checking into Wild Minds, but thinking I'd write something over the coming days - and here I am writing :-)

I also found this http://iprocrastinate.libsyn.com/

But more specifically to myself, after fourty years of searching, frustration, and wondering how to articulate what I experience and where to find solutions...in recent months, I've self diagnosed, with 100% certainty, as having Concentration Deficit Disorder (otherwise known as Sluggish Cognitive Tempo).https://youtu.be/MKavCm3qHBE So I'm wondering how many other MDers have considered that this not so well known issue might be theirs?