Introduce Yourself and Make Some Friends

[Xander]

I made this forum page because I know many people are not on this network anymore. Hopefully the few of us that are, can introduce ourselves here and make some friends. To start this off, hi. My name is Xander. I'm 18 yrs old and my birthday is in August. I don't have a favorite color, but I hate pink. My favorite animal is a dragon. I hate sunny days, and enjoy massive thunderstorms. My favorite element is the wind. I own a cat named Einstein. I don't do much, so I always have time for a conversation. 

Peace out~ your average lone wolf.

[Geegee]

Hi Xander and all!

I'm Gee and my birthday is also in August; I'm currently a literature student at university in England although at the moment I'm home for the summer. I love reading (a great deal of my daydreams are based on characters from my favourite texts), music (old school), and the rain. I will try to be as active as I can however my whole life is about to be turned upside down as I'll be moving to the USA for a year as part of my course. I have only joined the page and up until recently I use to worry I was alone in still daydreaming well after I should have grown out of it. I only found out about MD because of a pintrest post that I was reading about unusual conditions and something in me just clicked that this was what I experienced. It's so difficult to describe that any searching before had come up short. 

My daydreams tend to change depend on my mood or current situation - if I'm feeling upset then I'll daydream people who make me laugh or feel better - and they often have quite a short life before I move on to another although I may return or replay certain scenarios.

I'm really looking forward to getting to know you all and am just amazed how long it took me to find you!!

[Xanthea Sagsago]

My friends call me Xanthi. I discovered this forum quite recently and decided to join in order to calm the typhoon in my head and understand myself better.

I've had MD since I was a child. Long story short, I had no friends and experienced constant bullying. My parents were separated and worked all day. They meant well but faltered in caring for my emotional needs. I resorted to daydreaming in order to feel calm and cope with the world around me.

Unfortunately, having MD is the least of my problems. I also deal with depression and symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder. Combining the three is like making a stew out of broken glass, rusty nails, and dirty sewer water. In other words, disgusting agony.

As for my personal life...I'm a recent college graduate. I took up Education in college and hope to do well in our upcoming Board Exams. I like reading occasionally, listening to Korean and Japanese Hip-Hop and other similar genres, walking, and historical fiction. I'm a big fan of Bojack Horseman, mystery movies, and other shows whose names I've forgotten.

I hope that by joining this community, I can take the first step to healing and coping with my mental health issues.

[Kit McDaydream]

I was looking for a way to make an introduction, just found this post!  I'm Kit I'm 49 female.  My fav colour has been pink for a while despite being a tomboy for most of my childhood (think I'm just maturing exceptionally slowly as I have Autism..lol!) I used to love to dress my female dog in pink but she sadly passed away a couple of years ago I only have a male dog now and miss getting nice jumpers/fleeces as he won't wear them! ..Doesn't really need them anyway as he's double coated so only has a rain coat for heavy rain (makes him easier to dry off).

I love dogs (if you haven't already guessed) and could talk about them forever, not so fond of people in general after several negative experiences through life. But I guess the Autism may also skew this as I've always struggled to relate to people and mainly prefer it when it's just me and the dog(s).  I'd like to have another dog in the future as I enjoyed having two but I'd really like a small female I can enjoy to buy nice stuff for but my male dog isn't fond of female dogs, despite growing up with one. I feel he'd prefer a small submissive male who'd be happy to let him remain 'top dog' so I might have to wait until he's either very old or after he's passed to get another female as I don't want him to be unhappy if he'd prefer to be an only dog or have a little brother rather than a little sister!!!

I found the term 'Maladaptive Daydreaming' by chance on the internet and not sure whether I was possible Schizoid or Autistic (or Undiagnosed schizophrenic) I joined a Psych group that covered a large variety of mental health conditions to ask on the Autism board if anyone else had this intense 'secret world' as I really wanted to understand why I had it for so long and whether it was just Autism or I had some other mental illness as well as or instead of (I've already had one misdiagnosis so was wondering whether Autism was another)  I found a link to this site on there.

[Kit McDaydream]

Does seem difficult to make friends on here though as nobody has answered on anything I've posted  to continue the conversation (oh except one) ... 

I've just spotted the bit that says 'main room' is that a live chat room?  .. I'm struggling with reading some of the text as its either really poor contrast like purple writing on black and I can't work out what it says or its very small.

[S.A.]

I keep planning to reply to people! It takes me a while to write things out (my brain tends to lock up over communicating), and I don't have internet at home. Then at work I get distracted. Also I keep having to reset my password -- saved it in the browser this time, see if that works.

When I write things out, though, they get way too long, and then I lock up over how to cut back. Then I get impatient and frustrated and blurt out some garbled post that I probably don't even mean...

There's a way to customize the site. Go to "My Page" from the link at top, then at right under your avatar/gender/location click "Customize". You can choose one of the other color schemes.

As for the font size, it depends on your browser, but there should be a way to enlarge all the text. In Safari go to Safari>Preferences>Advanced>Accessibility. In Chrome go to either Zoom or Settings>Accessibility.

Kit McDaydream said:

Does seem difficult to make friends on here though as nobody has answered on anything I've posted  to continue the conversation (oh except one) ... 

I've just spotted the bit that says 'main room' is that a live chat room?  .. I'm struggling with reading some of the text as its either really poor contrast like purple writing on black and I can't work out what it says or its very small.

[S.A.]

As for a diagnosis, of course I couldn't say without knowing someone. In my case, in my late 30s I finally figured out I have ADD/ADHD - Inattentive Type. It's not like the hyperactive kind everyone's familiar with, and mostly tends to go undiagnosed because it isn't disruptive. Messiness, disorganization, forgetfulness -- things like that are the primary symptoms. Daydreaming and mind-wandering is one fo the other characteristics, as are obsessive-compulsiveness, sensory issues, overstimulation, emotional reactivity, restless movements, shyness and social anxiety/awkwardness.

 

Kit McDaydream said:

I was looking for a way to make an introduction, just found this post!  I'm Kit I'm 49 female.  My fav colour has been pink for a while despite being a tomboy for most of my childhood (think I'm just maturing exceptionally slowly as I have Autism..lol!) I used to love to dress my female dog in pink but she sadly passed away a couple of years ago I only have a male dog now and miss getting nice jumpers/fleeces as he won't wear them! ..Doesn't really need them anyway as he's double coated so only has a rain coat for heavy rain (makes him easier to dry off).

I love dogs (if you haven't already guessed) and could talk about them forever, not so fond of people in general after several negative experiences through life. But I guess the Autism may also skew this as I've always struggled to relate to people and mainly prefer it when it's just me and the dog(s).  I'd like to have another dog in the future as I enjoyed having two but I'd really like a small female I can enjoy to buy nice stuff for but my male dog isn't fond of female dogs, despite growing up with one. I feel he'd prefer a small submissive male who'd be happy to let him remain 'top dog' so I might have to wait until he's either very old or after he's passed to get another female as I don't want him to be unhappy if he'd prefer to be an only dog or have a little brother rather than a little sister!!!

I found the term 'Maladaptive Daydreaming' by chance on the internet and not sure whether I was possible Schizoid or Autistic (or Undiagnosed schizophrenic) I joined a Psych group that covered a large variety of mental health conditions to ask on the Autism board if anyone else had this intense 'secret world' as I really wanted to understand why I had it for so long and whether it was just Autism or I had some other mental illness as well as or instead of (I've already had one misdiagnosis so was wondering whether Autism was another)  I found a link to this site on there.

[S.A.]

I've also noticed that it's a little confusing and hard to get involved here. I'd guess it's mainly because posters here are shy!

In the other forums I’m used to, someone starts a thread on this or that topic and then everyone gets involved in it. Members post what they have to say about the topic, everyone replies back and forth to the other posters, and an on-going conversation gets started. That way, it feels like you’re making friends and participating in a community.

Here, people are starting new threads to put their contributions instead of in a shared thread. Although many of them are on the same topic, it’s like each is a one-off thing. It’s feels disjointed and cut off. Besides, none of them are getting more than a few replies, and then they just fall off the front page. If we put our experiences in a single thread, we can have a back and forth that’s on-going. 

Kit McDaydream said:

Does seem difficult to make friends on here though as nobody has answered on anything I've posted  to continue the conversation (oh except one) ... 

I've just spotted the bit that says 'main room' is that a live chat room?  .. I'm struggling with reading some of the text as its either really poor contrast like purple writing on black and I can't work out what it says or its very small.

[Ezili Slater]

hi! my names Ezili and I'm a fairly new member here. Im 14, my birthday is in march, Im a huge animal lover (I have a cat, 2 dogs and 2 horses) youtube-addict, Disney-addict, I want to be a writer, and my favourite colour is either black or light blue. My favourite element is water. I've had md since I was 7 or 8, but I only heard of the term "maladaptive daydreaming" earlier this year, and instantly knew that was what I have. I didn't have imaginary friends as a really little kid, which I guess is unusual, and I didn't start daydreaming until seemingly later than everyone else - by which point I hated (and still kinda do) the words "imaginary friends" but I had no idea md existed
~Ez x

[Kit McDaydream]

S.A. said:

I keep planning to reply to people! It takes me a while to write things out (my brain tends to lock up over communicating), and I don't have internet at home. Then at work I get distracted. Also I keep having to reset my password -- saved it in the browser this time, see if that works.

When I write things out, though, they get way too long, and then I lock up over how to cut back. Then I get impatient and frustrated and blurt out some garbled post that I probably don't even mean...

There's a way to customize the site. Go to "My Page" from the link at top, then at right under your avatar/gender/location click "Customize". You can choose one of the other color schemes.

As for the font size, it depends on your browser, but there should be a way to enlarge all the text. In Safari go to Safari>Preferences>Advanced>Accessibility. In Chrome go to either Zoom or Settings>Accessibility.

It seems that only applies to my page though?? When I go back to forum where the list of topics are its still dark purple writing on a black background at the top????

p.s I'm wondering whether the little white outline of a box to the left of my name on the right is what you press to start a new topic as I can't see anything else?  All I can see inside it is a speck of purple though so no idea what it says..(Don't want to end up accidentally reporting someone's post by pressing the wrong thing!)

[shirrey]

Hi- I have been on and off of this board for years, but never really participated as I found all the topics and posts overwhelming, less people here might be better for me :) Like many of you I discover the term MDD here and finally had a label to what I usually call "checking out" I have done it I think since I was 7 or 8, it got really bad in high school and then intermittent since then. I am in my early 40s and have been in it pretty seriously for a few years now. Mine generally revolve around one of two characters who I have clung to, most likely because they represent something I feel I guess. There is part of me that loves checking out, tbh, I do it for a few hours by reading before I go to bed purposefully and it is the thing I look forward to the most most days. But I also am trying to be more mindful, work through some things and my mind dives until I catch myself in a daydream. I know I am dissociating, at those times I can't help it. Its a weird place to be between loving the MDD and it kind of destroying me at the same time. Anyway, I am glad there is a place and space to talk with others who get it.      ~ shirrey

[S.A.]

Well, I just tried it and it stayed purple everywhere except my page too.

I can't find anything besides the little Add button that would start a new thread.

Kit McDaydream said:

S.A. said:

I keep planning to reply to people! It takes me a while to write things out (my brain tends to lock up over communicating), and I don't have internet at home. Then at work I get distracted. Also I keep having to reset my password -- saved it in the browser this time, see if that works.

When I write things out, though, they get way too long, and then I lock up over how to cut back. Then I get impatient and frustrated and blurt out some garbled post that I probably don't even mean...

There's a way to customize the site. Go to "My Page" from the link at top, then at right under your avatar/gender/location click "Customize". You can choose one of the other color schemes.

As for the font size, it depends on your browser, but there should be a way to enlarge all the text. In Safari go to Safari>Preferences>Advanced>Accessibility. In Chrome go to either Zoom or Settings>Accessibility.

It seems that only applies to my page though?? When I go back to forum where the list of topics are its still dark purple writing on a black background at the top????

p.s I'm wondering whether the little white outline of a box to the left of my name on the right is what you press to start a new topic as I can't see anything else?  All I can see inside it is a speck of purple though so no idea what it says..(Don't want to end up accidentally reporting someone's post by pressing the wrong thing!)

[Kit McDaydream]

Is the 'add button' the one I just mentioned where I can only see a white outline with a speck of purple inside just left of my name?