Day dreaming is a killer on my love life and social life. Everybody notices that I must be on another planet, especially when I don't listen up. When I was a kid, I shrugged and thought it will be ok, I took dreaming for granted, and still looked forward to a nice life. I figured I'd find someone and develop a good relationship. I didn't realize how many people were going to dislike who I am, and get all mean about it. I feel that I did nothing wrong. Then again, if they had my brain, they would've had my life.

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It's not only these; by daydreaming too much, I have too little connection to real life and fail to keep track on most topics other people discussed. This makes me look boring, and even if people accepted me to join them, I still feel isolated and very few would care about this(which is of course not their fault).

It is not that surprise for your relative to not get the reference when you said you would never marry; before I understand that I have MD, I knew something was wrong and I have always been with this feeling. However, as the whole thing is unclear to me, I have so much trouble understanding it myself, let alone explaining to my parents/friends. Even till now, I don't think I am able to make them understand my issue thoroughly. I may probably make another attempt later, but in general I have given up explaining it; there is just too much going on, and my MD has easily taken away my preparation time of thinking any good, constructive explanation.

Theaxe said:

Yes, I know this feeling and I've mentioned in other topics that I have chosen partners based on looks-only if they coincide with my MD characters, notably past crushes. After being fixed on their looks, it was hard to end the relationships because time was invested with the person for all the wrong reasons.  I had also been in casual relationships with other men, not wanting more because they would interfere with my MD time. 

I will never forget the time I declared to a relative of mine (when I was about 18) that I had a feeling I would never marry. She told me not to worry and that one day things would be different and someone would come along to be just right for me.  She had no idea I was referencing to my daydreaming problem.

Each man I dated in life was linked to my MD. When I met my husband I was almost 40. He too was linked to my MD world, because he reminded me of a celebrity. When I confessed to him my MD, he was accepting, and I knew that he was the one to be with. 

I can't say these types of situations will happen for everyone, but I feared so much I would never be like anyone else and be alone forever and it caused me so much grief. People would tell me that I'm attractive, and have so much to offer a man, and yet here I was alone and had no true success with relationships. I think if I hadn't met my husband I would have had to accept my lot in life and just live alone. Even now, if our marriage were to end, I believe I could only go back to living in solitude again because it's all I know.

That's just the thing. I never met a guy who will accept my day dreaming. My mom constantly, almost daily, reminds me that
I seem to live on another planet. If she does, then anybody would. Who wants to be in a relationship with someone whose not with them? I even had an episode with my dad at the mall, and he wasn't very happy. I think that my fantasies are meant to make me feel better in life. When in reality, if anybody met me, it wouldn't always be on a positive note. In fact, some people have caught me being in a 'happy place' and usually, they snapped. On our part, who wants to live in a world where people will seldom agree, respect and befriend us?

We all want to find the right partner who respects all that we do, even if it seems wrong and unheard of to a majority. I think it takes us longer, because it's harder to find somebody who can live with our special gift. Most people want to hook up with individuals who are perfectly normal, sound mind and who live here. They want someone who can listen to them and talk to them in return. I can see why so many got turned off by me. However, I never knew about any of this in my youth. I figured that I was just an eccentric person who attracted interesting people.



Theaxe said:

Yes, I know this feeling and I've mentioned in other topics that I have chosen partners based on looks-only if they coincide with my MD characters, notably past crushes. After being fixed on their looks, it was hard to end the relationships because time was invested with the person for all the wrong reasons.  I had also been in casual relationships with other men, not wanting more because they would interfere with my MD time. 

I will never forget the time I declared to a relative of mine (when I was about 18) that I had a feeling I would never marry. She told me not to worry and that one day things would be different and someone would come along to be just right for me.  She had no idea I was referencing to my daydreaming problem.

Each man I dated in life was linked to my MD. When I met my husband I was almost 40. He too was linked to my MD world, because he reminded me of a celebrity. When I confessed to him my MD, he was accepting, and I knew that he was the one to be with. 

I can't say these types of situations will happen for everyone, but I feared so much I would never be like anyone else and be alone forever and it caused me so much grief. People would tell me that I'm attractive, and have so much to offer a man, and yet here I was alone and had no true success with relationships. I think if I hadn't met my husband I would have had to accept my lot in life and just live alone. Even now, if our marriage were to end, I believe I could only go back to living in solitude again because it's all I know.

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