Hi, first - I am very greatful to have found this page and to be able to share your stories. I myself faced reality last year - in my therapy (psychodynamic) - when realising how I step aside from reality at times, into bubbles of a more pleasant world where I come out as the person I wish I was and with abilities I rarely show in real life.
Gradually I understood how avoiding reality had had negative consequences for my life. And how my time, my life was occupied with dreams instead of living.
I still cant always separate what is my daydream and what is my wish. I do believe there is some form of depression/apathia mixed up with old habits from kids age, when dreaming away was a way of coping with difficult relations.
Therapy made me realise and the insight helps me start changing. I think it is important to forgive yourself for having started and continued daydreaming. I think it will turn out well. Gradually.