Have you ever fallen in love with the thought of being in love?

[DreamerCandy]

So I’m currently crushing on a guy… And being a daydreamer, I would fantasize a lot about my different crushes in the past. I realize that I fantasize way more than other people do about their own crushes. I love my fantasies and my daydreams, and I have a hard time avoiding them because it’s so nice to daydream about my crush. But, It’s been problematic.

Sometimes I question whether I really like this person, or If I’m just in love with my daydreams of being with that person. I feel like my daydreams keep tricking my mind into thinking that I truly like this guy. And then I get scared that all I've been in love with are the daydreams, and not the person. Yet at the same time, it’s so hard to get over a person who I most likely have no chance with because I’m caught up in my daydreams of my crush, sucking me into liking him even more.

I’m not sure if this makes sense, but I really wanted to share it and put it out there to see if any one has gone through something similar. Has anyone ever struggled getting over someone for the exact same reason? Because they had a hard time letting go of their daydreams of their crush? Feeling like your daydreams have tricked you into falling in love? Falling in love with the thought of being in love? It’s frustrating trying to get over things or people when your daydreams are just too good to avoid.

[Bud Ice Penguin]

Yeah absolutely. I think everyone on this site has been like this and that's why I prattle on about MD being a social-skills related disorder. We don't get our crushes so we ruminate/fantasize about it

[OhMyMagenta]

This is the reason why I don't daydream about people from real life. It can get pretty dicey emotionally, so I just stick to characters that are fictional.

[Fallen Messenger]

I think that if (since we're still human, I mean come on) when we see someone cute, they almost always will bleed into our DDs and our mind could attach a nice personality that may not exist to that person. In my opinion, I think you are in love with your version of that person since because we're human, things can get distorted in our minds so easily. I don't really know how to get over this, but what helps me a lot is meditation because I am so at peace with the world, and reality does not seem as harsh.