Daydreaming making me fat?

[Skylar Grey]

ok now that ive written it out it seems like a terribly lame exscuse but here me out... In my daydreams im the most beautiful girl who always has a gorgeous boyfriend in every daydream. He tells me im beautiful and im happy with that. No matter what we go through hes always there for me.

Reality: Im fat. overweight. I just dont know what to do anymore. i Run for an hour 4 days a week. But none of that matters because of my diet. i eat unhealthy like nobodies business. with both my parents working 24/7 my dinner pretty much consists of whatever they can pick up. But the thing ive realized is i dont really care :(... In my daydreams im beautiful and skinny and my mind is alright with that. Who needs to be pretty in reality when im beautiful and have got a smoking hot boyfriend in fantasy land? But that HAS TO CHANGE. I want to have a boyfriend in reality someday. I have lots of friends and guy friends too but barely any guys have liked me. And no i dont wanna lose weight just to get guys. I want to be healthy and not make up idiotic reasons why i cant hang out with my friends at the pool or the beach. The truth is i cant be caught in a swimsuit, it would just ruin what shrivel of confidence i have left. so my question is:

How can i stop being so content with my daydream self and stop eating and daydreaming my life away? my day consists of eating and daydreaming. eating while daydreaming. this has to stop. I want to be healthy and feel better about myself, but HOW? thankyou for your time it means a lot. :). feel free to ask any questions as nessecary

[Skylar Grey]

Thanks, it warms my heart to hear that you care. even if you are a stranger. :). My track season just ended and it seems like the only thing i can do in this world is eat while sitting in my special chair and daydream the world away. Im trying your game idea but i... i dont know i just eat without even realizing it because mentally im not actually here and aware of everything.. that sounds like a really dumb excuse if ya ask me. But i will never lose hope. 

roxanne said:

lizzy, just wondered how you were doing?  Again, it might be helpful to walk/pace/run while daydreaming to burn off calories, in addition to walking with friends, which is also good.  Get yourself a pedometer and keep trying to increase the number of steps a day.  And pretend that your "dream friends" are also trying to eat healthy - that's how they stay so fit - and make a game of it, seeing how healthy you can eat.  Watch Jamie Oliver on Tues. eve.; he's all about healthy & ecnomical eating.  Hope you are doing well.

[roxanne]

I just read the newest Consumer Report rating the organized diets.  Jenny Craig was number#1, but expensive.  #2 was Slim Fast, relatively cheap.  You substitute a Slimfast shake for breakfast & lunch.  It has lots of nutrients that you might not be getting, despite overeating, and has ingredients (fiber, protein) to make you feel fuller.  It was rated well for nutritional content and weight loss success.  I went on a program once using just shakes and did very well, because you actually cut down the time you are thinking about food.  The first 2 days are the hardest; you need to play mind games to keep yourself going.  Then it gets easier.  Just a thought.  Also it helps to find things you can eat for onlg time to keep mouth busy - like air-popped popcorn, puffed rice, veggies with low-fat dressing, Fiber-1 cereal, etc.  Keep them on hand for mindless eating when what you eat isn't as important as just eating something non-stop.

[Casey]

So, I can only offer what I have been doing/what has been working for me. I've been going to counseling and seeing a psychiatrist in tandem. I've been talking about my problems in conjunction with my MD, and they've been working with me to figure out what the best course of action is. Problems with food (and too much MD, in my opinion) stem from other internal problems. If you focus on yourself and your mental health while working on your overall physical health, I think that would be the most beneficial.

 

I know my life changed when I started seeing my psychiatrist, and I know for some that isn't the correct route, but I really think it was for me.

 

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