Guilt

[Caitlin]

I've been trying really hard to stop daydreaming and i have been pretty successful so far and i feel like I'm making progress, but I have these moments where I'll catch myself daydreaming and I can't help feeling really guilty and kind of angry. It sucks because it feels great to daydream but I know it's unhealthy and interfering with my life. I get really mad at myself and it makes me feel like I'll never get any better.

Anyways, does anyone feel like this or have advice? Thanks dudes have a rad day!!

[Alta Morden]

I think you have to treat it a bit like dieting.  You make a slip and eat some pie or something not exactly diet food.  Instead of giving up on the diet you just say to yourself, "Well, that's a slip, but it won't stop me from my overall goal".   Like self-forgiveness and then followed by a renewal of determination.

[Caitlin]

thanks this has helped!!

[SennaSomniator]

Relapse is a part of recovery. You may slip up but as long as you keep going and don't give up you will succeed. Slip ups can also help identify triggers. Also one thing is to never 100% ban something from your life. Allow it in moderation.

XOXO Senna

[Katherine Milano]

The guilt I used to feel about DD was overwhelming. I was so exhausted by the feelings of guilt and anger, and it was this cycle of going from the emotional high of DD to the crippling low of remorse, with no break. Finally, I just decided, screw it, I  am going to DD when I want and I'm not going to feel guilty. Oddly enough, when I decided not to feel guilty, I didn't. I came back to reality in a sense, and realized that obviously, I needed to stop DD. But I also needed to stop feeling guilty.

Now, when I come out of a DD, I don't feel guilty. I don't get angry. I analyze, I journal, I come on this site and remind myself that I am not the only one with this problem. I DD so much less. And when I am not daydreaming, I feel good. I am able to enjoy life.

Guilt is a crippling emotion, and I feel so much better deciding to remove it from this portion of my life.

[Caitlin]

Thanks! It's really true what you said about allowing it in moderation.

SennaSomniator said:

Relapse is a part of recovery. You may slip up but as long as you keep going and don't give up you will succeed. Slip ups can also help identify triggers. Also one thing is to never 100% ban something from your life. Allow it in moderation.

XOXO Senna

[Caitlin]

You seem like a very strong person- good for you for eliminating guilt. This gave me some insight, thanks!!

Katherine Milano said:

The guilt I used to feel about DD was overwhelming. I was so exhausted by the feelings of guilt and anger, and it was this cycle of going from the emotional high of DD to the crippling low of remorse, with no break. Finally, I just decided, screw it, I  am going to DD when I want and I'm not going to feel guilty. Oddly enough, when I decided not to feel guilty, I didn't. I came back to reality in a sense, and realized that obviously, I needed to stop DD. But I also needed to stop feeling guilty.

Now, when I come out of a DD, I don't feel guilty. I don't get angry. I analyze, I journal, I come on this site and remind myself that I am not the only one with this problem. I DD so much less. And when I am not daydreaming, I feel good. I am able to enjoy life.

Guilt is a crippling emotion, and I feel so much better deciding to remove it from this portion of my life.