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[SleepyJeanne]

Hi everyone,


My name is Jeanne and I'm 34. I have been daydreaming since I was very little. I always thought that it was something that I would grow out of, but I never did. My daydreams have one or two main characters, male and female, but they rarely interact with each other.

I lead a pretty normal life. I'm married and have a job and friends. I never told anyone about my daydreaming, though. I was diagnosed with depression and an anxiety disorder, but I don't identify myself by my neuroses. I've learned to hide my daydreaming, and different ways to explain away my bloody cuticles (I pick them when I'm daydreaming). I usually wear acrylic nails, because I can't get at my cuticles then.

I'm so happy to find this website! I feel so much better. It's like validation. Thank you!

Jeanne

[Casey]

Hi Jeanne!

Thanks for sharing! I am not married, but have been living with my boyfriend for quite some time. He doesn't know what I do, but he knows that I need time by myself in order to cope and do something. Is your situation similar, I wonder? Because, I can imagine with marriage that it is much harder to keep it under wraps--unless you don't do it every day like me :)

[SleepyJeanne]

Hi Casey!

Yes, my situation is similar!  My husband knows that I need "alone time," although I don't get as much as I would like.  I usually set aside time, too.  I'll go to bed early so I can daydream uninterrupted.  

I daydream all the time.  I don't act then out all the time, though.  I don't really mind that I do it.  I enjoy it, and my daydreams are usually happy or at least have happy endings.  To me, it's like reading a book or watching a movie.  But sometimes I get so caught up in the lives of my characters, that I feel too tired to deal with my own life.  I just want to learn his to create a health balance.

Thanks for the reply, Casey!  It helps so much to know that I'm not alone! :)

Casey said:

Hi Jeanne! Thanks for sharing! I am not married, but have been living with my boyfriend for quite some time. He doesn't know what I do, but he knows that I need time by myself in order to cope and do something. Is your situation similar, I wonder? Because, I can imagine with marriage that it is much harder to keep it under wraps--unless you don't do it every day like me :)

[Casey]

I think not being alone in this has been really healing for me lately--so I totally understand!!

 

I know I will probably always daydream--I am just trying to get myself to a point where I don't get cranky or unreasonable without daydreaming. I guess I don't want to rely on it as much as I do--but I suspect I'll always do this--just because it is a huge part of myself (and all of us).

 

Welcome!!! :)

[roxanne]

sleepyjeanne, I loved the analogy to reading a book or watching a movie, both of which I also love, although not to the extent, and they are very inter-related.  Great analogy.  So we like to read alot, so what.  I've never read a better book.