Daydreaming making me fat?

[Skylar Grey]

ok now that ive written it out it seems like a terribly lame exscuse but here me out... In my daydreams im the most beautiful girl who always has a gorgeous boyfriend in every daydream. He tells me im beautiful and im happy with that. No matter what we go through hes always there for me.

Reality: Im fat. overweight. I just dont know what to do anymore. i Run for an hour 4 days a week. But none of that matters because of my diet. i eat unhealthy like nobodies business. with both my parents working 24/7 my dinner pretty much consists of whatever they can pick up. But the thing ive realized is i dont really care :(... In my daydreams im beautiful and skinny and my mind is alright with that. Who needs to be pretty in reality when im beautiful and have got a smoking hot boyfriend in fantasy land? But that HAS TO CHANGE. I want to have a boyfriend in reality someday. I have lots of friends and guy friends too but barely any guys have liked me. And no i dont wanna lose weight just to get guys. I want to be healthy and not make up idiotic reasons why i cant hang out with my friends at the pool or the beach. The truth is i cant be caught in a swimsuit, it would just ruin what shrivel of confidence i have left. so my question is:

How can i stop being so content with my daydream self and stop eating and daydreaming my life away? my day consists of eating and daydreaming. eating while daydreaming. this has to stop. I want to be healthy and feel better about myself, but HOW? thankyou for your time it means a lot. :). feel free to ask any questions as nessecary

[Skylar Grey]

Yeah i guess i could do that. But when i run, i run with my friends as a group and were constantly talking as were jogging so its just hard to concentrate on my own personal daydream. I wish i could be more health conscious like you seem to be. About my diet, well yeah again your right i oughta just make my own. But the main thing is i just dont see why i have to worry about it here in reality when im beautiful in there. Yes, just mindset i gotta get that into my head. I DEFINIETLY do tend to overthink things constantly. Taking a less complex look at things might help. Just do it! like the nike quote lol. Anyways, thanks much appreciated :)

[roxanne]

I wonder if alot of daydreamers don't struggle with weight issues to some extent.  Food, like motion, has always been a great vehicle to get into dreaming.  Do you have any friends who also struggle with wight problems?  Joining a group together like weight watchers or Jenny Craig might be helpful.

[Ana Carmen]

don't do nutrisystem, they give you all the food at once and the desserts are really good. If your like me you'll end up eatieating desserts for breakfast lunch and dinner haha

[roxanne]

Lizzy, I wonder how old you are.  And again I bet you have many kindred spirits out here.

[Creator]

According to Eli Somer, people who excessively daydream could also be significantly susceptible to hypnotism. I've heard of people seeing a hypnotist to make up their minds to lose weight in a healthy manner, and with your daydreaming abilities, it could really work for you.

[Skylar Grey]

Thankyou all  for your kind advice and suggestions. You have no idea how much it means to me to have people support me like this :). I dont think nutrisystem or jenny craig is really an option for me due to the fact my family is really tight on money right now. I am 14 by the way.Food, i just shove various junkfood in my mouth while daydreaming without even comprehending what im doing. However, hypnotism huh? That right there really sparked my interest Creator haha. Again, paying a hypnotist may be a little out of my budget unfortunately.

[roxanne]

Devin's right, you may not be heavy at all.  There is such an unrealistic pressure to be unhealthfully skinny now.  But if weight really is a problem, you are right in trying to get a handle on it now, but in a healthy way.  There are Weight Watcher groups especially for teens that will give you all sorts of tips to be healthier.  It runs about $10 a week.  Another idea : imagine that some of your "dream" friends are also trying to be healthy and make a "social" game of it.

[Skylar Grey]

Doctors have told me i am overweight so i know its not just in my head.

[Casey]

Hi Lizzy!

 

I can honestly say I know where you are coming from because when I was 14 I coped with my weight with MD, as well. I was/am a dancer (only add to the MD--I dance while daydreaming), and weight was always a huge issue in my life. I was overweight when I was 14, and in complete denial about it. Daydreaming kept me content. I stayed overweight until I was 20 in college.

 

Now, with that said, I'm now 22, and still dealing with my body image using MD. BUT, I can say that what has helped me make small changes in my life is wanting to manifest what is in my dreams in my everyday. I know it is hard, especially when you feel that you are so far away from your goals. I focused my daydreams on helping me reach goals instead of just setting me further away from them.

 

I know for me, I daydream because I'm not dealing with some larger issues. I know that isn't true for everyone, but if that is true for you--try facing some of your issues in safe and constructed ways: counseling, journals, meditation, yoga--keeping one thing in mind: MD may be the main coping mechanism you've had for awhile (it is for me), and learning new techniques to destress takes time and patience.

 

Weightloss is difficult, but you're a very strong girl. If you want to achieve something--you can. Focus on your overall health, and things will start falling more into place.

 

[roxanne]

lizzy, just wondered how you were doing?  Again, it might be helpful to walk/pace/run while daydreaming to burn off calories, in addition to walking with friends, which is also good.  Get yourself a pedometer and keep trying to increase the number of steps a day.  And pretend that your "dream friends" are also trying to eat healthy - that's how they stay so fit - and make a game of it, seeing how healthy you can eat.  Watch Jamie Oliver on Tues. eve.; he's all about healthy & ecnomical eating.  Hope you are doing well.

[Brighde]

Lizzy, I am in pretty much your exact situation. Except I'm two years older. Like you, food is my trigger and fuel for my daydreams. Really the daydreaming, the overeating, the depression.... I just want it to stop.

[Skylar Grey]

Its like you read my mind. But it comforts me to know that im not alone in this. Still no progress here even with all this great advice everyones given me. I like the support but i think ive actually given up on myself. I too, badly want it to stop. Lemme know if you find anything that works for you because im pretty stumped right now.

Brighde said:

Lizzy, I am in pretty much your exact situation. Except I'm two years older. Like you, food is my trigger and fuel for my daydreams. Really the daydreaming, the overeating, the depression.... I just want it to stop.