MD and marriage

[Sam]

I'm married man and now for 2 weeks im suffering from daydreaming. In my dream I'm leaving with another woman and in a perfect hous perfect car going to vacations having sex and etc...
I touch myself whenever thinking about the sex. it effected my marriage and work no I can focus more but my marriage is in date my danger I donot know what to do, copletetly getting this out of my head. now the other world is not that fun and I want to com back to my reality. I look at my wife with hate I hate our dog and cat I hate everything, but im forcing myself to love them back.I cant stop it please help my wife knows about it and it is destroying her also cuz I show her mean faces and hate people around me. I take med for Bipolar disorder also

[M Hunter]

Hey Sam. Unfortunately I don't have much advice but I understand where you are coming from. I have been with my partner for 5 years and I love them so much. In many ways they are perfect but we have so many issues. The relationship is pretty unstable and in some ways unhealthy. I have a fantasy partner just like you and it's effecting my real relationship. My partner doesn't know but I am often very distant and on edge and this drives us apart. 

I feel I am forcing myself to love my partner at times, just like you. We are planning on getting a house soon and I'm having major worries about it.

I'm sorry I couldn't be of much help. I hope you find an answer.

[greyartist]

Do talk to your doctor about it soon. The meds could cause some of the problem. The coldness and anger towards the people in your life. Having read the book on daydreaming by Eric Klinger, he said daydreaming about sex is very normal. I think the important thing is to keep telling yourself that there is NO perfect person, NO perfect sex, NO perfect vacation, etc.  You can't expect real people to live up to a daydream image. Take time to count the good things in your life. I do understand what your going through, I was diagnosed with bipolar and have MD with much of the same issues you are having. I make myself look for something good to comment to my spouse about, they look nice or thank them for something they did. You have to let them know they are appreciated and loved. MD forces you to focus inward and it can isolate those around us. We have to try to fight that. 

But do talk to your doctor about it soon, you don't want to lose everything that's important to you.

[Sam]

My wife know about my daydreaming I didnt want to get over iy at the begening and I played her now it hard for me to get her to help me she tried very hard what can I do to decrease this and make it go away? Please let me know

[S K]

http://wildminds.ning.com/forum/topics/my-md-is-allllmost-gone-some...

this is a recent blog entry that might help.