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Hi, I was wondering if anyone has experienced any of the things they MDD about? Such as the dream job, dating the person you've mdd about, finally gaining confidence, excelling at school , traveling and other things life throws at us, etc. We MDD about our ideal life, but has anyone ever acted on their Dreams/MDD. It has been hard for me but when i look back over my life I have done many of the thing I dreamed about, BUT because I was ALWAYS MDDing, I didn’t enjoy them and I am mad at myself for that. I am working on enjoying the moment and not wishing it was better/MDD... Any thoughts..
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Permalink Reply by Cordellia Amethyste Rose on
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Well, my MD has made it impossible for me, personally, to live my deal life. It's been out of control for too long. I grew up in my fantasy world. It's been my main reality. However, I did have an epiphany while I was typing out the answers to some questions for the Eli Somer interview: there is one person I've "met" and had a relationship who is the exact embodiment of my main character's mother in my fantasy world. She's the only person who's ever given me the exact love my character receives in my fantasy world. I struggle and struggle, but she's never judged me. She gives nothing but wisdom, guidance, and pure love. She's Dr. Cynthia Schupak. I've never met her in person, as she lives across the country from me, but we've been in communication via email for years, and I couldn't be more grateful that I have her in my life. If she's even half as amazing in person as she is online then she's probably the most amazing person in the world.
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Permalink Reply by The1andonlyAbber on
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Yeah, I've heard about Dr. Cynthia Schupack. Who knows, she might be the one who finally gets everybody to take this disorder seriously. And my daydreams are all sci-fi themed, so no, I will never be able to make them happen in real life. Unless I'm suddenly able to change my species, give myself superpowers, and move to a world where there's intergalactic warfare and flying cars.
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Cordellia, even though you'll never be able to live your ideal life, you've still achieved a lot. You've started this website and have a successful YouTube channel. You've helped a lot of people with this disorder and raised awareness for it. And you're able to raise 2 cats (I know that from your YouTube videos :3). You're awesome! XD
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Permalink Reply by Luna on
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My daydreams from my childhood did come true, but not in the way that I wanted them to. I'd give anything for the dreams to have remained dreams. That old quote, I can't remember who said it, "Be careful what you wish for, because you just might get it." certainly applies to me.
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Permalink Reply by Rosethewolf on
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I wish my car could drive itself so I won't have to...but nooooooooooo
The1andonlyAbber said:Yeah, I've heard about Dr. Cynthia Schupack. Who knows, she might be the one who finally gets everybody to take this disorder seriously. And my daydreams are all sci-fi themed, so no, I will never be able to make them happen in real life. Unless I'm suddenly able to change my species, give myself superpowers, and move to a world where there's intergalactic warfare and flying cars.
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I've met my MC's partner three times. Obviously never dated her partner, but that's as close as I'm gonna get since her partner is a celebrity. I moved to where my MC moved to. I'd love to move where she was born but that isn't realistic. I want to change my name too, when I'm more in control of my life.
Otherwise, not really, but I do try to siphon her confidence. I try to keep my MC slightly around, even when I'm required to be present, just because of that confidence. And she is me anyway so that really isn't a huge step, she's just the inner me.
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Some not all. Like my job, certain things I have wanted in my life, certain characters from my dreams have come into fruition . I have been able to enjoy these moments when they have came to me and I realize how precious they are because I have been dreaming of them for so long, creating them in my mind. I am lucky I think to have been able to enjoy these moments. There was a time when my MD was so bad that these moments would have passed me but I have a better control on my MD now.
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Permalink Reply by Robert M. Laramee on
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Yes, I have let my daydreaming direct my life. When I reached my goal it did not bring the joy I expected. Some of it was very good but I feel I missed some real life opportunities. I am also trying to break out of my introverted ways that have held me back. I feel as though real people do not see me unless they are truly honest.
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Permalink Reply by Emma on
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I'm not a character in my story. It's a multigenerational thing about fictional people who do not resemble me or my family at all. I've been daydreaming it for decades, so it has gone through lots of changes in the storyline. There are some things that my characters go through that have nothing to do with me and also have no resemblance to anything I've ever done in real life. But when I think about my main character, yes he experiences things either that I have really done or that I wish I could do. So it's a combination of wish fulfillment and hobby I suppose. He's better at the things I do than I am, but I really do experience a lot of the things I daydream about (though not all). For example, my character is a good musician and I have never been able to play any instrument very well. On the other hand, my character has a happy marriage similar to mine and also does a lot of mountaineering which I also do. As for the second part of your question, usually when I'm actually doing the things I really enjoy, I don't MD very much and so I enjoy the moment. Problem is when I have down time or when I could be working on something, I waste time on the daydream. I know what you mean. All the hours I've put into the daydream, I probably could've learned to be a decent musician.
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What did you do, Tinkerbell, to get better control?
Tinkerbell said:Some not all. Like my job, certain things I have wanted in my life, certain characters from my dreams have come into fruition . I have been able to enjoy these moments when they have came to me and I realize how precious they are because I have been dreaming of them for so long, creating them in my mind. I am lucky I think to have been able to enjoy these moments. There was a time when my MD was so bad that these moments would have passed me but I have a better control on my MD now.
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