If you DD about real people, if you could see your characters, would that make you stop DD about them?

[Lisa Hancock]

I DD about real people. Sometimes they are made up people, but some are actual people, and the people that I DD about, I no longer see ( I live hundreds of miles away). I was wondering if I was to make a trip to "see"these people (not interact with them) if I would stop DD about them. When I lived in the same town as they do, I didn't have much interaction with them then, and I have no idea why they have invaded my thoughts as much as they do, but even though I like my storyline, sometimes it really bothers me that I DD about these people.....it's CRAZY. I have thought about making a trip just to look at them so I might stop DD about them.

I am married and my husband does not know about my MDD, but I do know of a way I can make myself be in this town without him suspecting why I would be there. I do travel and do concerts, so I could book one where I'm pretty sure at least one of the people would be.

Just wondering if this would help me stop.....any thoughts ????

[Zero]

I do this sometimes. When I was young I hardly interacted at all because of my excessive daydreaming and so never created a proper close bond between people at school. Although I don't have any intention of seeing them again I sometimes dream about showing them a more empowering figure with a higher status since at the time they saw me as quiet, shy and anti-social. I don't dream of interacting with them but rather showing them a better figure of myself from a distance if you get me. 

I personally wouldn't show myself off to them in reality as I aim to leave my past behind me and get busy moving on and meeting new people

[Iris]

So you want to get disillusioned by these people? If you really get the chance to meet them, I think it is possible - the real world is never as good as the daydreams. But I don't think it will help you to stop your daydreaming for good. Your mind will find other people to daydream about. This is how I daydream - if one daydream is too boring, I go to another one. It would be nice, if you tell us, whether you succeeded.