Has MD ever ruined a relationship?

[SecretSeraph]

Hi,
I'm new here... but I've have MD since I was  child. 

To be honest I just found out about it today, well that there was an actual name for it. It has always just been a part of me and I thought it was weird but it helped me deal with bad times growing up, and a lot of loneliness so I didn't really see it as a problem. Once I reached adult life it would come and go mostly being sparked off by being alone, or times of significant depression.

I always just thought of it as an imaginary friend type situation that I didn't really grow out of, I thought it was abnormal but it didn't really concern me. I'm now 25 and I decided to see if anyone else had similar and googled 'my fantasies control my life' and found this forum. 
I'm not a particularly good sleeper and after a recent bout of insomnia it has become difficult for me to get to sleep especially if someone else is in the bed. So recently I asked my boyfriend of two years to sleep in the spare room to see if that helped.

Now instead of sleeping I find myself wasting hours in my MD world and now I find myself even asking him to sleep in the other room just so I can spend time in my MD world. He is obviously upset that he has been pushed out of the bed and I can't even begin to imagine how he would feel if he knew the real reason I was asking him to sleep in the other room.

Being alone in bed has become another trigger for me to slip into the other world and I can't control it. I really don't want to ruin my relationship,but my MD world is taking over and I don't want to do anything but stay in bed so I can dream my day away even when I have things that need to be done. When I try to resist going to that place I get a pain in my chest the type when you lose someone close to you.

Has anyone else had problems with MD interfering with their love life? How did you deal with it?

[yari]

Well MD never interfered with anything because I have never been in a relationship to start with and almost 25 like you. There is really no alternative than to visit a professional if it is going this far for you, there's no way anyone can know or give a solution online and getting away with it , we are all probably in deep need of pills or chemicals, just therapy isn't enough...sorry I'm new here

[Lisa Hancock]

My last marriage was ended because of MD, but at the time, I had never heard of it and didn't realize it until I discovered this board and did some research on MD. I used to write things down, well, if you don't want a husband to know you have MD......writing things down is NOT the thing to do. He found my book and assumed I was having some elicit affair and from then on made my life a living h&!!, if you know what I mean. So, I don't write anymore, and I don't tell people in my life about my MD.

[M Hunter]

MD has caused issues in my relationship and we have nearly broken up countless times. When my partner found out I had strong feelings for a fictional person he said it was either the character or himself and made me choose then and there. Well I came pretty close to ending my life at that point. I was devastated and didn't know what to do. 
Now I don't tell him about people I have feelings for in my fictional world. I feel it's better that way for his sake and my own but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't worried about the future. 

[SecretSeraph]

Thank you for the responses, I really appreciate them., for now my plan is to resist my MD and if I happen to finding myself there to try and avoid the characters I am attached to. I can understand how writing is a bad idea but I have decided to make a blog regardless because I'm pretty much 90% sure he will never find it, it is mainly for now just to reassure myself that trying to put my MD in a box so to speak is the right thing. While I thought telling my partner about my MD wasn't really a good idea I never imagined the scenarios you both have described and now I am convinced that keeping it a secret is for the best.

[Chandra D Lewis]

My dreams have interfered with my relationship to my husband, but not in this way. When I remet Richi again, my dreams went through another major shift in setting, bringing new places and characters. One of the additions was an idealized version of him, by the name of Paucan. I love that one almost as much, both very honourable and observant to laws. Sometimes in situations, however, Richi has a completely different reaction than how I see Paucan reacting, and it comes as a slap to the face. I have to remind myself Richi is the real one, and he isn't precisely Paucan.

[Wish Upon A Wish]

It's kind of embarrassing but... I only had one relationship (that's not the part I care about) And I was fourteen and he was seventeen (I thought it wasn't that bad back then, but now I turned seventeen yesterday, and I've known for a while now that I was stupid... And no, I didn't lose my virginity to him. Or to anyone.) And, well, I didn't think I wasn't being a good girlfriend 'cause, you know, he almost always texted me first, organised the few actual 'dates' we had (go to the nearby park and hang out) and he was kinda clingy too, actually. The fact that I always daydreamed when I could, rather than text him and call him and stuff made me think I wasn't being a good girlfriend and to make it up to him (though I never told him that was why) I did do... more than I should have, and though I kind of regret it, it's also kind of just something else to learn from. Also, when he moved out of his Mum's to his Dad's (further away), we reduced contact a lot, and again, it was always him contacting me, and we, um, we basically just dropped out of contact. To be honest, we never actually officially broke up... if someone asks, I say I dated him 9 months 'cause that's when I last had contact with him but yeah.

I guess it's all something to learn from, though.