As long as I can remember, I've had this secret life that is all just a fantasy. I thought I was insane, I thought I had serious problems, but knowing that other people are the same way makes me feel so much better about it. The only person I have ever told is my cousin (who I am very close to and I tell everything to.)

I've been trying to stop for the last couple of years because it has gotten worse. I think it's because I do not like my real life at all. I'm 21, I'm over 200 pounds, I don't find myself very attractive, I don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend (I'm bisexual. I hope that doesn't bother anyone.), everyone around me is either having babies or getting married, I"m single, and living with my mother. I don't have a REAL life of my own and as much as I want my own life, I'm afraid to escape my "other" life. 

This is probably going to sound odd and I've only told one person about this but since everyone here is experiencing the same thing, I feel safe here. Anyways, I have a huge attraction to musicians and I have a crush on at least one person in each of my favorite bands. I don't know if any of you have ever added a famous person in your "other" life but that's what my other life is. A couple of years ago, I had a famous musician in my "other" life and I fell in love with him in that life. And then I ended up falling in love with him in real life which became a huge problem. I became extremely depressed because when I was forced to leave my "other" life and come back to my real life and he wasn't there, I couldn't handle it. And my real life was just so horrible. It got to the point that I didn't even want to live in my real life so that meant...death. I almost hurt myself. But I talked to my cousin about it one night because I thought getting all of this off my chest would help and it really did. Instead of making me feel like I was insane, he really talked to me about it and it made me feel so much better. He said that no matter what, you can't help how you feel about someone. Which is true.

Although I still have problems with this kind of thinking (it's mainly someone else now in my "other" life.) it's not as bad. I do get depressed about it sometimes because I so desperately wish my "other" life was my real life. The only thing I don't change is my real family (especially my parents because I love them so much.) But I do have a husband in this other life. And I have kids. And my age defers from day to day. In one of my "other" lives, I have cancer which I find odd because in my real life, I definitely DO NOT want cancer. I feel like these "other" lives live on their own in your mind, if that makes any sense.

I'm rambling. I'm just extremely excited that I found this place because once again, I'm not the only one. I know it can be a problem for some of us, but knowing that we're not alone makes it better.

I hope to meet people here and find a group that I can sincerely talk to. I'm a very sensitive person and I am very good at listening to people and caring for them. That's just the way I am. So if anyone needs anybody, just let me know. I'll be there.

Thanks to the amazing woman who made this site. I saw it on Yahoo! today and I just couldn't believe this was real. Thank you. <3

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hi.  I am a lesbian. I hope that makes you feel more comfortable being here. I just joined today too and am  little scared of 'coming out'. Although that seems weird to say, because in a way we are 'coming out' of the fantasy/day dream closet.  I also saw the article on Yahoo.


I am in a relationship, and I find that my fantasy life interferes with my real relationship. Meaning we've grown apart, as I'd rather be in my fantasy relationship.  I dont really know why I fantasize, I guess because of my desire to be more than I am. I have always done it for as long as I can remember.   I do my other worlds usually based on video game worlds or tv worlds.

hope we both can find what we are looking for at this place.  just knowing there were others that do what I do was like a major wow moment in my life. i've never voiced this part of me before ever..to anyone..until tonight

welcome. :)

Ziggy, I don't dd about musicians but do actors. I tend to dd about a particular tv show and then put myself in that world.

I know exactly what you mean regarding the celebrity thing. In my other life, I am famous and whatever celebrity I tend to have a crush on at any point in time is my significant other in my DD. I tend to put myself as an additional character in TV shows/movies I like or in bands I admire. I'm trying to move past that part of the DD by making my own art instead of infringing on someone else's. 

Like you, I go into my DD because I like my alternate self better. I don't want to "cure" myself, because I feel like I need that other me to maintain my self-esteem and not drown in self-loathing.

I totally understand the 'celebrity' thing. That has always been part of mine, too. Always - actors, singers, musicians, rock stars, athletes...

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