Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
I'm new to this forum and I wasn't sure I wanted to share something right away but there's something that I wanted to add that may hopefully help someone - one thing I don't see on anyone's posts - although maybe I'm not going back far enough?
And that is that, for me, my addiction to my imaginary life happened because, as a child, I really came to hate myself. I hated who I was.
I remember when I was very little I used to have more normal fantasies, about growing up to become a big strong man etc etc - but at a certain point it changed. I started to fantasize about being a different kid, someone who looked nothing like me. And it went on from there. I would go to bed at night and feverishly invest all of my mental energy in being that alternate me.
What's really helped me to put this imaginary life stuff behind me and in perspective is psychotherapy - to understand why I have hated and blamed myself so much.
Once I started to do that, it put this old need to not be me in a clearer perspective, so I can understand the roots of it.