Synchronicity/The middle of Image Three

When trying to be social with MD, it's easy to imagine a chess game you constantly lose at. If I say this, they'll think/say that.  There's no point in saying this, it's too obvious/useless.  To further the analogy, I have a horrible time beginning the game ; there's just too many damn possibilities, none of which lead to an obvious place.  If I can make it past the awkward start, I have a pretty good time with less pieces on the board.  Strategies become more defined, aspects less abstract. All my MDness comes in handy. But! There are more handicaps. One; in conversations,I see pieces the other person doesn't. My made up world, even if it's based around reality, is still for the most part invisible to others. Two; I start playing without an opponent! Also known as babbling.

Have your game and eat it too


I can imagine possible replies so well, they might as well have been said before I said anything. Maybe it's time I stop viewing things as a chess game. (Or stop self-editing myself to sound witty) Or, if communication is a game, then your "opponent" is actually on your side! People want to be involved in exciting conversation. When you can tap into what gets the other person going, it really does start feeling like a game. Albiet, one where everyone's winning. That's one of the reasons I love improv so much. It turns the whole act of communication ~ a very abstract, culturally and social group-specific mess, and gives it rules. Absoluteness. Kind of like Dungeons and Dragons or Magic : The Gathering (which I strongly suggest anyone with MD try once or twice. Although, don't flaunt it around everywhere obviously)

Who needs subtlety when you're this awesome though?

 

It's not a bad idea to play out conversation before it happens, but keep these things in mind ~ you want to imagine a GOOD outcome, to give yourself confidence. There's all sorts of little hints and tricks, but. In the end I just like to imagine a Venn Diagram with who i'm conversating with. Syncing up your mental reality with thiers. That requires REALLY listening. You'd be surprized how often awkwardness is a result of simply under-apreciating what the other person is saying. Is all the hogwash about thier cat's mating habits boring you to tears? No harm in steering it towards your side of the Venn thingie.

127 hours in photoshop


Oh! Movies , music and art are REALLY easy to talk about. You're pretty much talking about someone elses daydreams they bothered re-enacting. When in doubt, consume more of it! Or, make your own. If the people around you aren't into that, it's not that hard to find those who are. In fact, you might think you're being anti-social when it's just that everyone you know is reeaaallly boring. Hang out around galleries, open mics. Trust me. Finding people with similar interests is way easier than you think.

 

Oh! And actually playing chess to start a conversation is a fantastic idea. It ties up our self-destructive over-thinking into something productive, then frees up our unconscious to go on and actually just ENJOY talking.

Suggesting you play chess with someone who doesn't know how = they think you're classy!

Suggesting you play chess with someone who will beat you senseless = they enjoy you bringing it up.

 

There's a million win-win scenarios out there to day dream about then bring into reality. Train your mind to find them.
Just, don't panic, you know?

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Comment by Story_Teller on March 13, 2011 at 11:33am
"127 hours in photoshop"  LOL.  Love it.

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