SELF CONTROLE AND CONCENTRATION

[dream lover]

All of us MDs seem to face multiple problems,according to all the posts i have read,i would say consentrating on something is hard for all of us.like all the creative people out there,we are not disciplined either.i searched and didnt found any posts on these,so i am starting one.please guys and girls :) answer these questions.if you have any info on these please share.
1.how do you consentrate on boring works?
2.how do you concentrate when you have to study something you dont like and find it boring?
3.do you know how to keep that energy boost we get sometimes? Those rare moments when we feel flesh and blood.
4.how do you avoid triggers?like movies,books,songs etc etc. when you really like them.
5.how do you stay patient when you feel like trying to stop DD is not going to help you?
6.how do you get up from bed in the morning when you have less controle over yourself and daydreaming?
7.how do you swallow your anger when someone dear shouts at you for not being normal?of course you cant tell them your MD.
8.what do you do when you get tired from constantly fighting DDing ?
9.what do you do when you try to tell someone about it and they completely ignore it?
10.How do you sleep without daydreaming?
If you have any other questions post it in comments.

[Robin]

1. The best thing for me is to do the work a little at a time, like work hard for 10-20 minutes, switch to something else for 10 min, then come back, until it's done. It's hard to do boring stuff and not DD at the same time, since boredom is a big trigger for me. Also, caffeine helps with everything!

2. Same as above. 

3. Do you mean when we feel excited from DDing, or when we feel focused from enjoying real life? I try not to DD anymore, and I have to make a pretty big effort to enjoy moments in life like this. Try to enjoy them while you can, let your friends, if they're around, know that you're in a good mood, and tell yourself that these moments will come more.

4. It's hard. Almost everything I like to do by myself is a trigger. Keep yourself away from good books and music and stuff while you have other things to do, and maybe give yourself a small window of time to enjoy those things on the weekend. Keep telling yourself when you get the urge to listen to music or whatever that it's not good for you. Really, it's pretty hard, but you can do it.

5. Anyone trying to stop an addiction feels the same way a lot of the time. Try your best not to go back to DDing when you feel like this, because it's not true. You're trying to fight DDing for a reason, because you KNOW that you want to stop. When you're feeling frustrated and disheartened, try to distract yourself from the feeling because after a while, you'll stop feeling like that. If you go back to DDing because of a bad mood, you'll only feel kinda guilty later.

6. I find that mornings are the hardest time not to DD, so cut yourself some slack if you have a much harder time and can't control it right when you get up. Eventually, it will get easier. Just try to gradually put it back in the box or whatever you do for the rest of the day.

7. I try to own not being normal. I know that I'm not, and I'm proud of it. I'm sure that you're a pretty cool person to get to know, and it's not your fault that you have a lot of stuff to deal with right now. Own your abnormalness! Of course, if it's family or a best friend who you really care about, telling them about your MD is an option. it can really help to have someone who knows about it and who you can talk to. It's really hard to tell people something so personal when you're used to staying comfortably in your own head, but once you start talking it's much easier. believe me!

8. You're trying to do something really hard, and that is change the way that your brain works, along with stopping an addiction to DDing. Don't be too hard on yourself when you're feeling frustrated and exhausted. Stick with it, and maybe try and do something fun. Really, your brain feeling "tired" is all about how much energy you have at that second. If you're really mentally exhausted, try meditation, or maybe even take a 10 minute "break" and whip out the music and DD. That's probably not the best way, but it does help recharge you if you're desperate. Just make sure not to get carried away.

9. Try to tell them again. Sometimes when you say something the first time, it doesn't come out making as much sense or sounding as important as it did when you thought about telling them. Happened the first time I went to a therapist.

10. I still have trouble with that, so no clue.

Good luck!

[dream lover]

@elude my fantasies
@wish upon a wish
@hermis united
thank you all for sharing. These are helpfull.
@elude my fantasies..... Que. Number 5 meant that when you want to daydream but you are also trying to stop daydreaming.. How do you keep patience and dont Daydream. For example.....i saw "the immortals a few days ago....n i was dissapointed how the story turned out(the story really sucked,casting was bad too,how can zeus look younger than athena!!!!!!!!).so i felt an urge to daydream about it n make a new storyline...but i stopped daydreaming consciously so i didnt daydream about it.later i felt sad cause i still daydream subconsciously,it felt like a fruitless effort.but i know i have to stay patient if i wanna get daydreaming under controle. The question was like"how to be more patient?".....i'm sorry for my wording,i dont get to use english in conversations,so i am not good at it.

[Wish Upon A Wish]

1. I don't. Usually I'll avoid doing it, and then I'll get some done, a very little bit, then a very little bit ten minutes later... Or just say, "screw this" and not do it.

2. I don't study if I'm not interested.

3. Noope.

4. My triggers are mainly boredom, or wanting to DD over doing something else that may not be boring.

5. I don't really try hard to stop, I just try to get things done in the time I have. But don't stay patient. Kick a door frame. Not the wall, walls break easily. Door frames are strong.

6. Ohh... Umm... I know if I'm late, I'll jump out of bed and rush to get out the door, but it's unpleasant. Usually I wake around seven, and get up between seven thirty and seven forty-five (leaving about eight fifteen) So I got a half hour (to an hour) of DDing time before I get up, though sometimes it's a bit hard still.

7.People don't shout at me, I think most people think I'm normal, albeit kinda well-behaved and quiet. And people do know, so yeah. This doesn't really apply, lucky me.

8. I don't constantly fight it. I think, if you just try to get done what you need to, and give yourself time to DD, without setting one hour here, a half there, you won't really get tired.

9. My sister ignored it. My friend could confirm, she was there too. I told her I have a disorder called maladaptive daydreaming, and she just said "Okay." and went on talking about whatever she wanted to talk about. We've never spoken about it since or anything, I don't know she even remembers but screw it. I don't care and though maybe I could, there's no reason to. So I don't.

10. I (sometimes) use Artemis Deep Sleep tea, it seems to help, and so I go to bed and DD until I'm asleep. Sometimes I don't use it when I really want to DD, so I'm awake an hour or so longer but yeah. I can just lie and DD, I don't have to move about. 

Also, adding to what Hermits United said, personally, I find (if I have a DD that just keeps going round and round and round) If I write it down, it sort of gets it out (which can sometimes be annoying 'cause then I don't know what to DD about, but that's when I can get things done too.) So if just letting yourself DD for a bit of time doesn't help, then try writing it down.

[Hermits United]

I think in terms of concentration Tarso's right. Set a schedule, say you will achieve a certain amount of things today and work out how you will achieve this. Experts say that you should study for no more than 50 minutes at a time and take at least 10 minute breaks in between. If I have a daydream while studying that's particularly insistent I'll give myself a set amount of time, maybe two minutes, to get it out of my system and then continue. Also when you get stuff done you feel really good about yourself so that helps to keep you motivated. I also use books and tv and stuff for rewards when I'm done. 

[dream lover]

@tarso,your doing great,bravo.
@greyartist,you and i seem to have much in common...lol. Difference is, i aint gonna stop untill i get my DD under controle.......
@both of you,thanks for sharing.... Cause everytime i read something in the blog,i get more energy to fight. This cite is like my battery charger ..... :)

[taffle]

1. It's a struggle. I try to study for 20-30 min then take a 10 min break then repeat. It helps to drink chocolate, coffee, or a sugary drink before studying. I keep a schedule of what I will do during the day and stick with it.

2. See #1.

3. Not sure how to keep energy boost

4. I listen to music late at night after I'm done with my schoolwork. I also watch tv for about 30 minutes max each day. I limit music and tv to certain times of the day and for certain amounts of time.

5. I reward myself with DD at the end of the day after I did all my schoolwork and studying. It helps motivate me, so I stay patient.

6. I force myself to get up at almost the same time everyday. I follow my schedule strictly, for the most part.

7. I vent my anger on forum online.

8. I don't try to fight it anymore. I've accepted myself and my DD.

9. Don't mention it again.

10. I don't. Sleeping is when I get the chance to DD, the time when I reward myself for my day's hard labor.

[greyartist]

I struggle with them all. I haven't found any way to do those things.

1. I don't, other then very short pieces of time. I do a little work, fight DDing, lose the battle. repeat.

2. see #1

3. never get an energy boost

4. I don't have triggers, the DDs are constant, nothing starts them, they are always running

5. trying to stop is fruitless, can not stay patient, lots of flustration

6. I get up late, simply dragging myself out just so I won't be late for work

7. If someone shouted at me I would leave, shut myself in a different room. That is how I deal with stress, I do not engage in the argument, not worth my time.

8. I don't do anything, I am just tired. No solution.

9. Never bring it up again

10. I don't