How it makes you feel?

[Asta]

The reason why I began to search my condition was that one day I felt dissapointed in my real life. Suddenly, I felt pity of myself because I would never be as successful, as beautiful or charming as I was in my dreams. Then I stopped and realized that I am dreaming my time away instead of making those dreams happen. Instead of doing something which would let me, for example, improve at my work or make me feel beautiful, I just dreamed of time that I am already all of that.

I have never looked at my daydreaming seriously and never thought it could be harmful until it made me feel bad. 

I've tried to overthink my previous daydreaming emotions. As you can see, my daydreams are basically about successful version of me or romance.

Good emotions:

• Inspired - I am feeling really excited after I've made some kind of achievement in reality and after that I've imagined how wonderfully it could affect me. For example, I've been complimented in my job, or gave a raise, so I dreamed how successful I could become and it kept me forward to keep improving
• Proud - also related to real achievements and imagination of myself successful.
• Happy - of course, it's making me happy seeing me all glowing in my dreams.

Bad emotions:

• Dissapointed - it is the most common emotion when daydreaming ends and I am realizing that is not really my life and it is really doubtful it could even become like that.
• Distant with my husband - after dreaming of perfect romance with grand romantic gestures, sacrifice and endless love with imaginary boyfriends (for example, a guy I just met and felt sympathy, or a famous singer that I really like) I am feeling distant from my real husband. We are both young and just recently married, and I don't want to feel this way. It is obvious that real man would never perfect as in my dreams...
• Low-self confidence - also really common, when I realize that I am not even close as pretty as I am in my daydreams.

Okay, that's all that have popped in my mind right now. 

Please, share with me, how your daydreaming makes you feel.

[Tia Joseph]

this sounds like me. i daydream about being successful/being the best version of me or of romance. i guess the bad thing i assumed is that i figured once i get married and have kids (i'm single) the daydreaming would subside more with family. i guess not...dumb assumption on my part. 

[Alta Morden]

hum, just adding another thought, about the relationship with your husband.  For me that proved a real negative.  Mind you it was he who ended the marriage, and there were lots of other problems but I suspect my fluctuating emotional availability, due to DD' ing, was a chunk of the problem.

[Alta Morden]

The worst aspect of daydreaming for me is that it sometimes generates anger and impatience towards my real life.  I am quite aware that I control my dream world so of course things work out as I wish and that in the real world all kinds of other people, forces and events control things and I have to trim my sails to steer in those currents.  This causes frustration especially if I have been over-doing the DDs.

Positive:  well, it keeps me amused and interested in periods when I might be bored because I have to complete boring tasks.  Gives me little bursts of energy when the DD is going well.

[Juno Jones]

I have never posted before, but this sounds a lot like me. I've been reading on here for a long time and am so afraid of someone finding out. A few years ago I searched and found out there was a name for it. I kept thinking that if I didn't log on here, it wasn't really true. 

What you describe about emotions is a good way of putting it. Now that my children are grown and my husband and I are alone it has gotten even harder to hide the emotional changes. It has also become more depressing. When I was young like you, I didn't really think about the emotional part. I was busy with work and kids. I also kept thinking that this would eventually stop. (the daydreaming) 

Now I am having a huge battle with those same emotions that you describe. I want to learn to accept this and move toward a "real" future, not just a daydreaming one. 

Thank you

[Marie]

Hi, I feel the same!

Daydreaming make me feel more alive than reality! I am 100 times better in my daydream! When I come back to reality, I always feel disappoint and sad! I feel anger too, because I really want to be what I was in my DD, I don't want to be the real-me. I don't have a partner so I can't say anything about it, but I do feel bitter about men in real life because there is no way they can't compare to the men I dream about.  

It's not easy trying to deal with both daydreams and reality. Sometimes, I'm not even sure who I really am! Feel free to talk, if you wanna!! ^^'