A Sudden Realization

[Asta]

I am not a native English speaker, so excuse me for my mistakes.

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Why I named this post a sudden realization?

Because I clearly realized my problem only yesterday. I always knew that it is something strange about me, but I thought that maybe it is my brain's unique way to process things.

In short, after a week I was hung up on my last fantasy, yesterday I googled a simple phrase "Living in my head". I was just feeling down and searched for reasons why I live a life so fascinating in my head and life so completely normal and boring for real. I searched for reasons why I could spend hours on creating various scenarios in my head but I do completely nothing to create them in real life.

And then I found out a term "Maladaptive day dreaming". I have read all the descriptions I could find and it all summed up for me. I admit it, now I am scared that it could be related to some kind of disorder or illness. All the time I thought that I just have a vivid imagination. But when taking all together, a repetitive movements (I usually sit on the couch and sway back and forth) always listening to music alone and that feeling that my dreams are so much better than my real life...(it all started at childhood).

I don't really know anymore how to feel about myself, I am scared that this is not normal but in the other hand I am scared to let it go and stay forever in my boring life.

Now I am already 24 years old and recently married, so maybe it is time to start understanding myself before it really hurt my relationship. I feel that writing it all down helps me to calm that burning sense left inside me after returning to reality. So I will keep posting whenever I feel that way and tell you what it bothering me. I hope for your support!

[Juno Jones]

I'm happy that you found out while you are still young. Keep reading. There are years of posts and they help a lot.

[Roel]

Welcome to Wildminds :)

Discovering you are not the only one who is so "weird" might be a good thing, but the thought of it being a dissorder can indeed be scary :/

I asure you that nothing has changed and you are still the same person as before, even if you know now what is wrong with you. So no worries :) everything will be alright.

I hope I can help you understanding what Maladaptive Daydreaming is, and how it can be helped. But I have to admit; honestly I have no clue how to stop it/ live with it in the most harmless way. But a lot of other people on this site can help you with that ;) The realisation is a good start haha

Talk about your experiences as much as you want, you have my support and many others are willing to help you :D

-Roel